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AIBU?

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Barbecue for birthday.

35 replies

Daddinit · 23/03/2020 20:27

Ok, single dad here, probably over thinking things, so here I am. I'll keep it short and sweet. Me and the ex split up years ago, our son lives with me and it's his birthday in about a fortnight. She's thinking of a barbecue, but that's not the problem. She's inviting a bunch of her friends, mostly with kids, and making a little party sort of thing. But here's me, bit geeky, bit nerdy, in the middle of a viral pandemic, wondering if it's wrong of me to say no to the occasion. I don't want to, it is his birthday. But this covid-19 is world wide, we're advised to socially distant ourselves, and I really don't think it's a good idea. Tbh, I think it's a bit idiotic. Don't know who the kids have been around, and some people would still take their kids even if they're poorly. Am I being unreasonable.

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Itsmybirthdaytoday20 · 23/03/2020 20:29

It’s a flat out no at this stage.

VideographybyLouBloom · 23/03/2020 20:30

Definite no!

n00bMaster69 · 23/03/2020 20:30

YANBU.l

HeddaGarbled · 23/03/2020 20:30

She’s out of her mind!

MinnieMountain · 23/03/2020 20:31

Don't worry OP. In about 5 minutes' time we'll all be told we can't go anywhere.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 23/03/2020 20:31

No no no! Say you’ll hold a belated birthday in the summer.
Who would come anyway- or is everyone in this inner circle utterly oblivious ?!

BuzzingtheBee · 23/03/2020 20:33

Nope! Its a no go...

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 23/03/2020 20:33

She IBVU!!
Wtf is she thinking having a party?

SewItGoes · 23/03/2020 20:33

I wouldn't. If your son even wants a BBQ party, I'd tell him you'll have it when things settle down and it's safe. He can still have a party, just delayed a bit.

OoohTheStatsDontLie · 23/03/2020 20:37

I doubt anyone would come. All parties and socialising that I've been involved with has been cancelled over the last few weeks

isseywith4vampirecats · 23/03/2020 20:40

Boris has just said police will get involved in gatherings over two people who don't live in the same house so a hyperthetical question now the government has cracked down at last

DianaT1969 · 23/03/2020 20:41

She's an idiot.

ButterflyBitch · 23/03/2020 20:43

Did you just watch Boris’s announcement? She won’t be allowed to do it anyway.

iamjellybean · 23/03/2020 21:27

She's one of the people who have led to this decision being made by the government.

JorisBonson · 23/03/2020 21:29

Oh come on. Seriously?

Selfish and downright stupid.

bridgetreilly · 23/03/2020 22:14

Oh, wait, did I miss the bit where it's fine to have social gatherings so long as it's your birthday?

NO IT BLOODY ISN'T.

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 23/03/2020 22:18

no wonder she is your ex - she sounds bonkers

NotStayingIn · 23/03/2020 22:23

She’s an idiot. Let’s hope the people she invites aren’t as stupid as her and will not turn up.

Shouldershrugger · 23/03/2020 22:28

Hope you and your ex have enough money to cover the penalty!! I dont normally snap. BUT! Why are you even asking? People are dying! Dying! And you're worried about being the bad guy. In case its not clear, cancel the bbq! I don't care if I get shit from anyone on here for my outburst. But seriously

Darbs76 · 23/03/2020 22:35

I’m pretty sure they’d all cancel anyway. The neighbours will report her - guaranteed. The police will come. She needs to start taking this seriously. It’s my DD’s birthday on Saturday but sadly we can’t celebrate. She understands. She will be 12

HowManyToes · 23/03/2020 22:35

No. Obviously.

cabbageking · 23/03/2020 22:40

Have the party. Let them all catch it and give it to their loved ones who then die. They will die alone as you can't be with them to comfort them.

This attitude is why we are in a lock down because people don't realise how serious it is

SunnyCoco · 23/03/2020 23:01

Wtf
Of course you shouldn't have a party in the middle.of a.global pandemic.
For fucks sake.

BMW6 · 23/03/2020 23:04

Tell her it's not happening. Don't open the door to her if she and her chums come anyway. If necessary call the police.

1Morewineplease · 23/03/2020 23:48

Absolutely no way.
This is why we are in a virtual lockdown.

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