WIBU to say no to our kids meeting up.

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I`ve had a couple of messages from a mum of DD's friend asking when the kids can meet up. I've answered that DD isn't going to be meeting her friends in person for a while but they can Skype/text etc.
The mum has told me I'm being paranoid and it 'won't hurt to see a friend'.
Am I being paranoid? I don't think I am. I think she's in denial.
To stop the spread we all have to keep a distance from everyone not in our immediate family and even though DD is 11 and sensible, I can't guarantee she will do this!

YANBU people really need to take this pandemic seriously. This is wont happen to me but others mentality is making the situation worse.

Don’t worry, you are doing exactly the right thing.

My dc were told we are doing a Willy Wonka factory....
Nobody ever goes in and nobody ever goes out....
Except ds16 who thinks he is going to a party tonight...
Mm think not sonny..
Dd's have been face timing friends...

Same has happened to me OP. I don't want to offend DS's friend's mum, but I will have to say that we are not meeting anyone at the moment. Could you say that you have a cough to make her take it a bit more seriously?

My DF has texted saying he thinks I should come over (alone) on Mother's Day to see my DM as she'll be upset if nobody comes to visit.

He doesn't take the isolation thing seriously and I had to tell him my youngest has a slight cough to justify not going. I don't want to pass CV onto my parents for Mother's Day!

He's not replied to my response so I think he may be sulking.

I sat down with DS and explained to him what it meant in terms of him not being able to go into town or the skatepark with his friends, he understood and was pretty accepting.

My neighbours decided to let their kids all play in street last night.

FFS IDIOTS!!!

YANBU at all OP.

I'm.lucky that all my children's friends parents are taking this seriously. Not even been discussed.They are all just use WhatsApp for the foreseeable.

She's probably meeting loads of friends like this so in effect you are meeting all those other people too. Not worth the risk.

I'm having to trust my almost 18 year old to be sensible. She's currently meeting friends for walks only. Who knows if they are being sensible enough but I can't say no to that unfortunately.

I feel fortunate that I have a teen who is a natural self isolator, barely comes out of her room so no change there. Im having a hard time persuading her that as she will potentially be off school until September (year 11, no exams and has now left senior school) she can't stay up there 24/7

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I texted back explaining that we weren't allowing them out to see friends because I'm a carer for my elderly and vulnerable parents. She said that's fine it's my decision, she might start doing that soon as well.
Do it now! I don't get why this is so hard to understand.

Why are these people so stupid?

Sorry I clicked YABU by accident

You are doing the right thing. I can not believe how many people I know are arranging play dates!!! It’s shocking! The quicker we are stay away from each other hopefully the quicker it’s over and we all are able to see each other! Not hard is it?!

Stick to your guns op

If a friend of ds wanted to come over and sit in the garden 2m away from ds and chat that would be fine if their family/friends were not vulnerable. But beyond that, no.

And I think they'd rather just game online, anyway, so they don't need to be physically together for that.

Interestingly my anti-social DH who you'd think would like having an excuse to stay at home has said he doesn't like working from home and would rather put up with his commute. Interesting isn't it? And no, it's not because I am horrible to him - we actually get on pretty well!

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No chance! Stat strong

Send her a link to the official guidance on social distancing. And keep saying no.

You’re doing the right thing. So many people just don’t seem to get it. My in laws told my husband they were excited for lots of extra family time while everything is shut down. I think not!

Your friend is an idiot.

Even my 10 year old understands the importance of staying home & not seeing friends... I don’t understand why people like this don’t understand the enormity of the situation!

Would their conscience be clear if someone they know gets severely ill or worse? I know mine wouldn’t be if I hadn’t stayed home & only gone out for complete essentials...

I work.for the NHS, YANBU, your friends are and are being idiots into the mix. This is spreading fast hence the new restrictions. I don't understand people who think it doesn't apply to them. It applies to all. I have to put myself in a vulnerable situation, if I could I would stay at home with my kids instead of worrying about them and my DH who is also NHS. Stick to your guns.

People's stupidity re distancing & infection control is beyond gobsmacking. The family above me had family round all day as normal today. Now the schools shut, their usual all the family's kids here all day every day, will prob be same too. Natural selection.

You are definitely doing the right thing. Had to explain to my son that he wouldn't be able to go to the cinema with his friends for his 10th birthday. His response 'can we all rent the same movie at the same time and then call to chat about it afterwards' if he can get it and cope with not having a birthday treat then adults should be able to as well.

I understand it's completely out of so many people's normal lives and it's going to be really hard for some people to adjust to but it needs to happen. I popped down to drop supplies off at my parents a few days ago and we just had a catch up through the window.

YANBU

Had to tell my teen they could t go out with friends today and they thought was being unfair as all friends were going . Explained this isn't some kind of extended holiday off school and we are all trying to stay in and only go out if essential ( walking dog quiet times etc )