To be annoyed by the use of “its so gay!”

[Missmummy88]

So, there is a new employee at work who is really nice and whom I really get on with, but one thing she does grates me to another level. She is very loud and I have now heard her say 3x that something is “so gay” I.e. indicating something is stupid/annoying etc. I fully understand that some people grew up in the “it’s so gay” era but really as a woman in her 30s this is unacceptable language. No one in our office is outly homosexual but regardless it is offensive to us all as a society who wouldn’t want our sexuality to be used in slang for negative connotations.

Aibu?

Its immature but I don't find it offensive.

It was normal for "gay" to mean silly or stupid back in the late 90s / early 00s. E.g. someone losing a fortune on a quiz machine or gambling machine and then someone else saying "what he did was so gay!"

It was homophobic then and it’s homophobic now.

Yep I grew up in the ‘that’s so gay’ era (I’m 43). My eldest son is gay, I’d certainly pull my teenagers if I heard them say it. Not appropriate anymore. Ask her manager to have a word

It's basically used to describe something that's shit/negative. Being at school and surrounded by "that's so gay" when you're actually 14 and gay was horrible enough, I'd hate to hear it in the workplace.

So to answer your question: yes, it is offensive, and I really hope someone has a word with her about it and explains that it's unacceptable.