To ask you to describe your average day?

[Poptart4]

I'm mid 30's with 4 kids.

I work 3 days a week. On the days I'm not working an average day would be - bring kids to school, clean house, bit of shopping, watch tv, collect kids from school, homework, kids clubs, dinner, get ready for bed. Then sit down with partner and watch tv for the rest of the night.

I like my life. I'm content even BUT I cant help but feel like I'm missing something. Like everyone else is living a more exciting life than me.

So that's why I ask. What do you do with your day?

@user14366425683113 I hope you can get some practical support to deal with this -maybe start your own thread? Now you've written it down once it might be easier - can you access PTSD therapy through your GP? Do try to start your own thread you will get lots of support here.

2 teenage DC

I get up at 6.30am, pack DC lunches and hunt for things they need for school and have lost, then get back in bed with a cup of tea after they leave the house at 7.30am

Work between 9am - 3pm

From 3.30 - Make dinner, housework, sort any finances, washing and check homework.

8.30pm - DC go to bed. Sometimes my boyfriend comes round and we'll watch a film or I'll spend the evening on my own reading, knitting or on Netflix. I usually go to bed way later than I intend to, about 11.30pm

I am also struggling most days right now with ptsd trauma anxiety attacks due to:

My Abuse as a child,
My rape as an adult
And
The Suicide of my parent.

My every day is a struggle right now.

Wake up - feel incredibly anxious, and in severe emotional pain.
Go to work - try to be normal while feeling so fragile and feeling like I could break down any minute.
Go to social meetups at weekends - feel incredibly anxious before I go , feel incredibly anxious while I am there - and then worry that I am looking anxious and weird, then leave anxiously.

Go home. Feel terrible emotional pain.

My poor mind.
I send sympathy to the other poster on here having panic attacks.

angell84 - It takes incredible strength to continue going to work and socialising with all you are experiencing. I have experienced trauma and it does change you indescribably. I hope that things look brighter for you soon and that you recognise how incredibly strong and amazing you are being every single day.

to you and all who are experiencing pain right now

Thank you for the kind words @FreakForHummous. Little bits of kindness give me a bit of strength. Thank you

to those suffering.

I clicked on this thinking it would be interesting but I'm shocked at how much you all do.

I'm just not capable of doing all that in one day. I'm tired all the time. I just can't do it.

I get up around 10am and a couple of days a week, maybe 8.30am as have to be somewhere.

I have a nap probably 3/4 days a week in the afternoon or evening.

I do lessons with home ed child, lunch, dinner, tidying and sorting most days.
I do each of these things with a rest in between.

I do 1 or 2 days a week with more activity than this, going out and doing something with my kids. The next day I do less and sleep and rest as it knackers me.

On average every 10 to 14 days, I drive 99+ miles to my home town. Whilst there, I do errands and see family. The day before and day after, I rest.

I do not work outside the home but do sell on eBay. I just about manage to keep on top of things and I list things I should be doing but for the last few months not been able to do alot of diy, etc. I'm just too tired.

I see the posts of you all and I feel wierd/sad/silly that I don't do more but at the same time I know I don't want to do more. This is what I can manage right now. Maybe that will change if and when I feel better.

And I spend far too much time on mumsnet.

No DC

Get up @10
Make lunches for DH and I
Go to work (we own our own business), usually work 11-4...... I’m very lucky!
Visit my elderly aunt who has recently lost her husband and help her with errands if she needs it.
A couple of times a week I will go food shopping or see my family.
Usually home about 6. Clean the house and cook dinner for when DH gets home about 7.
Shower then Watch TV and read until 2am.

Up before anyone else at 7am
Wake up kids. Make breakfast and help child with dressing, teeth, bag etc. Shout increasingly louder at teenager to get up! Feed dog.
See children off.
Take dog for a walk. Housework. Sometimes so shattered I go back to bed for 2 hours. And then am really behind at work. But usually I work from home.

Midday youngest child comes,back. Make lunch. Feed dog again.
All afternoon / evening activities and full on care of SN child - to my shock it seems no magic fairies do the necessary therapeutic interventions for a child with severe SN! Sometimes I try and work as well or go on MN. Juggling never works very well though.

Make dinner and try to catch teenager for chats but often quite unsuccessful, before they bury themselves in their room.

