If someone said to you,

[OhioOhioOhio]

'I feel like a child.'

How would you take it?

You need to give context.

That they felt like a child.

Either someone has said or done something now that reminded them of childhood or they felt shamed/embarrassed in a way that reminded them of childhood

Without context this is impossible to answer.

Going to Disneyland and being excited and saying, ‘This is amazing, I feel like a child again!’ is very different to, for example, being asked to do household chores by a partner and saying, ‘Stop telling me what to do! You’re not the boss of the house, I feel like a child.’

Do you really need three threads about this?

Yes. I'm very much struggling. I thought this was a safe place.

It sounds like things are tough for you - AIBU may not be the best place to get perspective on your situation as the posters here tend towards harshness when they feel someone isn't giving the answers/information needed to make a judgment. Perhaps there is another board that might be better, or some real-life support? It sounds like you have lovely friends, even if this event was ill-judged on their part, so maybe speak to one of them about it.

It is a great place to get advice, but there is no need for 3 threads in a 24 hour period, especially as you have given almost no information to let anyone help you.

If you could maybe be more specific about why you are struggling then you might get some more helpful answers.

The internet is never a safe place.

Thanks. Yeah. Sorry. Its too private.

It's impossible to say with no context at all.

But if you feel it's too private, you need to remember you're on a public internet forum.

It's not a 'safe space'.

No one knows you.
No one can see you.
If you want a true response we need more than a couple of words.
Now it's too private and has the words feels like a child in it. I'm afraid you may get a bit bashed.
If it's serious tell a professional person.

@OhioOhioOhio

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Sorry, I have no idea what you're talking about.

Put your posts in 30 days only if you’re bothered about divulging too much.

context matters. Could mean excited, could mean feeling controlled or told off, lots of things

My parents and sibling bought me a magnificent gift. I mean magnificent. Very expensive. I had NO idea. I also have no money and a nasty, nasty xh. All extended family knew about this gift. I was the last to know. I didn't cope. I felt like a child. Having to sit there and be all grateful. But I've been taking adcaof their generosity for years. It made me feel shit that this magnificent gift was organised for me and I have, again, nothing to give in return. It makes me feel embarrassed and angry. And I know I sound like a bitch. Sorry.

Ah I see, I understand. Sounds like it was overwhelming, especially if lots of people are looking at you for your reaction. It's a lot of pressure.

I didn't cope. I felt like a child

What did you do that made you feel this way?

Y did u feel like a child

It sounds like they wanted to do something nice for you.

It is okay to feel vulnerable and grateful even if it is embarrassing.
There will be a time when you can repay it with help.
Is it upsetting you as it was everyone was aware before you, was it money to help and everyone knew helper business as struggling?
I hope it gets better soon.

I guess because my xh didn't share information and I would have previously thought they would have enjoyed my opinion on such decisions. It has made me feel like a third wheel in my own family. It wasn't at all intended like that. Not at all. But I used to be independent. Now I can't keep up and can't see how I ever will. And I fucking hate surprises.

Did you do a thread about a surprise last night?

Does your family normally share all info about a gift before giving it? Do you think they had negative intentions by giving you a lovely gift?