To ask you to describe your average day?

[Poptart4]

I'm mid 30's with 4 kids.

I work 3 days a week. On the days I'm not working an average day would be - bring kids to school, clean house, bit of shopping, watch tv, collect kids from school, homework, kids clubs, dinner, get ready for bed. Then sit down with partner and watch tv for the rest of the night.

I like my life. I'm content even BUT I cant help but feel like I'm missing something. Like everyone else is living a more exciting life than me.

So that's why I ask. What do you do with your day?

Sorry didn't mean to add the voting..

My day now is feeding a newborn every 3 hours, but I'd say, you need a hobby or project or friendship group. Something to tinker with. Just something that's yours, separate from your family.

I work one day a week, with my 2 children the rest of the time. My day seems the same as yours! I have a new boss and she asked me to say three things about myself. She asked several times "but what do you do for you?" I don't really have any time to myself but think this is a phase in life when my time is spent on my children.

Get up, go to work, pick kids up, playtime and bedtime, dinner, TV/internet/read, bed.

Very similar. I either work, look after kids, shop and clean etc. If I have the energy I might go to the gym but only have 1 day a week when that's feasible. I don't have anything that's just for me, except maybe reading if I'm not too tired. I think while my kids are small that's just the way it is and I hope to get more free time once they're in school.

Up at 7, shower

get kids up and dressed, breakfast

drop kids at breakfast club.

Work morning , lunch, work afternoon

Pick up from after school care

Home, tea, dishes

Homework or activities (brownies, cubs, swimming etc)

Kids showered/bathed

30 mins family movie

Stories, bed

Tidy up, sort lunches for tomorrow, do some laundry

TV for 90 mins

Bed

Rinse & repeat.....

Up around 6.50. Wee, cuppa, fag, check online news.

7.15 feed horses and other animals, poo pick, check fences, etc.

9.00 either head off to dog shelter where I pick up (or more accurately hose away) more shit or study for my CBT course or do 'stuff' around the farm.

Generally pack up around 13.00 and have lunch and a siesta.

16.00 watch Tipping Point, do evening feeds and poo pick.

19.00 watch Ch4 news, V&C, cook, chat, eat, drink wine.

10.30 Zzzzzzzzz....

Get up when toddler gets up but no later than 7.30, closer to 6!

Get both of us ready, nursery for LO. University for me. Then work. Home around 8.30, dinner then uni work/Netflix. Sleep.

And repeat...

Very normal but always feels hectic and bust.

@yeahwhatever I'm exhausted just reading that.

@ThisHereMamaBear & @catlady3 I think your right. I do need something that's just for me
Problem is that I've spent so long looking after everyone else I've no idea what I'd like to do for myself.

Alarm at 5.15, snooze, up at 5.30, brush teeth, throw gym kit on, gym class 6-7, home by 7.15 shower, breakfast, leave home by 8am.

Work 9-5, home by 5.45, walk dog (he is looked after by family during the day) make dinner and pack lunches for me and DP for next day, watch TV or tidy or laundy if needed. DP home around 9, chit chat, TV, bed.

Work day: DH does most the domestics. For me...
Bouts of insomnia in middle of night are pretty standard...
Early train/cycle to work, try to go for a lunchtime run (else morning swim). Work all day, cycle/train home. Get jobs done. Try to talk to each DC individually. Feed cats. Tidy or clean that or this. Maybe chaffeur kids somewhere. Catch up on emails while watching a bit of telly. More jobs, prep for next day. Field increasing queries from teenagers as it gets late, shoo them to bed.

Weekend: catch up on the jobs I didn't do in week. More life admin, cleaning, run or/& swim. Track where the teens are or went or ate or didn't eat. Spend time with kids. Shop & do something to support DH as the homebird (he works, too, but fewer hours than me).

I think that's all really good! I don't have any upsetting problems, which is nice.

Sweet child-free friend spends so much time doing nothing at all for anyone else. This boggles my mind.

Sorry but your life seems a bit dull considering you don’t have any children in the house during the day.... watching telly and shopping every day?

Could you give yourself a project?... I work full time now but when I didn’t I was using my school day time to complete the Wainwrights.

On work days ( I only work 4 days)
Up bu 7
Coffee and watch news
Shower get ready
Work at 930
Leave at 5
Meet friends for a quick drink or bite to eat.
Home by 730
Catch up on any cleaning and put washing on.
Bed by midnight.

I try to do all housework and shopping and washing on work days so my days off are mine.
I read or go for a walk or lunch or whatever but they are my rest days.

Get up 7.30am ish. We have a one year old but DH has an hour of quality time with him before work so I get a lie in!

Leave at 9.15am with my son and we usually have a wander with the pram. When he does to sleep I sit in a nice cafe and have a coffee and do some work emails.
11am go to a baby class usually involves ridiculous singing.
12 lunch
1pm nap and I frantically tidy up and do any life admin.
Bit of lazy time when he wakes watching Moana.
3.30pm short trip to library over the road.
6.30pm baby bed
7pm partner home and we eat tea
8.30pm have a bath and a glass of wine maybe, I do marketing for family business so usually catch up on that in the bath. Schedule some posts and work on emails etc
9.30pm do my little skincare routine
10.30pm bed

Two days a week I work 9 - 4 and my son is at nursery and I usually go to some exercises classes during this time too.

