To be massively angry that dh thinks I'm being unreasonable

[cerealnapper]

Probably not going to be the first to do a Moany Mother's Day thread. Been up all night with the kids, finally went to bed at 2am, eldest was up at 5am. I do majority of housework and kids work because he has a very demanding job no problem. DH have a feeble happy Mother's Day when I was going downstairs with the kids. Had to have a little cry at about 10ish because he was still asleep but my friend surprised me and dropped some flowers on the doorstep for Mother's Day which made me feel a lot happier. 11am DH comes sauntering downstairs, no present or card, no happy Mother's Day just a demand to get out of the kitchen because he's going to make me lunch which irritated the life out of me. I gave him a bollocking partly because I feel unnapreciated, partly because I am exhausted and he's come downstairs after a full night of sleep like he's the night in shining armour but he's sulking now and won't talk to me. Ainu for being irritated ?

What do you want to happen cerealnapper - short term and long term?

Clearly this isn't a one-off and you can't stay angry for ever.

Yes this is Mother's Day and his behaviour is appalling in that context, but frankly I wouldn't be impressed on any other Sunday if a father treated the mother of his children this way.

I think you have serious thinking and then talking to do about your future and his place of residence

To the pp who said YABU because he made lunch 'for you'...is he not going to eat it then? Are his kids not? Because if they are, then he wasn't doing it 'for her' he was just doing it instead of her, as part of the family. It's the weekend, so his demanding job is neither here nor there. Not making the slightest effort to be nice, appreciativeetc is just arsehole behaviour.