Dd has been exposed to content that is not age appropriate

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Dd is 7. She has a friend who she plays with at weekends and school holidays that lives on the same street as us. Dd friend is 8. They are in her house alot or outside as dh works from home at weekends so i dont allow them to play inside as they are too noisy despite me constantly telling them to be quiet.

During summer dh doesnt work as much from home so they are in ours then.

Over the last year dd has been having nightmares and night terrors, sometimes up to 4 a week. We have been to the GP who was asking me if i was 100% sure that dd hadnt been watching something at someone elses house that was not age appropriate.

Last night dd wanted me to download some games on her ipad so we went through them together. She was pointing out games her friend has on her ipad which they play on and when looking at these games they are 12+ rating. Dd could tell me exactly what you do on these games and its about shooting, running away from the police and being bad guys...

We did have an issue last year were dd was talking about a game she was playing there and i messaged mum asking what it was. Her mum replied that it was on their older childs ipad that they shouldnt of been on and she would have a word with her daughter. Dd is adamant it was not on her sisters ipad but it was on her friends.

How do i approach this? Dd has not had a nightmare or night terror for 2 weeks which is brilliant but she hasnt been on this childs ipad for over 2 weeks.

If your DD spends so much time with this family then surely you know mum well enough to discuss this all with her? There is a big difference between accusing her daughter of giving your’s night terrors and two adults having a rational discussion about parenting.

AIBU seems to be full of the hard of reading these days!

The OP has said the kids come round to their house for half the year, and the other half, they mostly go to the friend's house or play outside. Don't actually see how that makes her a CF.

However, I do think that you need to restrict your DD from going there unless you can have an honest conversation with the mother. Tell her that your DD is having nightmares and they're linked to the tablet/iPad games that she's been exposed to. As the mother is giving a false impression as to whose iPad they're playing on (or maybe she genuinely doesn't know, which isn't actually any better) you NEED to tell her that your DD won't be going around for a while.

So yes, this is going to involve you saying No when they ring/message and ask for your DD to come out and play. "sorry, she's busy", "sorry, she's not feeling the best", "sorry, we've got something else on" - you don't have to elaborate.

I think that some people actually make a game of seeing how far they can twist things into 180 degree opposite from the actual story! I think it's a game

Don’t let your kid go there then. Say no. Say she’s having night terrors because of the stuff she’s seeing at your house. ! I don’t get the problem. Say no!

Witchend huh, I let my 5 year old try that- he's the absolute only person who said it's kinda scary, apparently the way they say "braaaaiiinssss" .

@CheshireChat

I'm going to eat your brains.... We are the undead!

DH and I ran our business from home. Our four kids grew up knowing no screaming and shouting when Dad was talking to customers on the phone. Their friends who visited were told the same.

Maybe it means they will need to be supervised but that’s just how it goes.

You are the parent. You need to parent.