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Selfish people

52 replies

Mummy103 · 22/03/2020 01:10

Now the pubs and bars are closed neighbours are throwing house parties, screaming, shouting laughing away not a care in the world. How is this helping anyone isolating or unwell. Why cant they just socially distance like the rest of us! Grrrrr. Vote yes if im being a killjoy but nows not the time.

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Homemadearmy · 22/03/2020 01:14

I think it will take people a few days in settle into the new routine. Pubs and schools only closed yesterday. The whole situation feels a bit surreal at the moment.
Things are changing so rapidly.

TheMemoryLingers · 22/03/2020 01:14

Selfish tossers.

SewItGoes · 22/03/2020 01:23

I always think people who can't entertain themselves without gathering in large groups must be very boring and stupid. For them to feel compelled do this now, we have to add "selfish" to the list. And extremely stupid.

KaptenKrusty · 22/03/2020 01:49

Meh there will be people who just do not care - I’d just forget about that and look after yourself - you stay in and leave them to it!

Currently people can still technically do whatever they want - you have a choice to not go out though !

We have done one last big shop today and have no reason to go out now again for a few weeks! Couldn’t give a shit what everyone else decides to do though that’s up to them to risk it! It is possible to avoid them and not come in contact with them.

browzingss · 22/03/2020 02:03

Italy reported 793 deaths yesterday. This will be our fate too if these idiots continue to ignore social distancing guidelines!

I’m in my early 20s and my life has completely changed, yes, it is very hard to have your social life taken away. Very hard. It’s hard for everyone, no one wants to spend the next few weeks or months cooped up at home. But being bored or lonely isn’t worth risking anyone’s life - the priority is to prevent the spread of Coronavirus and reduce the peak strain on the NHS etc so anyone currently partying and mass gathering are absolute idiots.

LINABE · 22/03/2020 02:04

browzingss - a heartwarming post.

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Mummy103 · 22/03/2020 10:27

I can imagine how hard it is having your social life taken from you, after all we are all in this together. However getting drunk in a large group, blocking residential paths, smoking, and shouting at the top of their voices fxxk corona isnt gonna help anybody.
We are all dealing with this, we will all react differently. But acting irresponsibly shouldnt be a choice right now. Lives are at risk.
We will be like italy

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SummerBaby2020 · 22/03/2020 10:34

My next door neighbour who is in the vulnerable category ( she’s 82 and I am also in the vulnerable category ) has been having a party every day since Tuesday!! Every day she’s been out to pick up her pals ( she still drives and good on her for that ) but it’s these people we are trying to protect and they don’t seem to give a monkeys!! Currently as we speak she’s just came back from an outing with 4 of her pals in toe and now going out her back door. I wish people would just take this seriously 😒

BoingBoingyBoing · 22/03/2020 10:37

This crisis is exposing the uk for what it is. A bunch of self-serving inconsiderate brainless fuckwits.

Saw a plea on fb this morning asking for someone to fix her nails urgently. Cunt.

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Mummy103 · 22/03/2020 10:40

82 😯

The thing i worry about is all the elderley and unwell will be wiped out, but the young and healthy will be the ones paying for this virus for the rest of their lives. What it will do to the economy, their families, the buisnesses. It will effect them one way or another.

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SummerBaby2020 · 22/03/2020 10:45

I completely agree @BoingBoingyBoing the selfishness of people has totally bewildered me in every sense!

And that’s what I worry about @Mummy103 I’m in the vulnerable category because I’m pregnant and can’t help but feel even when they have grown up, they will still be suffering from the effects of this 🤦🏼‍♀️

alaiafaith · 22/03/2020 11:46

Personally, I would ask them to keep the noise down. After that, If it goes on for more than a few days, you might have to get police involved as it is disruptive behaviour. You won't be a killjoy. It will benefit everyone
during these times.

Vulpine · 22/03/2020 11:51

Given that adequate sleep is a vital part of strengthening one's immune system, anyone who keeps their neighbours awake with partying is a dick

YouTheCat · 22/03/2020 11:53

I've seen pictures of selfish dickheads going to their holiday homes/caravans. Do they not think this will seriously stretch resources in those areas?

Picture on facebook of a friend who thought yesterday was a good time to get her hair done.

