Deal breaker?

[Ginbunny1212]

Been in 2 dates with a nice guy. We get on, lots of chatting on dates, attractive guy. It’s been drinks. I am very fussy or as my friends say, go looking for faults instead of positives. My friends are in the fence.

The deal breaker. I am a foodie and feeder. I enjoy trying new food, eat out about2x a week and love cooking. I eat a variety of foods and incorporate vegetables in my meals - stews, pasta sauces etc. Eat lots of fruit. I am just not a meat and veg person and hardly eat potatoes. I grew up in a chip shop and think I have seen too many potatoes and chips to last a life time.

The guy doesn’t eat anything other than bland food, meat and potatoes. No veg or fruit and doesn’t really eat out or try new food or eat out.

Should I continue as foodie a big part of my life , especially restaurants

If you're noticing it on date 2 it's a deal breaker. Maybe check how limited he actually is, or if he could be persuaded to incorporate more things into his diet. I find this a turn off.

Despite this, somehow I have a DP who is an extremely fussy eater. He does all the communal cooking. There are countries I just would not go to with him. It takes a lot of research to find a restaurant to eat out in (and we are in new cities a lot). We fight about this often, not least because it is not fun traipsing about looking for a restaurant that meets his standards before all the kitchens shut. We end up in pizza places (provided they do white pizzas), pasta places or creperies, no matter where in the world. I really wanted bouillebasse in Marseille but we couldn't find anywhere that did both bouillebasse and cheese crepes.

@PeterPanGoesWrong Your advice is 'if they guy you're dating has a trait you don't like, change him.'

Are you serious or was it meant to be funny?

not sure if the food itself is an issue, if he is prepared to find something on the menu he likes.

The issue I think might be that you actively want to go out to restaurants as an activity, and he doesn't want to/like them.

If he does not want to go out to restaurants and you do, it is a pretty strong lifestyle difference

Bin him.

Seriously

Maybe give it time op, if you like this person otherwise. My dh had a very limited palate when we met, various reasons but mainly stemming from the fact he didn't grow up in a household where cooking was enjoyed or food relished. Me on the other hand, though my lovely dm was limited in what she cooked (lack of money) and often tired of cooking meals (4 children), she loved food and waxed lyrical about puddings particularly! I think also as I went to uni and cooked for myself from 18, made me creative with food.
What I'm trying to say is, my dh after a few months of watching me and my housemates, in the early days of our relationship, cook different meals, he gradually became more and more adventurous. The first time he tasted a steak that wasn't well done was like a revelation to him