Neighbours door belll rings mine

[shanchanx]

Hiya,

Basically, my upstairs neighbours doorbell rings mine, every time someone presses it.

My one, only oy rings my door bell and not theirs. Ive asked months ago if they could change it due to our landlord not wanting to pah for it. I was pregnant at the time and had things to buy from my wages other than a new doorbell for them.

I now have a 3 month old, no one EVER comes to my doorbell, but at least 3 times a day it rings for them!

It rang today, i went out and she had the nerve to say 'why are you here? Surely you know by now rhe door bell isnt for you!'

I had gotten up with my baby sleeping on me thinking it may be for me as i was in bed with her still.

Ive tried asking her nicely to please get a new one but now im at the end of my tether after the reaction i got today! Surely, if mine doesnt ring theirs and isnt at fault and theirs is at fault, common curtsey/sense would mean they should get one?

They moved in before us thafs her argument and the property was vacant for a while before that.

I asked nonths ago and if that was me id of changed it absolutely no problem for them! I let her little girl in sometimes when shes forgot her key and im always very polite.

Am i being unreasonable to want some peace and not pay for a doorbell which isnt at fault on my end??

Lolwhat - I get on with it, i let their family in and get their parcels as im a nice person, yes it grates me sometimes but, like i said, i get on with it. What i dont appreciate is being told i shouldn't cone to the main door when my own door bell goes and i should know its not for me and to fxck off back into my flat! I am a very kind person, i simply came on here to see if i was unreasonable to ask again for them to change it again or not.

This happened to me last summer new neighbour opposite me, mine always rang when they had visitors etc.
Mine was an old bell so just bought a nice new battery one no issues since .

@Oxo01 ah fab! Great to hear that whem you changed it, it sorted it! I was anxious about spending money on it for it to just do the same thing (km not verh tech on door bells or how they work is all) ill get a new one n see i guess. Just s pain that landlord refises to see its fault and will not reimburse it x

@shanchanxit was sending me mad as they put a chair outside and let their small 2 year old stand on it and keep playing with the bell 😒

Disconnect yours as you said no one ever comes to your door bell. You can then tell any visitors they will need to ring your mobile to let you know they are at your door

@menopause59 Yeah we did that for a wuile, but keot missing parcels from people sending things for my newly birthed little girl and i was rather poorly after she was born and couldnt gst ojt the house very much.

@Oxo01 eeek i can see why thats annoying! Glad it helped you though, fingers crossed it works here

I think you're making life harder for yourself here. Options:
A) put up a sign saying bell b also rings at flat a so if you're ringing for a do three short rings
B) disconnect bell and stick a sign up saying ring mobile no for bell a
C) buy a new bell , you can get one for £5 on Amazon. If you can't afford that you have free options above.
It's a shit situation and your neighbour sounds like a twit but you aren't doing yourself any favours

I've had variaiotns of this in rented flats... All flats ringing, my bell not ringing despite batteries... Paid to have new bell worked for a while then stopped working again...

I worked out it was utterly pointless wasting any more headspace... And worked out... The bast majority of people coming to our door were fam/pals, so asked them to ring our mobiles...

We just put a small card next to our bell...

Sorry we are here, bell doesn't work... Please call xxx and we will answer!

It worked!

this one from amazon is 7 quid. with all the grief it sounds like your putting up with, it'll be £7 well spent.

www.amazon.co.uk/Wireless-Doorbell-Waterproof-Cordless-Melodies/dp/B07MVXYF8T/ref=sr_1_33?keywords=battery+doorbell&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&qid=1584019122&sr=8-33

@Hahaha88 Oh trust me, that's just me all over lol! I tried a sign and she got all shitty with me abiut it making her look bad! Thoufht aboit that but dont really want mobile on the front of door. I was more concerned about biying a new one and it doing the same thing as i relinked ours and it still does it so wasnt sure. Ive notw had more information from another lovely poster saying tbey did it and it worked.

It is, ive gottten on with it til today and been kind enough to get her parcels, let family members in etc but that comment just infuriated me! I was tempted to rip it off but know she will try get me done for vandalism /harrassment!

@iamthedevilsavocado really dont want to pit mobile on door and she got shitty when i made a note on tje door regarding door bell. Cant win, guess the only situation is to buy a new one and get on with it! Just frustrating is all when so skint and landlord saus its her etc!

@FrostyGirl66 yeah im going to, i was just anxious it would still do it if its sending frequncies off i dont know though.

PS
If you're concerned re random people accessing your mobile number... A very cheap burner phone (less than 10£) with a quid credit will do!

Just read your latest update... She sounds bloody unreasonable!

You sound lovely and a neighbour I'd like to have!

So, you've tried loads of different stuff whatever you do, she is difficult...

So... Just stop...
Stop letting in her callers
And parcels... She is not your responsibility.

