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AIBU?

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How to share apartment cost ....

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ferrier · 09/03/2020 01:43

Two bed apartment. Shared bathroom, kitchen and lounge area. Couple sharing one room. Single in the other. Couple want to share the cost 50:50, ie they pay £50 and the single pays £50. Single thinks it should be more like £40 for the single and £60 for the double.
YANBU - the single has it right.
YABU - the couple have it right. Pay per bedroom.

OP posts:

TheLowry · 09/03/2020 09:52

The cost of the holiday is not just based on bedrooms. but on the use of shared facilities. So 1/3rd each would be fairer.

Maythelordopen1 · 09/03/2020 10:00

It doesn’t matter either way...imo it should be split 3 ways!!
Holiday- 3 ways!!
Renting-3 ways!

My theory being for renting if it starts with two ppl and one moves a partner in then it changes to three way split!! The partners room share doesn’t benefit by getting reduced rent!!

TheLowry · 09/03/2020 10:00

How about this:-

5 rooms in the flat - so each costs 20% of total price.
3 rooms are shared - so each person pays 1/3rd of the 60% cost - 20% each.
The couple share a room so pay 10% each for their room (20% total).
Single pays 20% for their room.

Cost for single = 40%.
Cost for couple = 60% between them.

Intelinside57 · 09/03/2020 10:02

Holiday so 1/3 each.

Intelinside57 · 09/03/2020 10:03

I have to say Op, the fact that they think a 50/50 split is fair would give me second thoughts about the holiday.

lynzpynz · 09/03/2020 10:09

If both the couple and the singleton got separate 1 bed apartments would the single person get a single occupancy discount at the place you are staying? Might help to check and settle the argument and can apply that discount to their room in the shared apartment. If not then both rooms pay 50/50. If you can't agree then get separate apartments.

It is shit being on your own when looking at anything like this, your individual costs are always more than those in couples and a lot of those in couples don't seem to have much empathy. We always split per person when we go away as a group for my 2 single friends and all chip in a pot for groceries etc. but that's our choice - not everyone thinks that way (and are under no obligation to). I've been the single person, and now as part of a long established couple understand completely how much harder it is making one wage stretch when compared to two!

Absolutely no question all bills, messages etc. Are split 3 ways. whatever you decide.

Caspianberg · 09/03/2020 10:19

50/50

If they both rented x2, 1 bedroom hotel room/ apartments then the single person would be paying way more. If the single person didn't go, then I assume the couple would be staying in a cheaper 1 bed.

1/3 on things they are actually using more like food

mummmy2017 · 09/03/2020 10:29

Just tell them it 1/3 each or your not going.

ConcernedForAGoodFriend · 09/03/2020 10:55

1/3 each.

If this were a hotel room they'd be paying per person.

I've never seen a hotel room cost a flat rate regardless of how many people are occupying it so why should a holiday apartment be any different?

The couple are being CFs and if I were the single person I'd pull out at this point if the others are making a fuss about it!

Jeezoh · 09/03/2020 10:58

Couple pays 2/3, single pays 1/3. If the couple don’t agree, the single should drop out and the couple can pay 100%.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 09/03/2020 11:02

If they are quibbling I wouldn't go on holiday with them. Imagine what else they would casually throw into the financial mix!

cochineal7 · 09/03/2020 11:11

If single person would have to rent their own 1-bedroom cottage it would be much more expensive, while if the couple rented a smaller 1-bedroom cottage they would get it cheaper. So both are better off when sharing 50-50. If you share 66.6-33.3 (per person), you might find it it significantly cheaper for the single but not for the couple, which also doesn't seem fair.

Pilot12 · 09/03/2020 11:19

If it's a holiday rental split the cost into three, each person pays a third.

AgentPrentiss · 09/03/2020 11:24

1/3 each is the only fair way IMO.

Caspianberg · 09/03/2020 11:24

@ConcernedForAGoodFriend - hotel rooms are always per room, not per guest. You only pay per guest if you book an all inclusive type holiday rather than a regular hotel room.
Ie I can stay in london in a standard double room with sofa by myself for say £200 per night. Or I could ask for the sofa to be opened out, and stay with dh and x2 children for the same £200 per night.

Lippy1234 · 09/03/2020 11:31

No hotel rooms can cost more if you have three or four guests.

bingoitsadingo · 09/03/2020 11:51

For a holiday, I'd just split it equally. Presumably the couple actually want to share a room, so why should they pay less for that. Assuming all 3 are in agreement about wanting to holiday together, one double and one single room means everyone gets the type of room that they want. So split the costs equally.

MsFrosty · 09/03/2020 12:01

If it's just for room cost then 50:50 but if utilities are required to be paid for then by thirds

strawberry2017 · 09/03/2020 12:03

Split 3 ways. Renting or holiday. Only fair way to do it

Batqueen · 09/03/2020 12:15

It depends on several factors

If I’m going on holiday with my friend and my boyfriend decides to tag along, we split three ways as otherwise, she and I might have shared a room so it’s not fair to stick her with higher costs.

If I’m going on holiday with my boyfriend and my friend tags along, she’s an extra and we need an extra room, she pays for the full extra room.

If we plan it fully as a three, we discuss in advance but the only time we have done this we split three ways as I felt that was fairer, we all shared living space. I did expect, and got, first dibs on rooms as there were two of us.

Knittedfairies · 09/03/2020 12:20

For a holiday I'd expect to split the whole thing 3 ways.

Original poster

ferrier · 10/03/2020 07:21

@TheLowry

5 rooms in the flat - so each costs 20% of total price.
3 rooms are shared - so each person pays 1/3rd of the 60% cost - 20% each.
The couple share a room so pay 10% each for their room (20% total).
Single pays 20% for their room.

Cost for single = 40%.
Cost for couple = 60% between them.

That's exactly how I worked it out

Seems like the majority think IANBU but as there are some who think 50:50 is fair and I don't want to cause a bad atmosphere for this holiday I will try to just let it pass.
But if there's a next time I won't be going along with their 'upgrade' to an apartment and will just stick with my room in the hotel with single person's supplement.
Thanks all for your thoughts.

OP posts:

WeAllHaveWings · 10/03/2020 07:28

How much were you/they paying before and after the upgrade?

If they are paying the same and you are having to absorb the upgrade costs that is not fair.

Clymene · 10/03/2020 07:30

Just don't go. On holiday when sharing with a friend, no one spends any time in their bedroom anyway.

They aren't your friends if you are subsidising their holiday!

SoloMummy · 10/03/2020 07:57

How much extra are you paying for this upgrade? How much extra are they paying for the upgrade? In comparison to the hotel?

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