Who was in the wrong? Lidl row and 1st world issue ..

[MadameBee]

Stood by closed checkout 1 about to put join queue to checkout 2.

Checkout one opens and 2 people in queue 2 stay put, I then start putting my goods on checkout 1 conveyer belt. Two people from queue 2 then transfer their goods from conveyer belt 2 to conveyer belt one, in the gap ahead of my goods. I was taken aback but said nothing, women behind me rolls her eyes at me.

Women transferring goods then says to me quite irritated “can you move your things back because I can’t fit all my stuff on” I say “that’s because I put my things on before you did” she then gets all angry and says “I was actually ahead of you in the other queue and you pushed in, but if it means that much to you, you can go in front of me if you like?” I said as I reached for shopping bags “it doesn’t, that’s why I didn’t say anything?” she continues “well it obviously does as you are saying something now!” Which I ignored.

Did I push in as I would usually let queuing baskets ahead of me if a new till opened

@DontCallMeShitley

A man did this to me in B and M about a week ago.

He had 4 small bottled items and just walked in front of me and said "I'm going ahead of you because I've only got these"

I only had one (large) item

It took me so by surprise I didn't know how to react should have told him to get to fuck.

An old woman tried that on me once. I told her "There is a queue and she should line up in it" She looked shocked, muttered at me and went to the back.

@EineReiseDurchDieZeit
I had similar a few weeks ago in the local Lidl but I loudly said ‘Oi, no you don’t mate’, in a strong Northern UK accent.
He was taken aback and then sheepishly stood behind me.

I mention the accent part because I’m on the south coast of Ireland and the local accent is very different and it clearly made him stop in his tracks. He was obviously expecting me to be a sweet middle aged lady who wouldn’t say anything.

The Cheeky git!

I once got into a similar row where two tills were open, so I stood in the queue for till 2 behind the person being served. When she finished serving that person, I put my basket down and the cashier turned to one of the people queueing at till 1 and asked if they'd like to go first. I was so annoyed! I think that's taking the polite thing too far.

Embarrassed to say, when the person from till 1 came over to be served before me, I just walked straight out of the shop and left my basket of shopping there.

Shop in Waitrose next time

Hahaha
I rarely go to Lidl but did pop into one a few weeks ago now .
Stood in a queue and a woman tried to push in front but didn't get very far . Then an employee said that a new till was opening so I went to said new till and was first there .
This woman said, to nobody in particular "She got here first!" and I was just thinking "Um, yes, that is obvious" . She was flabbergasted but I am sure the employee was NOT just addressing her .
YANBU

Perhaps its a Lidl thing

OP, you used the plural, hence (fake) confusion

It wasn't faked - I was asking a question.

I just made a grammatical error, I apologise 🙏🙄
No you didn't - and no apology needed, I was just asking.

Embarrassed to say, when the person from till 1 came over to be served before me, I just walked straight out of the shop and left my basket of shopping there

Don't be embarrassed. Excellent move!

As some one mentioned up thread a different queuing system would be better .
Some shops , particularly them that only tend to have people using baskets rather than trolley have a snake like system where you all join one Q and wait for the next available cashier, this may work for trollys too .
The only issues I could see it the cashier would have to wait for you to load your stuff onto the belt rather than you doing it in advance .

@MadameBee

I agree it is a 1st come 1st served , if you choose to allow some one in front of you then creid to you but you certainly dont have to !

This happened to in tescos a few months ago
me and a few others queuing at check out 1 all of us with baskets , checkout 2 already in use .
checkout 3 opens
one guy from check out 1 and one from checkout 2 try to be first in the queue at check out 3 .
they sort of bump into each other ( not aggressively )

Cashier looks at them and at the queue at check out 2 where a mum had a trolley full and was trying to keep two toddlers happy.
cashier says to the guys if you were gents you would of let that lady go in front of you , they both muttered something and encouraged the lady to come over , she was very grateful .

People are bonkers. I was in Sainsburys one Christmas. Joined a queue and in front of me was a woman with no shopping. She then complained that I was in the space for her trolley that her husband was still in the store shopping with. I couldn'thelp laughing as she was showing me with her hands where her trolley "was" and she got so angry she marched off.

