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Original poster

Lose pay or keep Dd off school?

47 replies

inmyshoos · 16/03/2020 16:43

My youngest (12) has a new cough so self isolating for 7 days as per guidelines.
I have to work for 4 hours tmrw.
Her older sister (14) could stay home and I could go to work. Younger Dd coughing but no fever and not ill as such but she wouldn't be happy home alone.
Or I stay home and have been told I won't be paid.
I was considering taking them out of school anyway but older Dd wants to go!

As a single parent we will struggle with my pay.

Aibu to keep older Dd off so I can work?

OP posts:
Original poster
inmyshoos · 16/03/2020 16:43

Without my pay

OP posts:
NoSauce · 16/03/2020 16:46

Could you leave your 12 year old alone?

Woeisme99 · 16/03/2020 16:49

Sure a 12 year old could be home for 4 hours?

Original poster
inmyshoos · 16/03/2020 16:50

She won't stay on her own although she is responsible enough and safe enough.

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Dishwashersaurous · 16/03/2020 16:51

Surely leave her with a phone for four hours

Dishwashersaurous · 16/03/2020 16:51

Tell her that she has to!

Original poster
inmyshoos · 16/03/2020 16:52

She has a bit of anxiety about being left alone since her father vanished from her life.... But she will happily stay with her sister.

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Original poster
inmyshoos · 16/03/2020 16:54

@Dishwashersaurous couldn't do that to her. She won't even sit in car whilst I pay for fuel at the moment. We have had help with this but now is definitely not the time push being home alone.

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aroundtheworldyet · 16/03/2020 16:55

Depends how much that four hours of pay is worth to you

Frenchw1fe · 16/03/2020 16:59

If you need the pay you have to work. Therefore your older dc will have to stay at home too.
We live in difficult times and unfortunately needs must.

Cockw0mble · 16/03/2020 17:00

Review the newest info. Whole household isolation if anyone has symptoms - 14 days

BettyIsMyFavouriteSquirrel · 16/03/2020 17:17

These are desperate times so I’d keep your older daughter off.

Pippa12 · 16/03/2020 17:19

I think with new conference if 1 of you is quarantined you all should now?

Northernsoullover · 16/03/2020 17:20

You are all quarantined now Sad

Lightofthephoenix · 16/03/2020 17:20

Review the newest info. Whole household isolation if anyone has symptoms - 14 days

Agreed, just watched it on the live broadcast.

Onemorehitandillcrumble · 16/03/2020 17:21

has a new cough so self isolating for 7 days as per guidelines

The whole family now has to isolate for 14 days.

AmberleighMouse · 16/03/2020 17:22

Yup sorry, you're all in isolation now for 14 days

RedHelenB · 16/03/2020 17:22

Decision made but very unfair to keep older dd from going to school ordinarily. You're the parent it's your responsibility.

ilovesooty · 16/03/2020 17:23

The new information indicates you should all self isolate.

Willyoujustbequiet · 16/03/2020 17:25

Its 14 days and whole household isolation.

Original poster
inmyshoos · 16/03/2020 17:28

Are those guidelines for whole of UK? Can't find the info

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probablysue · 16/03/2020 17:29

You say she has a cough but no fever/temp so surely you don’t have to all be isolated? This is getting ridiculous. There has to be more symptoms than just a cough to isolate a whole family. This is the time of year that hay fever starts kicking in. Symptoms include bad head, fever and fatigue. If she’s just got a cough then get your oldest to stay home while you work.

AmberleighMouse · 16/03/2020 17:30

probablysue no it's either symptom, not both.

AmberleighMouse · 16/03/2020 17:34

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-51917562 third sentence here

Healthyandhappy · 16/03/2020 17:41

It's only the one person who is poorly for 7 days the 14 days is old advise