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Selfish people

52 replies

Mummy103 · 22/03/2020 01:10

Now the pubs and bars are closed neighbours are throwing house parties, screaming, shouting laughing away not a care in the world. How is this helping anyone isolating or unwell. Why cant they just socially distance like the rest of us! Grrrrr. Vote yes if im being a killjoy but nows not the time.

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Glitterpearl · 22/03/2020 12:49

It is really frustrating to me but I am trying not to think about it for the most part.

We were self-isolating a week before they closed the schools. IMO the govt has been so wishy washy that many people haven't had the short sharp shock they needed to understand the gravity of the situation.

I am starting to feel the effects of staying in, and the tantrumming toddler inside me is yelling what's the point in us putting ourselves through this for the greater good when so many others are acting so selfishly and recklessly. Especially the older generation. But I will continue on. I am not in healthcare and I can't help in any meaningful way, so I do my part by self-isolating and not panic buying.

It really will take people being turned away from hospitals because of arbitrary criteria that HAS to be imposed for the masses to realise, and by then it will be too late.

SomethingOnce · 22/03/2020 12:51

The Cull of the Extroverts.

Let’s hope they don’t take the rest of us and society down with them.

Livelovebehappy · 22/03/2020 12:56

Cant believe the actions of a lot of elderly people - they’re acting oblivious to it all. My own mum, who we struggle to get out of the door usually, decided to take a trip to Sainsbury’s yesterday, to make a point, because she apparently dislikes being told what she can and can’t do. Selfish doesn’t even come close to describing her behaviour.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 22/03/2020 14:09

And just now, hand on heart: a group of 5 or 6 small kids, 7 or 8 adults and one frail very old looking lady in a wheelchair, having a picnic.

I can only guess that they are assuming she won't make another year anyway...

Weird, unthinking selfishness

vegas888 · 22/03/2020 15:41

The selfish people are the people who decided to munch on endangered animals and any other animals with a pulse. They have caused this world catastrophe and everybody is suffering. Unforgivable!

BarkandCheese · 22/03/2020 15:52

People don’t believe things are as bad as they are until tragedy happen, the reality sets in too late. This is a quote from David Niven’s autobiography which I’ve been reading recently. At the start of WW2 people didn’t really think it was happening, they called it the “phoney war”.

Suddenly, the orchestra leader stopped the music and Poulsen, the owner, stepped forward … ‘Ladies and gentlemen, in case anyone is interested, the air raid warning just sounded.’ Such was the effect of the ‘phoney war’ that this announcement was greeted with cheers, hunting cries and cat-calls … in ten seconds it was forgotten. Less than a year later, at the height of the blitz, a bomb shrieked through the roof and exploded on the dance floor, killing Poulsen, nearly all the orchestra and a tragic percentage of the dancers

Figmentofmyimagination · 22/03/2020 15:56

The selfish people are the people who decided to munch on endangered animals and any other animals with a pulse. They have caused this world catastrophe and everybody is suffering. Unforgivable!

I agree with this. It is completely crazy - there are around 27,000 "wild animal" farms. I cannot get my head around the fact that this started because somebody deliberately ingested a bat/pangolin.

I was walking along a remote stretch of water with the dog this morning, listening to the birds, watching the dog snuffling about, looking at all the blues and greens, and the sunlight, and it was so dreadful to contemplate that all these plants and creatures will just carry on as if nothing has happened (better even!). Only people (and perhaps mountain gorillas) will be cut down by this disease.

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Mummy103 · 22/03/2020 18:51

An 18 year old with underlying condition passed away today because of this virus.

Im just urging everyone to be safe, follow the social distancing protocol, and protect those around us. We owe it to each other to defeat this with as little devastation as possible.

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browzingss · 22/03/2020 22:50

It would be interesting to know whether the 18 year old was aware they had this underlying condition or not. I’m sure there’s members of the British public who have underlying health issues that they’re not aware of, and therefore may be susceptible to severe symptoms or death. Particularly with young people, we’ve been under the impression that we’re the least at risk. It makes all the unnecessary social contact that much more concerning.

longwayoff · 22/03/2020 23:13

We've had plenty of evidence of selfishness and 'I'm all right Jack, so stuff you ' over the past four years, why expect different behaviour for this? It will, sadly, take something drastic to bring it home to many. It's on its way.