Is there any way you can see the visitors from your flat?? When my bell goes here... I can see from my bedroom window... We have bloody annoying neighbouts... I've now stopped taking in parcels /answering to their guests... (before I've got out of the shower thinking it was for us-our early supper guests... I didn't even get a quick thank you--apparently they couldn't answer their bell, to their guests as they 'were busy' )

Seriously... Why should you continue with this??? Carry on being nice to someone who treats your rudely and dismissively!

Most people are not like this... But sadly there are always bloody diffocult, unreasonable people who think you exist to serve them, and their needs, and don't feel any responsibility to do the tiniest socially acceptable thing in reciprocation

On a more serious note, are they wireless, are they the same make, is there another frequency you could try, are there settings for the chime that you can change?

If they are the same male have you run the manufacturer to see what they suggest?

tell us what the make and model of your bell is. post photo if you can. What did you to to change the channel?

if it can't be fixed, a different make might be better for you.

What floor are you on? How far away is the front door?

No advice, but I live in a block of six apartments and between people ringing the wrong button, ringing the trade button and ringing for other people, our bell goes off all the time. It's frustrating, there's an obvious wiring issue but the company in charge of maintenance haven't bothered to look at it.

@IamtheDevilsAvocado Thank you for the response! Honestly, she is, i physically cannot win! She's a very angry woman! No unfortunately theres a canopy/roof above the door and just blocks my view of seeing who it is! Ive obviously been a bit peed off sometimes but ill happily do it for tgem if needed but today took the biscuit, i had my babu asleep and the way she reacted was not on! Ive gone out rushing to answer the door breastfeeding my little one and all sorts! I'm not anymore, not gojng to do the nice neighbourly thing for her!

@FairyBatman they are wireless indeed! Different makes, ive tried all the different frequencies on the back, resetting, resyncing, changing chune of itnothing helps it! I was more concerned if i got a new wireless one, would it do tje same and ive wasted money as landlord/estate aganet wont do it as mine doesn't ring theirs they don't think mines at fault! With a newborn and on maternity, i also have a disability which made me reduce my hours while pregnant meaning less mat leave money (also had to go on mat allowance not pay from work)

@PigletJohn ive already posted it with a picture :) but its knightsbridge make, it has a setting on back of reciever. Thing is, like ive explained lots, my money is very tight, my landlord wont reimburse due to them seeing its not my doorbell that's the issue (apparently) im unsure really, but, was anxious it would do the same as tney aren't tge same make or anything.

@Ross - yes, its rather annoying! Even more so when no one will sort it for you, seems to be the same everywhere, we have mould in the hallway and no sign of compang anywhere! Hope it gets sorted for you

I realise that she’s a PITA but is it worth asking them to change channel too. You want them to be as far apart as they can be.

@FairyBatman Trust me, ive asked and she wont try anything to make it easier! I think if we both change and sit and try work it oit together it would be easily resolved but she's not up for it!

I had something similar to this where I used to live. My neighbours car fob would set mine off, every time he locked his car my bell would ring. It was one we inherited with the house as it were and it played a tune!!
We took the battery out in the end and told people to knock!

Take away your doorbell, it obviously has the same frequency. Some can be changed. Battery ones are not expensive, or just let people knock Mine has a choice of 12 rings. Quite often someone going past in a car or similar will set it off; but it's always a different ring from the one we've chosen, so we just ignore it.

@shanchanx
Good! Glad you've decided to stop helping....

At the moment shes getting no consequences for her shitty behaviour... She behaved shittily and you run around after her and act as her personal butler...

If she says... Oi slave.... You didn't answer the door to my friend when I was too busy watching TV.... Just act in the most disinterested way?.... Oh was there someone at the door? I was feeding my child/rearranging my teapot collection.

Meet bad tempered people with complete boredom.... It really irritates them

We had this with our neighbours, we both reset the system and it was fine. Can't recall how we did it though!

I now have a 3 month old, no one EVER comes to my doorbell, but at least 3 times a day it rings for them!

Is no one EVER comes to your doorbell, remove it. For the very very very odd occasion someone does come to your door they can either ring you, or ring someone else's doorbell to let them in.

Stop accepting parcels for them or letting in their daughter. She has told you to stop answering the door as it's not for you.

Disconnect your doorbell and let anyone me know who might be calling to contact you via mobile.

@TellMeWhoTheVilliansAre

How an earth am i supposed to know if its nto for me? I do get parcels delivered from my family and occasionally have someone who I'm not expecting.

You were the one who said "no one EVER comes to [your] doorbell"!!

Surely you can tell your family to let you know if they're sending something. How often is this likely to happen? Every week? Every month? Couple of times a year? An unexpected visitor will more than likely ring you if they get no answer.

Surely you can text the most likely callers, explain you have an issue with your doorbell and ask them to let you know if they're calling over and ring you when outside.

If a delivery doesn't get an answer at your bell, they're likely to try another one.