I'm working two days a week in school with vulnerable kids for as long as I am able. Other than essential food shopping and that, I won't be going out into crowded areas at all. It's a ballache for everyone but we're just going to have to get used to it.

pigsDOfly · 22/03/2020 12:09

@Homemadearmy Why do people need a few days to settle in to a new routine? Are they so slow witted that they can't understand that they have to change their behaviour NOW?

If these idiots were only risking their own lives I'd be fine with that, let them get on with it, but they're not. Their behaviour will impact on us all.

I don't want my loved ones to die because of other people's stupid, selfish behaviour, and at the age of 71, I don't want to die either.

chipsandgin · 22/03/2020 12:11

Because this pandemic is exposing all the stupid cunts we are surrounded by but didn’t realise because we had faith in humanity, simple (& utterly depressing).

ItsAllTheDramaMickIJustLoveIt · 22/03/2020 12:17

The gym I go to closed its doors at the end of the week but before it did the manager tried to bring in a few new rules to help stop the spread of the virus. Things like: not too many people using the equipment at one time, washing hands before and after, cancelled all classes and staff constantly cleaning equipment, door handles and everything else. A large group of members were up in arms about it all apparently, and they were all over 70. They didn’t seem to get it that it’s to protect everyone but especially people like them.

Many people are surprisingly dumb apparently.

Purpletigers · 22/03/2020 12:18

If only the Coronavirus could distinguish by IQ

P1nkHeartLovesCake · 22/03/2020 12:20

People can make as many moaning threads as they like but fact is you can’t tell stupid 🤷🏻‍♀️

All you can do is focus on keeping your own family home apart from trips out for essentials and encourage elderly relatives to stay home

TheMemoryLingers · 22/03/2020 12:22

One problem is that a lot of people are treating this as an exciting interruption to their lives - so they're having parties, going to the seaside etc. It won't hit them until someone they know personally becomes seriously ill that actually, this isn't a bonus 12 week Bank Holiday - it's something that will go on for far longer and probably change our lives forever.

Livelovebehappy · 22/03/2020 12:28

Call the police. I would. The country is over run by selfish inconsiderate twonks at the moment. People keep saying community spirit is there, but I’m struggling to find it tbh.

hoxtonbabe · 22/03/2020 12:28

I’ve given up and kind of got to the point where I’m thinking whatever happens, happens.

My son is bored senseless as we’ve been home since Wednesday, yet I look out my window and see more people than ever jogging, coming back from what must clearly be some sort of underground sneaky gym as they have yoga mats and bags, families going for bike rides then seeing a friend/neighbor and then having a full on conversation with them, big groups of teens and men playing football in the estate that backs on to me, 100s of people including the elderly going to the church at the top of my road .. the mind boggles.

Until Boris does a total
Military style lockdown especially in London and specifically my area of London that seem to be taking the fact that there are less cars and busses as a reason to go into major jogging and cycling mode, nothing is going to change. No point telling people to work from home, shutting schools, etc if come the weekend all that goes out the window.

hoxtonbabe · 22/03/2020 12:29

@Purpletigers

I’ve been saying this for weeks now!!!!

CuriousaboutSamphire · 22/03/2020 12:30

We were talking about this last might, looking at picturs of people out in large family gorups, surounded by others.

People who 48 hours ago could not live unless permanently attached to their electronic devices and shunned the outside world now apparently cannot live without going outside to see what outdoors looks like!

I walk my dog every day and hardly ever see anyne other than other dog walkers. We have been passing each other with a nod and a smile, keeping our distance, changing paths as necessary. Yesterday, first time ever, even in the height of summer, I could barely get the dog round the lake for bumping into family groups. It was like a bloody procession.

So I nipped out round the back and walked the more wild and unkempt bit, it's muddy, still a bot flooded... and found some dog walkers there... all moaning about the crowds... all still keeping a good distance, changing paths and being responsible.

Crazy people!

pigsDOfly · 22/03/2020 12:42

@TheMemoryLingers Absolutely.

Grown adults behaving like kids being let out of school on a sunny day.

It's all very depressing.

I don't want to stay in my house by myself every day, only going out to walk the dog, but it's what I'm doing.

I haven't seen one of my DDs who lives in another town for weeks now, as we started being careful early on in this. She hasn't seen her nieces and nephew for weeks either.

My other DD I bump into from time to time as she lives near by. I'm not spending time with my grandchildren. I can't play or read with them or hug them or spend time with my children and it horrible.

We're a very close family and yes, we're in contact all the time, thank god for modern technology, but it's hard.