To not answer video calls/FaceTime calls?

[BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz]

I hate answering actual phone calls let alone the ones where we are actually looking at each other's faces.

It all just feels like so much effort. Text me or whatsapp me.

Don't bloody FaceTime me. I'll ignore it anyways.

YABU if it's your toddler.

FaceTime is the work of the devil. Especially when you're my age (early 50s) as the camera emphasises every single sag and line and you end up looking about 70. Or maybe that's just me.

Oh god yes. Having to then look at your own face while talking is like a punishment.

I hate it with a vengeance too. I have a family member that constantly video calls. She'll intentionally miss my voice call and then video call back within seconds. Sometimes I'll give in and answer, but try to face it towards the ceiling or wall and make out that my hands are occupied therefore I can't hold the phone up.

I think it's a real invasion of privacy. Unless it's prior agreed then it shouldn't be done spontaneously. It's like someone banging on your house door demanding to be let in. My friend does it regularly, I told her I don't like to be seen without makeup on and my hair a wet straggly mess after being in the bath, but she says she doesn't care. Well I care!! Anyway it bit her back the other day when she video called me on the hop presuming i'd be able to answer her call, I was actually in the pub with another friend so answered it, and there she was with her hair a mess, dressing gown on and no makeup for all to see! And she was cross about it. Well ... there's my point exactly. it works for some people, some times and you've got to be in the mood imo

I love FaceTime. I use it with relatives abroad. It’s great being able to have a natural interaction rather than a phone call which can be stilted. I used to worry about how I looked but then it dawned on me that I’m not bothered about what my relatives look like, therefore they’re unlikely to care what I look like!

I won't answer it unless pre-agreed.

YATNBU I don't even like answering voice calls.

I have at least two friends who ring when a WhatsApp would have done the job and then 30 mins later they're still talking at me and I just desperately want to hang up. I keep saying I don't like being phoned but they think it's hilarious

I’m not a fan of FaceTime. I do with DD when I’m away with work or she’s staying with GPs.

Yeah I hate voice calls too so maybe that's part of it. And it absoloutley does feel like an invasion of privacy.

I don't even answer phone calls usually, I wait for text or voicemail.

I don't like chatting, don't like being put on the spot, and don't like mundane small talk.

I’d never FaceTime someone without pre-arranging it and would be a bit if someone did it to me out of the blue. YANBU!

I don't like chatting, don't like being put on the spot, and don't like mundane small talk

Jesus christ! Do you have a job? How do you live?

Ugh, YANBU! I’d hate this! I look like shit up close, I rarely bother with make up, they’ll probably catch me with hair scraped back, in slob clothes.

I do have a job thanks! In data. Mostly dealing with formulas and spreadsheets. 👍🥰

Do people actually use facetime regularly to speak to their normal group of friends/family?? I only ever use it to talk to DH when he is away, or to speak to some relatives who live on the other side of the world. And it's always prearranged. I would be a little weirded out if my friends facetimed me constantly

I think it's a real invasion of privacy. Unless it's prior agreed then it shouldn't be done spontaneously. It's like someone banging on your house door demanding to be let in

I don’t like FaceTime but it is literally, 100% NOT at all like this!!

I’m with you op, hate FaceTime and phone calls, too time consuming

I love FaceTime! I personally don't get the need to look 'pretty' or even 'presentable' 100% of the time when it comes to friends and family. I don't care if my friends have a cyst, acne, chin rolls, huge pores, eye bags et cetera. We're completely comfortable with each other and I think it's a shame to have to be self conscious in front of people you love and care about.

My children have given up with face time calls. Apparently you are not meant to hold the phone to your ear!

I briefly dated someone who would insist on video timing me at random times and with no warning, and then got annoyed when I couldn’t or didn’t want to. I ghosted him.

*video calling!

I completely agree. I hate video calls. My mil always calls dh that way and you can bet that whenever she does the room is untidy or I'm looking haggard or something. I tend to run off to hide in another room.

I think it's a shame to have to be self conscious in front of people you love and care about

I'm not self conscious about it. I just don't get it. Why do it? It's fucking awkward.

I agree. I also leave the room if my dh facetimes. And people face timing in public really get on my nerves