To be massively angry that dh thinks I'm being unreasonable

[cerealnapper]

Probably not going to be the first to do a Moany Mother's Day thread. Been up all night with the kids, finally went to bed at 2am, eldest was up at 5am. I do majority of housework and kids work because he has a very demanding job no problem. DH have a feeble happy Mother's Day when I was going downstairs with the kids. Had to have a little cry at about 10ish because he was still asleep but my friend surprised me and dropped some flowers on the doorstep for Mother's Day which made me feel a lot happier. 11am DH comes sauntering downstairs, no present or card, no happy Mother's Day just a demand to get out of the kitchen because he's going to make me lunch which irritated the life out of me. I gave him a bollocking partly because I feel unnapreciated, partly because I am exhausted and he's come downstairs after a full night of sleep like he's the night in shining armour but he's sulking now and won't talk to me. Ainu for being irritated ?

No you're not but you married the dick.

He's a twat. Tell him to sod off. You don't want lunch you want the next 8 hours asleep in bed while he keeps the kids quiet.

Well now he's up, I'd go back to bed!

I reckon the friend who bought you the flowers has the measure of him - she’s probably aware that you’d get naff-all from him and wanted to make you feel happy and appreciated. You have a lovely friend but a twatty husband.

What do you want to do? If it was me I would tell him I want my lunch given to me in bed and then spend the rest of the day napping and watching box sets

What a dick.

You should have told him in advance that he should have got up with the kids, and woken him if he didn't.

If he hadnt have made the lunch I was on your side. He is doing something for you so yabu. If you wanted him to get up wake him up and tell him!

@Patch23042 exactly this. It wouldn’t occur to me to give flowers to a friend for Mother’s Day unless I knew that was all she’d get.

The only friend I buy Mothers Day gifts for has an absolute arsehole Ex who wouldn't dream of acknowledging her as the Mother of his children.

Your friend has him sussed, now you do, too.

I also buy flowers for a friend who has a dick of a husband. It’s sad but as other have said your friend has the measure of him

Did you ask him to get up so you could have a lie in?

I totally get where you're coming from OP.

DD normally makes me a card at school but because she has been off hasn't done so. She has SN so wouldn't make one at home off her own bat.

DP has completely ignored the fact that it is Mother's Day and has not offered to help DD to make a card. I didn't get so much as a cup of coffee in bed this morning.

I'm feeling fed up anyway because this is the first Mothers Day without my darling mum who died just before Christmas.

I know that with all that is happening at the moment it seems petty to complain but I'm just feeling totally unappreciated.

Sorry to hijack your thread but I do feel better having got that out.

@Patch23042

On the money.

Your friend knows exactly how selfish your arsehole of husband is.

God help you OP.

All those asking if the OP asked him to get up, she shouldn't have to. It's absolute basic knowledge that on birthdays/mothers/Father's Day the recipient gets a lie in and a cup of tea/coffee/preferred beverage in bed.

Heck, even my Aspie DS gets this and he doesn't understand social niceties or emotions at all.

Your not being unreasonable at all.
As others have said your friend knows exactly what he is
I would go to bed and leave him with lunch and children.
Catch up on your sleep and self care

Totally agree with @Zomblie, a decent bloke would have given OP a lie in and sorted out the DC.

Yanbu but like another poster said you chose thos man. Is he normally this inconsiderate? If not why was he today? If this is typical behaviour you need to seriously consider your future.

@feellikeanalien I'm sorry that you're having such a bad day and I'm sorry about your mum, maybe we both need to take a bit of advice on this thread and be a bit selfish. I hope tomorrow is better x

When people say "you chose this man" I wonder why they do that?

So my ex turned out to be a total self-centred twit, an embarrassment to his kids and myself. Do you actually think I chose that? That he said to me "in 20 years I will change from being a sweet, romantic, hardworking person to an arse- is that ok?"

Please stop saying "you chose him" - people change ffs, she didnt chose an arse for a dh, her dh has chosen to be that despite her

I know I should have just accepted him making lunch but I was just so annoyed that I'd done everything and felt so sad I didn't want him to make lunch, not acknowledge anything and get over it straight away. He didn't even come downstairs give me a kiss and say happy Mother's Day. Just came in and went'get out of the kitchen I'm making you lunch' like I should be thanking him profusely for it

Update he went back to bed and is still in bed

Hope he has to wash up
Then thank him for the meal and bugger off for a bath, a long one.

Your friend got you flowers because your husband is a waste of space. He is now in bed because he is a waste of space.

cerealnapper

@recycledbottle I think you've hit the nail on the head. I'm furious