Your non work day is exactly like my weekdays.

Wake at 7.

Gets kids ready and off to school

Then between 9-3...shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, tv

3..pick up dc...dinner, after school clubs, homework

Kids in bed at 8/8.30

Then me and dh eat dinner and watch tv

It's groundhog day

I'm up at 6.45am, do nursery drop off and get to work for 8.30. Gym or run at lunchtime. Home around 5.30pm.

In the evening, we feed children and do bedtime. I'm free from 8.30pm, but then I have to sort bags/lunch/laundry etc for the next day, and do any admin like online food shop. This takes until 9/9.30pm. I then do half an hour of yoga, watch a bit of tv and read a book before going to sleep around 11.30pm.

Work 4 days a week where I'm out of the house 6:30 am to 6to 9pm. On late days I come home, shower, eat, faff and bed.

On earlier days I collect child from afterschool care, do bath/bedtime then cook then eat faffsleel.

Days off during the week I have lie in as don't need to leave until 8:30 to take small one to school. Walk the dog. Do washing. Then various home admin jobs (insurance, call tradesmen etc). Then I potter in the garden until time to collect her at 3 pm. Home and do baking edith her. Homework. Cook tea. Eat. bath/bedtime. Then faff online with tv then shower and bed.

No DC
Get up and have a brew
Makeup, breakfast, dressed
Drive to work
Work 8.5hrs
Drive home
Shower, feed cat, tell cat to shut up 100000 times and that I'm not drowning in a shower
Makeup off
Make food for tea and for work the next day
Ring parent
Message friends
FB/MN/Netflix/book
Bed

Repeat 5 x a week

Wake up 7 am, cup of tea and surf the net til 8am.
Get up 8am, stretches, yoga, weights until 9am.
Shower 9am and breakfast. Tidy up and put washing on.
10am - 12noon walk the dog either alone or with a friend.
Shopping/errands 12 - 1pm.
1pm - 5pm either voluntary work or hobby or meeting friends.
6pm cook dinner/have dinner with DH.
7pm either watch tv or go out with social group.
Having adult DC and being retired is great!

Wake up and enjoy first panic attack of the day. Get self up and out of the house whilst managing flashbacks and panic.

Try to do my job whilst managing flashbacks and trying to hide my distress and smile and chat like a normal person. Periodically cry in the toilets.

Come home and have more panic attacks and worse flashbacks because I'm so tired and pushing them away while I'm in public means they're worse later.

Try and do something other than basic survival so I can maintain the delusion this is all worthwhile. (It's not).

Try to sleep but have flashbacks instead. Eventually pass out and have nightmares. Wake up from nightmares and have flashbacks.

Wow, I am quite fucked off with the world.

I've just returned to work 3 days a week.
An average day off would be:
7am get up with ds, change nappy, get showered and dressed.
7.30am take dog for a walk (old man only needs 10/15 minutes)
8am breakfast
9am get ds dressed
9.30am walk to baby group
10-11am baby group, walk home
DS will nap until 12.30pm I will do a load of washing, clean the kitchen and setup floors downstairs.
1pm lunchtime, play with ds, maybe watch hey Duggee for a bit and take dog for another walk.
2.30/3pm ds will have a bottle and go down for a nap, I'll do a bit more housework
5pm dh gets home from work, ds and dog go to my parents and dh and I go to gym
8pm collect boys, ds goes to bed. We make and eat dinner, sort lunches for next day.
Chill in livingroom and go to bed half 10/11ish

That sounds really tough User14366425683113, I hope things look brighter for you soon

Up at 6:45, leave the house at 7:40. Home again just after 6. Cook tea, various chores, TV, talk to husband about his day, read the news etc. Then bed. Not exciting but I'm too tired to do much else. My husband goes to the gym most days and plays team sport twice a week - even if I wanted to I couldn't!

I have 3 kids and work 4 days a week.

Work days are -
Baby wakes me at 6. Pretend I've not noticed so DH will get up and sort breakfast (I've done all night wakings)
Get up by 7, help 5 yo get dressed, tentatively wake 8 yo who has ASD and is NOT a morning person, help him get ready.
Yell frequently until 7:45

7:45 - DH drops me and kids at breakfast club then I get the tram into town

8:30 til 5 - work, do tedious errands at lunch (buy some kid a present, buy headlice lotion, research patio doors etc)

5 - 6 - slowly make my way home with a good podcast on

6 - 8 - tea/bath/bed for kids.

8-9 - tidy up and get everything ready for next day

9-10 - watch something with DH/resettle the baby/fall asleep on sofa

Bed at some point where I inexplicably MN or insta scroll for ages despite being exhausted.

On my day off I do the school runs, entertain the baby, go to some kind of baby group, make several meals and snacks, clean up after meals and snacks.

I have zero 'me-time'. I'm quite a creative person and used to have loads of crafty hobbies but I just don't have the energy or enthusiasm right now. I figure there's time in a few years.