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To want to throttle DH

35 replies

ACupOfTeaSolvesEverything · 21/03/2020 06:15

He’s snoring like a wounded hippo which in itself in enough. But he woke me at 4.30am when he knocked the fan over on his way back to bed in the dark having been for a pee. Then he climbed back in and started snoring within ten minutes while I’m wide awake having been woken by his almighty clattering. At 5.15 I heard a crash in the kitchen so went to investigate. DH had left this kitchen door open (we close it every night to keep the dog out of it) and the greedy dog had knocked over and emptied the bin. It’s now 6am and I can’t get back to sleep. He’s STILL snoring and I want to smother him!!!
I’ve had tonsillitis all week - with no paracetamol thanks to twatting panic buyers - and really need some rest. DH actually said yesterday ‘oh I saw some paracetamol but didn’t buy it because I didn’t realise you were ill’. FFS. Now he does have cognitive/memory issues but that smarted. I’ve been visibly and audibly unwell but still continuing to look after our son (at home all week already as immune compromised). Today he wants to ‘go stock up on meat’ lol good luck and he’s concerned about running out of fizzy pop. He currently buys pop bloody daily when he delivers his work post to the post office. Aaargh I want to throttle him!!!!!! AND HES STILL SNORING!!!

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ACupOfTeaSolvesEverything · 21/03/2020 06:16

Didn’t mean to enable voting but I do feel better for getting that off my chest.
6.15am now. DS will be up at 7...

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AgentProvocateur · 21/03/2020 06:16

Go ahead. No reasonable jury would convict you. Hope you feel better soon. Flowers

CuntyMcBollocks · 21/03/2020 06:18

Smother him. It's the only reasonable option!

Sissymate2 · 21/03/2020 06:20

Looks like you are so far 100% not being unreasonable, Op🤣. That snoring will drive you crazy. I've had to wear earplugs for 30 years and I can still hear it! Get me a pillow!

blackcat86 · 21/03/2020 06:21

Throttle him and put him in the freezer = well stocked for meat. Two birds, one stone.

Sissymate2 · 21/03/2020 06:22

Thanks for the post , @ACupOfTeaSolvesEverything
This is fun! Here's hoping you keep the 100%Grin

ACupOfTeaSolvesEverything · 21/03/2020 06:25

I have earplugs but he sounds like fucking Vesuvius erupting. Earplugs aren’t cutting it. Gah!

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JoshArcherStoleMyTractor · 21/03/2020 06:26

DHs nightly snore cacophony had been completely silenced by nytol snore spray, he'd tried nose strips, clips, a tennis ball in the breast pocket of a back to front tshirt. I was ready to kill him. If your DH is going out he needs to get some!

JoshArcherStoleMyTractor · 21/03/2020 06:26

Earplugs didn't cut it for me either

ACupOfTeaSolvesEverything · 21/03/2020 06:26

Blackcat GrinGrinGrin

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ACupOfTeaSolvesEverything · 21/03/2020 06:32

Snore spray??? But he “doesn’t snore”! I’ve even recorded him and he says well I had a cold or well I was very tired. This is the man who had to be forced to the GP when he literally couldn’t walk on one leg a couple of years ago. He will never seek help for something as minor that doesn’t affect him because he’s bastarding asleep as snoring
The only solution is the pillow over his face instead of over my ears!

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JoshArcherStoleMyTractor · 21/03/2020 06:38

Oh he's an actual nightmare, time for him to sleep elsewhere. I told DH he was having a direct impact on my health and wellbeing and I was sick of it, so he either moved permanently to the spare room or did something about it. The snore spray was the last option before GP (this was pre cv) . If he'd just said I don't snore, I would've throttled him.

Mummyoflittledragon · 21/03/2020 06:44

Separate bedrooms and peace?

CoffeeBeansGalore · 21/03/2020 06:45

Tell him that tonight you will keep poking him awake every time his snoring wakes you. Let him feel exhausted through constantly being woken up. And he is not allowed to get cross because you are simply giving him the experience that you are going through. My sympathies as DH's snoring is dreadful at times. I have been driven to the sofa some nights (no spare room unfortunately). But he knows that he snores & if I go to bed early, he will stay up late so I at least get a few hours of uninterrupted sleep.

BritishHorrorStory · 21/03/2020 06:48

Why have you got a fan on at 4.30am when it’s freezing cold at night, and you’re ill?

But YANBU. I am so jealous of people that can fall to sleep so quickly and easily as I can’t and even worse if they snore or toss around in their sleep and keep you staying awake whilst they get to sleep soundly. I may have been known to purposely cough loudly or vigorously shift position in bed and “act surprised” at their waking up, when I’ve been particularly pissed off with it Wink

Nanny0gg · 21/03/2020 07:57

You are being very light hearted about some seriously thoughtless behaviour.

You're a better person than me, OP.

Oldraver · 21/03/2020 08:13

Why have you got a fan on at 4.30am when it’s freezing cold at night, and you’re ill?

She didnt say the fan was on, just knocked over.

I have an OH who cant go to the toilet without making a fuss. He cant see so needs a light on else he walks the wrong way, knocks things over etc.

Ninkanink · 21/03/2020 08:15

Separate bedrooms.

RickOShay · 21/03/2020 08:16

Grin @blackcat86

BritishHorrorStory · 21/03/2020 08:37

She didnt say the fan was on, just knocked over.

Ah ok, true.

You are being very light hearted about some seriously thoughtless behaviour.

Seriously thoughtless behaviour? For accidentally knocking over a fan because he couldn’t see properly in the dark (I assume the OPs husband doesn’t purposely knock things over in the middle of the night for a laugh) or for having the audacity to be unable to control his snoring (because he is asleep) or unable to control the memory issues the OP says he has?

LangSpartacusCleg · 21/03/2020 08:46

You need a patio and an alibi

Blackforesthotchoc · 21/03/2020 08:51

I'd wake him up each and every time he snores. Not just a little bit either, but shake him until he is as fully awake as you.

billy1966 · 21/03/2020 09:21

Sounds awful OP.
Separate bedrooms for sure.

ACupOfTeaSolvesEverything · 21/03/2020 09:27

LangSpartacusCleg I like your thinking

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AlunWynsKnee · 21/03/2020 09:35

DH has a similar snoring, fizzy drink and forgetfulness set up but he is willing to acknowledge all these things. If he wasn't there would be throttling.
You'll probably never get as good a chance to get away with it as now. Nobody would think a sudden, extended absence from work was unusual and nobody will pop round to interrupt your digging...

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