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Nasty Facebook comment, upset for frontline worker

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Frontlineson · 24/03/2020 19:51

So my son (see previous post) is a frontline (key) worker, it's tough, he is tired, says the wards are "harrowing", that the general public have "no idea about CV.

So on the local FB page someone said that lots of teens in the local park, no ideas as i have been out today as no need too. Another local posted "I bet they are key workers children", I objected and said you've no idea about them being key workers children, my son is a key worker and him telling us what's going on makes us very very careful.

She then went on to say, yeah but that's a hospital worker and I bet they're teachers or ta's children, again I objected and said you have no idea!

We have a very unusual surname and she then said "I was at primary school with your son, I could say a few things on here about you" you're ex is a fireman (hypothetical) which she got the job right but we are still married and named our son.

To me this is irrelevant and has really upset me, I was just saying don't blame the people that have to currently work as they're risking their lives for others. They're coming into contact with lots of children etc so others can work.

AIBU to report her to group admin?

OP posts:
paperandfireworks · 24/03/2020 19:54

Yabu to engage with facebook trolls. Not worth your time.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 24/03/2020 19:54

You can report her, but I don’t know if they’d take it down. Maybe leave it up there so people can see how unpleasant she is.

HeartyGreenSalad · 24/03/2020 19:55

Block her, she is just being a twat. Honestly you don't need extra stress right now, she is only embassing herself
Massive thanks to your son and his colleagues

RainbowFlowers · 24/03/2020 19:56

The person sounds like a judgemental, inappropriate, key board warrior. I know it's easier said than done but try not to take what they have said personally. And know that they are only one person, not everyone thinks like that.

Yeah report them if you feel it will give you some closure on it. Then try to accept your feelings (its OK to feel hurt) and move on.

FlaskMaster · 24/03/2020 19:58

Sounds like school. You both need to grow up, you can't let twats upset you. She hasn't even said anything nasty, she's just said "I could say something nasty". She's being a twat and embarrassing herself. Yanbu to report to admin, but yabu to be upset or to give her any headspace at all.

GladAllOver · 24/03/2020 20:00

Stories like this remind me again how good it is to be free of Facebook.

Iooselipssinkships · 24/03/2020 20:00

Well she lost by resorting to a personal attack. Tell the silly cow you'll cough in her face...

Or just disengage and be the bigger person. I'm sure the admin will come across it eventually and do what they feel is necessary.

SlipSlidin · 24/03/2020 20:06

I agree with pp, you’ve got to take some responsibility for even engaging with her.

Original poster
Frontlineson · 24/03/2020 20:08

@SlipSlidin what for saying you can't blame key workers children? I'd do it again! Shocking assumption.

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SlipSlidin · 24/03/2020 20:12

You just sound like you’re desperate to argue with someone, if people are going to post crap on fb you’re hardly going to change that, you’re completely deluded if you believe it, grow up and stop engaging with unpleasant people on social media, you’ll be much happier I can guarantee it.

playthestation · 24/03/2020 20:12

So on the local FB page someone said that lots of teens in the local park, no ideas as i have been out today as no need too. Another local posted "I bet they are key workers children",

I said that very thing in a Mumsnet thread earlier today. It's true, some of them will be keyworkers teenagers, hence being out - their parents are at work.

It's no reflection on your son. But it's a fact that some teens will be out because no one is there to stop them.

TheFairyCaravan · 24/03/2020 20:15

It sounds like you need to grow up.

My son is a nurse in A&E. He tells me how grim it is, I'm worried sick about him, especially as he's asthmatic, but I don't really know how bad it can be and I hope never to know. Why are you even arguing on Fb? It's ridiculous. Get a grip of yourself, fgs, none of this is necessary.

Yogawoogie · 24/03/2020 20:21

Ignore her op. You were right but you’ve probably made her day by responding. Leave her to it.

Samtsirch · 24/03/2020 20:22

OP
I have found that some people are so frustrated and angry or plain and simply bored due to our our current situation that are doing anything they can think of to cause drama or get a reaction from others in any way they can, regardless of the hurt they cause.
Report to the relevant authorities if you can but please don’t feel that their words are gospel truth or have any relevance to the reality of your family’s life.
Don’t give them your valuable time or energy. You evidently have people in your life who are far more deserving of it.

Permissionimpossible · 24/03/2020 20:31

AIBU to report her to group admin?
Yes yabu, just block and ignore
Facebook is the pits and if you are getting upset by it maybe it’s not for you

RB68 · 24/03/2020 20:31

just stay out of the discussions, block her and leave it at that. Walk away - she is showing her true colours

Winterlife · 24/03/2020 20:32

Some people are dumb. You probably don’t interact with stupid people on a day to day basis, but you can’t avoid them if you interact with others online.

implantsandaDyson · 24/03/2020 20:33

Why are you arguing with a stranger on behalf of your grown up son? She's being a dick and her last comment was unnecessary and desperately petty but it's the internet and its FB - surely its not a surprise that people aren't all in agreement, that everyone doesn't express themselves in the same way and that yes there is a possibility that some of the teens are the kids of key workers.

Just because some kids are the children of key workers doesn't mean that they can't do anything wrong or misguided.

Cherrysoup · 24/03/2020 20:35

It’s very weird of her to blame keyworker’s kids when they’re the ones allowed to go to school. Just block her, she’s an idiot.

playthestation · 24/03/2020 20:36

It’s very weird of her to blame keyworker’s kids when they’re the ones allowed to go to school.

It's not blame though, it's just a fact. No one is sending teenagers to school unless they have SEN and networker parents. Lots of teens will go out because the parents are not there to stop them. I don't see what's offensive about that?

implantsandaDyson · 24/03/2020 20:38

My kids secondary school is only opening for the those that are in the first 3 years, so 14+ aren't in.

CuppaZa · 24/03/2020 20:42

If you go about arguing on FB then you have to be able to take it I’m afraid.

GrouchoMrx · 24/03/2020 20:48

Hint: Stop looking for arguments on Facebook.

Even if the UK was down to its very last twat, it is guaranteed that the twat would be on Facebook.

QuacksInTheDark · 24/03/2020 20:49

You only lower yourself when you engage with Facebook twats. She’s not worth your time. Block her and move on.

OlaEliza · 24/03/2020 20:58

YABVU

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