To visit Granny?

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Supposed to visit DMIL this weekend. She is nearly 90 and in poor health. We’ve not seen her since Christmas and we are all looking forward to it.

However we all have a snotty DS and are worried about taking germs with us.

I would normally postpone but I worry that if we leave it longer it will become more risky to visit and If we leave it too long it might be too late.

None of us have much faith she can survive CV if she catches it.

Do we go now and risk passing something on?

Or should we wait and risk not seeing her again?

WWYD

Assuming he doesnt have Covid-19 and is just a bit snotty, would you have gone if this wasn't in the news?

If so, then YABU, if not YANBU.

Same problem here. No snotty toddlers but a six hour train journey and tube through London. Granny is 91. A dilemma.

Surely it’s granny’s decision?

We do tend to avoid DMIL if we have colds. But we are concerned that if we leave it longer then CV-19 might be more widespread and more or a problem.

Can you leave the toddler with someone else? Personally I wouldn’t take him.

I wouldn’t

Ask granny.

A snotty nose isnt symptom of coronavirus so that isnt a reason not to go.
If you are worried you may have it but be asymptomatic,maybe don't go. But you're more likely to have it in a few weeks.

What would Granny's preference be?

@TerryScottsBridge

How would we know if DS has a mild dose. They aren’t testing for mild symptoms. Apparently some kids do present with a runny nose..

Ask granny. It may be the last visit

Is she in a care home? They may turn you away if DS is showing cold symptoms.

Why can't your DH go alone?

Assuming he doesnt have Covid-19 and is just a bit snotty, would you have gone if this wasn't in the news?

Why do people post crap like this? Just why? Covid-19 isn't just in the news, it's a nasty virus that is spreading fast.

Some people present with mild/different symptoms, how would you know?

It isn't just a made up headline. I'm surprised that after the Prime Minister said yesterday that many more people will die and that this isn't just like another flu, people are still being so blase about this.

If you normally don’t go when one of you has a cold why is it different now?

@Nosauce We want to go now as we think it may become impossible to visit in a few weeks. To be honest DH needs to go and spend time with her as he may not get another chance.

We want to take the kids as she dotes on them and they on her. She lives at home so it will be down to her and Fil.

In your shoes I wouldn’t be taking anyone that was ill, off colour, snotty nose etc. You would feel terrible if she picked something up. Send DH on his own with a photo of the DC. That would be my advice.

I would tell them the situation and let them decide. DH to go on his own if they don’t want to take the risk.

We've decided not to take my 4 year old anywhere near my FIL and he's not even snotty! Couldn't forgive myself if he passed something on from nursery to FIL as he has COPD and heart failure so I doubt he would survive coronavirus

There is a Q and A here, which includes one on visiting elderly relatives, might not be much help though as one expert says no while the other says yes/maybe.
Coronavirus and social distancing: is it risky to go to the pub or gym?

www.theguardian.com/world/2020/mar/13/coronavirus-and-social-distancing-is-it-risky-to-go-to-the-pub-or-gym?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Copy_to_clipboard

Your DS has a cold, not coronavirus. Unless you think the common cold will kill her then yeah, go see her. People are honestly being hysterical over this.

@Isthistrueor. Glad you can diagnose him over an anonymous forum! DMIL has a history of pneumonia from a cold so maybe that will help you understand my concern.

DMIL has a history of pneumonia from a cold so maybe that will help you understand my concern

Why are you even asking if you should take DS then?

Why don't you ask her and then go if she wants you to?