YourVagesty · 22/03/2020 23:24

I cannot get my head around the fact that this started because somebody deliberately ingested a bat/pangolin.

I'm so angry at the pointlessness of this whole thing. I share your feeling on this.

justcly · 22/03/2020 23:38

SummerBaby2020, I am one of "these people you are trying to protect". I'm not elderly but I have health conditions that render me part of the vulnerable group. I'm extremely grateful to everyone who is following advice.

As for the idiots, there was a news report this evening about people using an outdoor gym, in close proximity, taking no precautions at all. When interviewed they said "Well we were told we could go out to exercise". How thick does a person have to be to not only be thick, but to proclaim it on national television?

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Mummy103 · 22/03/2020 23:45

@browzingss that would be very interesting to know. Many people put off going to the doctors for numerous reasons, especially the young.
@SummerBaby2020 i wish you all the best in this anxious time. I too fear about the impact on my children.

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Mummy103 · 22/03/2020 23:48

@vegas888 this is true. These food markets should be shut. It is a shame the whole world is having to change its ways because of this one mistake.

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Peakypolly · 22/03/2020 23:54

Reading the AMA from someone on lockdown in Spain. How can the Spanish accept the (albeit awful) situation when we seem to have loads of idiots breaking safe-guarding decisions? It is not easy for anyone but we have to stop questioning and challenging these new guidelines.
Anxious times.

dayslikethese1 · 23/03/2020 00:11

Its interesting that it seems to be mainly older ppl ignoring the advice, esp considering they are more at risk. I am early 30s and everyone I know is isolating/social distancing. My DF however is stubborn about it and will not be told.

ClareBlue · 23/03/2020 01:09

Have to agree with the observations around older people. My mum, met friend back from a cruise, meet group of friends all over 70 for lunch, go out in the evening to meet mix age group plus grandson just back from meeting a large group of his friends. Diabetes and circulation issues and other chronic conditions. Just doesn't think it applies to her and the same 'will not be told what to do' attitude. Is it a denial coping strategy or are they just stubborn and obstinate, or maybe they just don't care? It is bizarre. I think it is a denial coping mechanism, myself, but it makes me mad.

justcly · 23/03/2020 01:43

The crowds of people shown on BBC news who had flocked to beaches and public parks were not mainly older people. There seems to be an undercurrent of ageism in this thread.

DysonFury · 23/03/2020 06:35

Fingers crossed a the thick scummy neighbours catch CV and perish leaving a better world for us all.

bellinisurge · 23/03/2020 07:00

The reason why other countries are being better with restrictions is because they are on lockdown and we aren't. They are no more compliant or less party loving than we are. And no more less selfish and ignorant.

problembottom · 23/03/2020 07:07

I think some people are unable to see beyond their own noses. Others are selfish. Others are just thick.

I’ve decided not to get wound up by these people as there is nothing I can do about it.

I do think overall there are far more good, conscientious people out there who are following the guidelines and this must be having a positive effect.

SomethingOnce · 23/03/2020 07:47

there are far more good, conscientious people out there who are following the guidelines and this must be having a positive effect.

But the idiots fuck it up for the rest of us.

GuppytheCat · 23/03/2020 08:23

My mother is ignoring guidelines. I hadn’t realised how bad her memory had got and how much she bluffs through it until I’d had the same conversation with her three times about why she shouldn’t go to Book Group and why the pharmacy was only letting in one customer at a time. She forgets it all again for the following day. Her routine was holding her together.

GuppytheCat · 23/03/2020 08:26

She’s also fairly deaf and partially sighted, so doesn’t follow the news much. My sister in law dropped off flowers for Mother’s Day on the doorstep and mum was indignant that she hadn’t come in for a cup of tea.

Dubdubdubtub · 23/03/2020 08:32

There is a big animal park near us still open. It was rammed packed yesterday. They are getting a load of abuse via social media so hopefully they will soon close. I don’t normally believe in abusing people online but they deserve it