Watch TV or put on music. Put youngest to bed. DH never in, works late and then he often goes to sports or social activity. He always says I should too but at 9pm when he usually comes back I’m too shattered to go out!

I work full time, so a work day would be as follows:
Up at 6:45, have breakfast and get ready.
7:45 leave the house, walk to bus stop, get the bus into town, walk to work.
8:30 officially start work
5:15 leave work, bus home.
5:45 until around 6:30 is chill time as my OH gets up (he works nights)/Internet, and some cleaning
6:30 make dinner
7:00pm eat dinner and chill with OH/quick tidy up
8:00pm I’m usually studying/writing assignments/in online tutorials. A little internet.
9:30pm OH leaves and I do a little more housework (just light stuff. He does stuff in the morning before sleeping too), sometimes have a bath, sometimes exercise etc.
10:30pm usually either reading/writing
11:30pm Netflix and chill/online stuff
Then I go to sleep anywhere from 1am to 3am. I’m a really rubbish sleeper.

Weekend is mostly the same but when I’d usually be at work instead I’m studying, writing assignments up, working on my fiction, cleaning, visiting family etc.

Oh, and dog walking/playtime usually gets squeezed into little sections in the evening too. Can’t forget them!

Don't shoot me..

Work 7am till 2pm 15 minutes away by car 5 days a week.

Go out to gigs, dinner, cinema, museums etc about 3 times a week.

Watch films, lay about doing very little (a lot) read, clean, shop, visit family and friends.

Single parent but with older kids (18+).

for people who are struggling.

Normally I get up at 5 to go for a run (can’t at the moment because I am injured ) then shower and breakfast, put washing machine/slow cooker/dishwasher on as required, check kids have all their school stuff, go to work for 8.15. My DH starts work later and works at home 3 days so he does drop off in the morning and I pick up.

Work until 2.45, then bomb it over to my kids school to get them at 3.10.

Get home, homework, play, tea, clubs, sometimes I’ll go to yoga whilst clubs are on. Get home, bedtime.

Tidy up, wash up, make lunches, prep dinner for tomorrow. Have cup of tea with husband. Bed by about 10.30.

Looks quite dull but feels quite busy!

If you're happy/content then enjoy that OP! It's more than most people can say.

My life was very similar last year. Two very young DC and mostly a SAHM. My DH worked crazy hours so I couldn't even get out in the evenings for exercise/meet a friend/join a class. It wasn't enough for me, I wanted to cry with boredom most days. I always wanted to write and had dabbled in it before I had the DC, so I took it on as a project something "just for me" and wrote a novel while the DC napped/went to bed. I can't tell you the sense of achievement I gained from it. I highly recommend a hobby/project to work towards if you feel things are stagnant or you're just drifting through the motions.

30s, married, no kids.

Get up at 5.45, go for a swim with husband at my local gym, shower there and get ready for work. Take the train in, work 9-5 officially but usually a good bit later in the evenings. A couple of nights a week husband and I will go to the cinema / out for dinner / pub quiz with friends / late night opening at a museum or something like that. Other nights I come home, have dinner, either watch something on Netflix, catch up on work, or read. I sometimes pop round to a friend who lives nearby, or she comes to see me.

I work from home some days, and then instead of the swim in the morning I catch up on house work.

Get up get eldest child ready for school
Eat breakfast
School run for eldest
Come home and bath two year old
Housework
Soft play/swimming/ shopping
or other activity
Make lunch for me and youngest
Nap time (I have a nap with toddler)
Pick up eldest from school
Snack time
Activity such as play doh or a trip to the park
Tv for children whilst I make dinner
Husband arrives home we eat dinner
Homework or spellings
Tidy up after dinner
Bath children and read bedtime story
Put wash on
Settle down watch TV
Bed around 9pm

alarm at 5.45.
Get up, shower, take tea back to bed and read for 30 mins
(3 mornings a week i run so get up run, shower instead)
get dressed, sort my bag for the day pack DD bag.
Wake her at 7.30, do her hair.
Leave at 7.45- DH does morning school run.
Work 8-5.30 ish Mon-Fri
Pick DD from school
6pm- we have a sport or club every week day.
7.30/8.30 (depending on sport) Home
If DH home he cooks, if not I cook something quick
Help DD with Homework.
9pm put DD to bed.
I will then work/study for my masters.
10-11pm watch a bit of TV/ read in living room with DH/talk about our day
11pm Yoga then bed.

