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Original poster

AIBU or has everyone just became so NASTY?

35 replies

Cordial11 · 25/03/2020 07:33

I had ran out of toilet paper and finally found some at a petrol station which had 5 crates midday, pack of 20s!!!!

Posted in my local fb page, thinking I was helping people struggling that can't arrive at shops first thing in the morning but just received loads of abuse for encouraging panic buying??!!

I just wanted to help but won't bother again as My post was taking so wrongly! There was a limit for one pack, noone could turn up and buy them all. One woman at the counter too so no multiple tills to go to. It's actually really upset me Sad

I hate how people have turned in this situation, I know people are stressed but it's so sad.

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Zombiemum1946 · 25/03/2020 07:40

A colleague of my husband went to her local butcher and received verbal abuse for being out. Due to panic buying she had been unable to get food for her kids. She's a teacher doing online lessons for kids. With all sorts of complications in getting everything Up and running and monitoring vulnerable kids. So you're not alone and I think it should be made very public what the consequences of panic buying has been for other people.

doodlyfiddly · 25/03/2020 07:40

I understand you were only trying to be helpful. Unfortunately, some people do take their worries and frustrations out on other people. Just try to feel sorry for someone who can't see the good in others, rather than take it to heart. Some people can't help themselves but to have a dig, normally online as it takes no courage.

I would hope, with lockdown and rations, that stocks will level out for all. I even managed to get loo roll with my Tesco delivery yesterday.

Look after yourself.

Original poster
Cordial11 · 25/03/2020 07:42

I am not in the UK, not on full lockdown but hadn't been able to get any paper for a whole month. Really just wanted to help others as there was multiple pallettes. I think panic buyers are fully stocked now surely and just us normal people left with nothing Sad

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clarepetal · 25/03/2020 07:42

You were being considerate, people were being twats. Rise above it as your intentions were right, they can nob off xx

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Cordial11 · 25/03/2020 07:46

Thank you! Feel better now!

I thought i'd have loved to see that post if I was out rather then have to go to multiple places with none and risk more exposure!

When will normality resume Sad

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 25/03/2020 07:50

IMO it’s a case of some people’s uber-bossy inner head girl (or boy) coming out - they just enjoy feeling super-virtuous and ticking other people off or preaching/ sermonising, whether face to face or online. There’s plenty of online preaching ATM, as if they think they’re the only ones doing anything right.
But I suspect that the sort of people who are going to ignore rules or sensible advice, will do it anyway.

HollyBollyBooBoo · 25/03/2020 07:52

Yep, really nasty. Friends who are pharmacists and work in retail are telling me about being yelled at, insulted even spat out. How disgusting is that.

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Cordial11 · 25/03/2020 08:09

I just hate how it's brought the worse out in people instead of pulling together Sad

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barnet · 25/03/2020 08:16

To put a different spin on it, where I am it has brought out the best in people. People are helping out, a group of young Syrians are delivering shopping to people in isolation, neighbours are checking each other are ok. Maybe it is because it’s a generally stable country(Scandi)

Zhuleva · 25/03/2020 08:26

This whole situation has given the sanctimonious among us the most amazing set of reasons to bleat on to others.

Heatherjayne1972 · 25/03/2020 08:29

Around here there’s been so much nastiness on fb you can’t post that xx shop has loo roll/ calpol./ tins etc
You meant well op. But people are nasty

Jennifer2r · 25/03/2020 08:30

When people are panic buying or judging or being sanctimonious or ignoring the rules.

It's usually fear.

Just like in 'normal life' when people are being judgey or rude, it's usually some unhappiness or insecurity with themselves. Happy healthy people don't behave like that.

ChicChicChicChiclana · 25/03/2020 08:34

Agree with you OP. I am sick to death of the raging and calling people idiots and morons. I stay in some FB groups because they are helpful to me (local info etc) but honestly I wish I could hide 99% of the posts.

There is no point being angry. Just none. Sharing screaming posts about staying indoors is not going to make 1 single person change their behaviour. If you personally know someone who is taking risks or risking other people's health, then have a serious word with them.

Otherwise, quit with the virtue-signalling scattergun approach.

PontiacBandit · 25/03/2020 08:37

#bekind lasted a couple of weeks. Now its #beadick

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Cordial11 · 25/03/2020 08:51

What is also annoying is the shop was in a wealthy area, near my work (last day in office today) coincidence I think not!

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Totalfangoolie · 25/03/2020 08:54

I think it’s extraordinary how quickly people are turning on each other

Pishposhpashy · 25/03/2020 08:54

Yanbu. People are using this an excuse to be complete cocks to others and frankly MN is one of the worst places for it.

DrFoxtrot · 25/03/2020 09:14

I completely agree with PP that people are becoming preachy and hysterical and MN is one of the worst places right now for this. It must be fear. I'm sick of the 'what makes you so special' posts when posters are asking legitimate questions about lockdown rules and others think they are looking to break the rules.

You did a nice thing OP and I would have been happy to see your post if I couldn't get toilet roll.

I'm starting to think that a lot of those who are jumping down other people's throats are those that were merrily meeting up with others last week and thinking advice didn't apply to them...and now they're shitting themselves.

The80sweregreat · 25/03/2020 09:16

Try being a nurse: my sons g/f said the abuse from the public is non stop atm.
I'm ashamed to be part of the human race at the moment. :(

Fluffymulletstyle · 25/03/2020 10:25

People are scared and going into fight or flight mode. Some people are hysterical and panic buying, others in denial. We act differently when stressed.

I've seen the best and worst of humanity in the last few weeks.

I am getting a bit sick of the virtuous ' I've not left my house in 10days' posts to people who are following the rules set. Again, they are scared though....

SnakePlant · 25/03/2020 10:29

Stress and fear show people’s true nature. You really get to know someone at times like this. There are those who lash out and are on a permanently short fuse and the ones who are kind and appreciative. It’s sad when an act of kindness gets a nasty reaction.

bananaskinsnomnom · 25/03/2020 10:31

I don’t think you did anything wrong op. You were trying to help people. There’s nothing wrong with that. I messaged friends when I came across paracetamol and Calpol!

PlomBear · 25/03/2020 10:32

Yep and all the nasty posts on here getting off on the drama. Happy to be staying at home and avoiding people. God, I hate people.

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Cordial11 · 25/03/2020 10:34

Exactly @bananaskinsnomnom I posted as I would text a friend etc! Everyones desperate for a certain item, standing in the shops crying out . There were 5 huge crates I wanted to share as not many people would he in that area at a petrol station of all places!

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LegoBloodyHurts · 25/03/2020 10:34

Don’t let it upset you. This virus has certainly brought out the inner twat in many people.

Well done on finding toilet rolls, by the way!! None around here, I fear I will have to resort to buying the Daily Mail Grin

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