To ask if anyone was in shock at finding out the sex of their baby?

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Not in a gender disappointment way but in a we’ve spent the last four and a half months calling you it, and now you’re a he or she and we can give you a little name and not call you it anymore.

I think I’ve just had my “shit just got real” moment and I’m not sure what to do?

Please let me know I’m not an utter weirdo and it’s normal to feel this way!

Yeah, I've seen that before to friends - "shit just got real" is exactly how she put it! Congrats :)

Yes after 3 girls we were ready for girl no4, had her names chosen and everything. 20 week scan she became a he, we were very shocked.

Only annoying thing was the idiots that told us we could stop now because we had gotten our boy, err no we were stopping at 4 and it’s insulting to DDs2 and 3.

I remember with DD1 when she found out she was a girl I used to talk to my bump using her name, it really made it real.

We had a loss at 17 weeks previously and I think that I didn’t really let myself get too attached incase anything awful happened again, but it was so wonderful. I can’t wait to meet my little person in July!!

Congrats OP (and sorry for your previous loss).

I was convinced dc2 was a second boy as felt exactly the same in pregnancy. Didn’t find out sex at the scan, shock of my life when a baby girl was put in my arms! Didn’t believe til I saw myself. Was genuinely happy either way but just the surprise was crazy.

I had this when my daughter was first born. They told us she was a girl, my DH was like "oh great her name is X" (the name we decided on). He wanted to start ringing round the family to tell them the news and name but I made him wait a while. I had to get my head round the fact that we had a baby, she was a girl and her name would be X. Telling everyone just made it too real and unchangeable and I had to get my own head around it first!

I instantly got teary. We were hoping for a girl, but as soon as I saw the scan (and it was obvious he was a boy!) I got very emotional to know. We started calling him our chosen name straight away, although not in front of other people, and it was lovely to feel a connection in that way even before he was born!

I didn't tell anyone - not a soul, in case the scan was wrong (it wasn't).

When I found out I was having my second boy it felt so weird, like I’m going to have 2 sons and they’ll be brothers. It’s crazy

My cousin's boy turned out to be a girl, she was quite surprised....

Nope.

Thought I’d have all boys and I had all boys lol!

Just found out we are having a second boy. I was in shock when I found out though as I have all sisters and come from a huge family of girls so always assumed that I’d have girls. Absolutely delighted to be giving DS a little brother.

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This is exactly it. I had to get my head round the fact that we had a baby, she was a girl and her name would be X. Telling everyone just made it too real and unchangeable and I had to get my own head around it first!

It wasn’t about the sex it was just about the fact they were real and knowing the sex meant knowing their name, and made everything feel so final - it hit me like a ton of bricks.

It’s just like WHOA this is a proper person. They’re going to be my daughter. Fucking hell we are going to have a daughter oh my god. I never thought this would happen.

I was in shock that I was having a boy second time; I’d even been saying she as I’d just assumed. 100% happy to be having a boy though just surprised

Not really, there is only a choice of 2......if you are lucky.

I didn't find out till birth and was not shocked, I had in my head DD would be a boy but I knew either was possible. I get the feeling very real bit after 20 weeks scan though!

Yep! 20 week scan I was told girl so bought everything pink and fluffy and pretty. Gave birth and midwife says you have a beautiful baby boy! I was so shocked i couldn't even hold him.

Oh yeah I completely get this. When DD was born (we didn’t find out til the birth), there was this moment when I looked at her, but no-one had said the sex yet (and I was just looking at her face), and I wanted to almost shout ‘don’t tell me!, because it just didn’t matter as he/she was just so perfect I somehow wanted a moment to stare at my gorgeous baby without knowing! I know that probably makes no sense- it was only seconds before the midwife then said she was a girl, it was just somehow an amazing feeling, it also one she said she was a girl, and DH said the name we’d chosen, it felt very very real.

@madcatladyforever I wasn’t quite meaning that. It was just the realisation at that point that they’re a proper tiny person. My tiny person.
As in my PP I had a second trimester loss and think until we had passed that milestone we didn’t allow ourselves to really embrace the pregnancy as we were so consumed by fear. 🥰

Yes I really don’t think it was the gender to be honest. Just the OMG YOU’RE REALLY REAL.

I thought that at the 12 week scan. I was expecting to see a sac and a “blob” and the sonography put the screen on and bam! There was an actual baby on the screen. I don’t think I had equated being pregnant with we are going to have a baby. Such a surreal moment - happy, obviously, but very much a “shit just got real” moment.

Also felt like that at my son’s birth, as we chose not to find out the sex. My husband saying “it’s a boy!” is such a wonderful memory. Then finding out DC2 was a girl was also a big shock, as I thought we were having another boy.

I guessed right on the sex of both before the scans, I would have felt shock if I was wrong as I was convinced.

When I was pregnant with my Dd many years ago (1983) I did have scans,but they were nowhere near as sophisticated as the ones nowadays. Gender scans weren't generally available. It was a case of wait and see what you get! However,I just KNEW that I was expecting a girl,right from the moment I knew I was pregnant. I was so convinced that I didn't even really bother thinking of boys' names. I think I would have been in a state of shock if she had turned out to be a boy!

I am the only girl on my dads side of the family

I had ds2 and then miscarried baby number two which I managed to successfully convince myself was a girl and my only chance of having a girl...

So much so that as they held baby number 3 over the screen ( c section) i could not figure out where its penis was...took me a while

And then for weeks after i kept checking her nappy to make sure her vagina hadn’t changed into a penis when I wasnt looking