Weekend, Saturday is for chores, Sunday we tend to go for a walk or go to see family.

If you feel you are missing something is it because there is nothing to look forward to/no surprises/no progression. I find I have a lack of motivation if i'm not learning something new.
I always try to have something physical to train for (half marathon, open water swim etc), something to occupy my brain (Doesn't have to be formal study) and something that stokes my passion (we try to have 1-2 trips in the pipeline to look forward to)

Up at 5.40, shower, put a wash in the machine on a timer, put the dishwasher on get dressed, clean litter tray. Wake the kids at 6.30, out the door by 7.10, drop to childcare then on to work.

I pick them up at 6pm then its home for showers, homework, I hang the wash out, unload dishwasher, make and have dinner, reload with dinner stuff, do bedtime stories, TV/read then bed myself.

Usually throw in random extra like hoovering the living room and hall, dusting, ironing etc too, at least one of these each week night.

Mon - Fri up at 5.50, need to start getting up earlier I think. Wake the child, get ready. Out the house at 7.00 am with the dog. Back for 7.45 ish, mad rush to get ready for school / work. In the car for 8.00, drop off at school, drive to work.

Some days I go back at lunch to the dog, others he’s at daycare. Finish work 5.30, OH has normally picked LO up. Go home, if the dogs not been to daycare he needs walking. Cook tea, homework, reading, washing etc. Then either go to the gym or a run. Back by 8.00 pm, quick tidy. Sort stuff for work. Usually sat down by 9.00, in bed 10-10.30 ish. And repeat x infinity

Work 4 days a week, 8.30-4.30. 2 ds age 14 and 20. Adult dd and dgd who don't live with me. I'm 40, married. Husband does all household washing, we share everything else.
5.30 alarm on days I run, 6.30 on the others. Same routine on my day off but I'll run for longer.
Home by 7am, shower and off to work before 8.
Gym after work x 3 times a week.
See my dad 3x during the week.
Home after gym or dad by 7 or so depending on where we eat.
Bed by 9 every week night.
On my day off, I see my dgd, do a bit of work in my friends shop, go to a nearby city if I need to do clothes shopping etc, or I'll use the night before to get a show in in London and stay with relatives and travel home on my day off.
Ive done the little kids thing, I'm so glad it is over for me, life does get more varied and fun as the kids grow up. I travel a lot now, for pleasure and take my 14 yo all over with me now I can afford to, was not the same when they were all little due to awful relationship and not being allowed a life or to work.

Stay at home mum, partner works, 1 baby nearly a year old.

Wake at 6am, leave baby in bed and pour a coffee. We all share the same bed. Often partner still in bed especially if working lates so he keeps an ear for her waking.

Put on a laundry load

Feed cat

Clear litter tray

Feed dogs

Feed and water and spot clean rabbits

Have a clean about the house if anything needs doing

8am breakfast for baby and another coffee, partner would nornally be up and helping or at work by now

Once breakfast is done the reptile and fish lights should be on - check everything is working correctly while little one plays and she likes to help feed the fish and watch them a while.

Walk dogs

Feed the bug eating reptiles and the tortoise - snake gets his mouse once a week, top up all waters and spot clean enclosures

10 - baby goes for a nap, after a quick feed, clean up all the morning toys and dishes and bits.

10:30 - 11 me and baby (sometimes partner if not working till afternoon) go outside and play about in most weathers, normally in the field and the dogs come along as they are big mutts who like to join in.

Around 12:30 we have lunch then i feed and water the bug colonies.

After lunch is another dog walk. Then me and the baby handle some reptiles and fuss the cat and dogs, often get out some paper and crayons and paints for some messy time. All play is very interactive and I chat away about the animals - she learnt to say snake yesterday

Nap sometime between 3 and 4 which gives me a chance to tidy away after our play, make a start on dinner.

More play, sometimes a dance to some music

6pm, we sit down to eat, sometimes partner is home sometimes not - me and baby or partner walks the dogs again

After dinner baby has a bath and then we go round and check the animals again. Quiet time until 8 - reading, playing with quiet toys and so on, soothing music

8 oclock is baby bedtime. Check the reptile lights are off.

Feed and water rabbits

Feed dogs

Feed cat

Have a tidy

Sit and relax until we go to bed

Thats a typical day, more fun when partner is off and we blast througj the animal care and head for a day out, often with dogs in tow.