On the positive side in the same shop one Christmas when I was 38 weeks pregnant with a full trolley as making sure I had plenty in. Two lovely young women told me to stand aside and unloaded my trolley then packed everything for me. I thanked them and they said, "No problem, we've just come off shift at the hospital and don't want to deliver you here, you look about ready to drop so we want to get you out fast." I had another laugh.

A bloke started screaming a load of abuse at me in Aldi once.
I'd let 3 people go ahead with just a couple of items while I was unloading all my stuff on the belt. I normally do let people go ahead if I have loads of stuff and they only have a little (nobody has ever offered to let me go ahead though when the situation was reversed...)
Anyway, this bloke had seen that I had let the others go ahead and then starts hoping from foot to foot and then suddenly starts screaming at me.
I calmly said, I've let 3 people go ahead and now I'd like to be served. If I let everyone go in front I'll never get home.
He continued screaming at me calling me a "fucking cow" and when he realized I was just ignoring him and everyone else was staring at him he eventually shut up.

Agree: new till = new queue.

And it never takes very long in Aldi/Lidl anyway, even a full trolley, so its not a big deal at all.

@Kraejka if he was behind you in the queue and you’re waving people on front of you then he had every right to be pissed off at you. If I’ve read this right, you’re technically waving people in front of him - not appropriate.

No you read it wrong - or I didn't explain properly. The three people were behind me. I waved them in front. He was number 4. I decided not to wave him in front as I would have been stuck forever and never got served.
You have to draw the line somewhere.

And even if he did have a right to be pissed off because I didn't wave him in front, he had no right to scream abuse at me like that.

Oh, people that start loading behind me before I've even finished have a special place in a special hell. To counter this I always keep my trolley behind me and grab items from the front of it so I have at least a full trolleys length of free conveyor belt.

Oh, people that start loading behind me before I've even finished have a special place in a special hell.

The miserable woman in Aldi today clearly thought I wasn't standing far enough forward for her liking. She kept deliberately jostling me and tutting under her breath. I was number 3 in the queue so not like I was holding her up.

Had I had more presence of mind at the time I would have started (fake) coughing at her/over her shopping, stupid woman.

i wouldlet one person go ahead if they had a couple of small items and i had a full trolley but no way would 3 be going ahead.

First to get to the new till gets served. I hate people who think it is ok to just move in front of you because they have a smaller basket, ask first! It is so entitled that the last time someone did this to me and then asked if I minded I told her that I did and was she this rude often.

Yanbu

I'm really surprised by the majority response. If I'm in this situation I always let the people who are in front of me duck around to join the new queue first, surely that is just good manners? I'm actually quite sad at the "you snooze, you loose" attitude, it seems really selfish.

I also always let people with a few items go in front of me while I unload (I'm usually doing a big shop), but I've been lucky that I've never encountered anyone who has cut in front without asking. I would find that pretty rude.

This is why people shop online. YANBU.

You were not standing in queue 1 because no-one stands in front of a close til. So either you were just arriving and rushed to it before other could move, or you were kind of standing in between the two, awaiting to see what happened, and rushed as soon as you saw this one open.

This is common behaviour and yes, it is irritating. If you are respectful of people with only few items to go ahead of you, why can't you see that going straight ahead and avoid all queuing whilst others who had already queued have to continue to queue is like you being with the basket pushing in front of you just because they have a basket so it's acceptable?

In such circumstances, it's normal a case of people saying 'you go ahead, you were here first, no you go ahead, it's ok' blah blah and then everyone is happy and feeling good for being considerate.

Even worse in M and S. I was waiting patiently behind a woman who had loaded her items onto the conveyor. Another woman with a huge trolley load arrived behind me who said excuse me, I'm with the lady ahead of you. What is this? Can you now reserve a place for family and friends at the tills or even perhaps anyone you know. I did say something to her at the time, but she proceeded to push her way through. I looked at the staff member on the till who avoided eye contact.

You were first in the queue op. Cannot believe the cheekiness of some people. I am still mad with myself for letting the cheeky mare go ahead of me. But I have to ask is it worth losing your dignity over?