To consider a boob lift and mini tummy tuck as a single mum?

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I'm 36, 2dc aged 6 and 8 and my body is a mess. In clothes I look fine, I'm a size 10, wear a 30f bra and I think I look ok.

But... take my clothes off and oh my god. I look awful. During my first pregnancy I got a lot of stretch marks all over my tummy and I mean a lot!! I now have loose skin and silvery marks all over it. My boobs are saggy with not much volume and if I lie on my back they are under my armpits.

I'm so self conscious of my naked body I daren't let a man see it even though I am so lonely 😭

I'm thinking surgery is the way to go but I am not sure on the cost? Or more so the recovery is worrying me being a single parent, will I cope with it?

Does anyone know how much it is likely to cost and how long I will need to take off work and be back to normal?

Go for it. Life changing stuff, that.

Best thing a boyfriend ever said to me:
If a man finds you attractive with your clothes on he’ll like you even more if you are naked with him.

Don’t waste your money

If I was a single mum I wouldnt have any operation that was cosmetic. They all come with risks. I have a 30cm scar that resembles a zip right down my front and many other operation, central line and drain scars. DH sees them as a sign of my surviving against all the odds.

If it makes you feel more confident, why not.
But it could be you spend all this money, and still don't like what you see in the mirror.
I'm sure, like most of us, you look so much better than you realise! Size 10 with 30f bra size....sounds bloody good to me!
Either way your bod your choice, do what makes you happy!

I haven't had any cosmetic surgery, but I know a few mums who have, and it really was good for their confidence. As long as you're doing it for you and your own self esteem rather than the sole reason of being more appealing to a future partner then I don't see the harm, as long as you have realistically weighed up the pros and cons of having major surgery.

For me it's about weighing up the risk of optional surgery. While the risk of something serious happening is low, it's still there. I would be happy with that risk if it was just for myself, but now I have a child I'm not sure I'd be as gung-ho about it. That's just my personal thoughts.

Don’t waste your money.

If you don’t love yourself now when you’re slim and young where will it end?

Will you keep getting Botox/ facelifts at every line until you look like Joan rivers?

If you hate the way you look you will just hate something new after surgery.

Spend the money on therapy instead.

I had a boob job 10 years ago before I had a child.It was £3995 back then.Ive just had them replaced and it cost me £7895 .Its an expensive process.

Do whatever suits you. You're always going to get very polarised views on here.

No, as a single parent I would not run the risk of having unnecessary surgery.
What type of anaesthetic would you need and what are the risks from that?

I think that having major abdominal surgery so that you will feel comfortable having a boyfriend would be a very bad decision.

i'm over 60 and the best thing i've done in a long time was my mastopexy (reduction and lift) and hell yes i really should have had the tummy taken care of. i might for my 70th birthday.
all the money wasted on bra's, the discomfort, the ill fitting clothing, the heat in the summer...pain in the neck, having to scoop them out from under my armpit at night...
go for it if you want it. time off...depends what you do.

I have nothing against cosmetic surgery, but as a single parent why risk it? Surgery carries risks. Only recently a young woman died after having butt implants. An acquaintance of mine nearly died during a breast augmentation op when her DC were small. Is it worth it?

What's your budget?

I had a boob job at age 20 and honestly it was the best thing ever for my confidence. Ive had 3 friends ask me for recommendations in the last year, because they all felt very self conscious after having kids and every single one of them is really happy with the result.
If you can afford it, then go for it.
You will need help though with the kids during recovery.

Why not, if you have someone to take care of you and your kids as you recover, and if you won't suffer any financial hardship. www.nhs.uk/conditions/cosmetic-procedures/tummy-tuck/

I had breast augmentation as a single mother and it's the best thing I ever did. Surgery wasnt as drastic as yours would be but I cooed a lot better than I thought I would.

As long as you are doing it for yourself, and not in the thoughts it'll bag you a man etc, then I think you should go for it.

Do it. Don't look at your body with revulsion. Do something to make you love it again. Drop the kids off with dad for 2 weeks in the summer and have it done then.

I'm 65 and would have some surgery tomorrow if I could afford it without affecting general living standards.

It's a case of listing pros and cons to me

Financially
Can you afford it? - and still live the life you want to lead and give your kids what you want to give them (Don't prioritise it over meeting your kid's needs/desires)
Esteem
Are you expecting it to solve all your problems> (It won't). It won't be perfect, you can expect that it won't be exactly the same on each side, it's unlikely to be as good as your dreams and your body will continue to age; changing accordingly.
Recovery
It will be bloody painful, you will need time off work, not be able to do things with your kids etc - need to allow for at least a 6 week recovery, although you will be mobile very quickly.

If you can afford it, taking all these into consideration, then go for it. You may live to regret it BUT for me, if I could afford it, I would regret it more if I didn't take the chance opportunity

Agree with @DesLynamsMoustache, @Obsidian77 & @KeepYourWigOn. As a single parent I think you need to think about the risks associated with the worst case scenario. Although rare, if you had a bad reaction to the anaesthetic or didn't come around after surgery, what would happen to your kid(s)?

What kind of income do you have? I wouldn’t do it if it meant I couldn’t afford to take my kids on holiday.

After my twins I had a tummy tuck and breast lift. Best thing I have ever done!! I always felt so dumpy before. Thanks twin skin

Recovery is really bad for two weeks. But then I was able to get back to work.

I would and will one day when I can loose a few stone! I'd just say maybe have it done in UK with a reputable surgeon and have 24 hour help at home for first week or so? Good luck and hopefully I'm a year or two behind you!

I so get where you are coming from, OP, and I would be very tempted. But i knew somebody who died very unexpectedly on the operating table, while having what was thought to be a routine tummy tuck. She was only in her early 40s, and left two young kids. I would be wary since then.

Go for it OP but it will be expensive. I’m 32, a 34jj bra size, and I’m having a reduction and uplift in July. I can’t bloody wait!

Can you book a free consultation at one of the clinics to ask? I had a consultation with both Elanic and Transform, with Elanic I actually met the surgeon on the day and loved him so I’m going with them (for a lot of reasons) it’s costing me 7k but will be so worth it