To no longer want my evening alone

[chellochello]

So this is probably the 1st weekend evening I've had alone in about a year - my 2 older kids are sleeping at friends, my youngest is fast asleep in bed and my DH is on a rare boys night out. I've been soo looking forward to this night thinking I'll have a little glass of wine and watch some grown up telly and enjoy me own company for a bit. However now I'm all on my own I don't know what to do with myself and find I'm sitting watching Ant and Dec feeling a bit sorry for myself with a cup of tea instead - anyone recommend anything I can watch to cheer myself up?

@NatashaAlianovaRomanova you made me giggle at ASDA and then sad as Im intending to watch Joker tonight as Ive heard its good.
@chellochello watch whatever your family would moan about while chilling in preperation for the return to normality tomorrow.

Don't worry op, it will soon be tomorrow and you'll be wishing you had a few hours to yourself.

Casualty's on. Nothing like a few illnesses, accidents and a bit of illicit romance to take your mind off things.

My cat brought a mouse indoors earlier and proceeded to eat it in front of me - crunch, crunch. That took my mind off me for a while.

I love being on my own, would happily be a hermit.

OhCaptain Sat 07-Mar-20 21:18:41
Nasty fuckers for literally no reason.

How do you know?

Because I can read?
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I obviously missed something! Don't tell me.

I can't imagine such an innocuous post by the op would generate nastiness - obviously people in bad moods tonight for unrelated reasons.

Don't take it personally, op, they are not important people to you.

@ohcaptain was that aimed at me?

If it was then yes I do get where others are coming from. Not the unnecessarily nasty ones, but I definitely understand the feeling of being at a loose end and lonely for more than 1 night.

Because I can read?

Minds ?

Are you drunk?!

There was no reason at ALL for people, regardless of circumstances, to be so mean on such an innocuous post.

What are you not understanding here?

YABU

I’ve taken a babysitting job tonight and left dh with the kids so I get some peace and quiet!

What are you not understanding here

How you can claim to know the reasons who people responded as they did.

Have I said anywhere that it was ok for people to be so mean? No.

Are you drunk?

@RoryGilmore I’m not talking to you.

@fiddledefiddle I never said I know why people responded how they did. I don’t need to know any background to know that when you’re a nasty fucker to someone online on a causal internet chat, there’s absolutely no reason or excuse for it.

It doesn't matter if you think you're justified. You are not. Whatever reason you think you've got for being nasty to someone who has done nothing to you, it's bollocks. There's literally no excuse for being a venomous wee shite on the internet to people who have done absolutely nothing to you and are just looking to chat. I don't care what your back story is because it's irrelevant.

Emmerdale everyone I've spoken to say it's great but I'm not a massive Joaquin Phoenix or to be fair batman/joker fan so I wouldn't take my opinion on board too much

I'm quite conscious of the fact I often sabotage my alone time. Last Saturday I had most of the afternoon and evening to myself in a hotel room. I had looked forward to it so much. I was going to read my book, watch Netflix, catch up on a couple of programmes on iPlayer. Yet I ended up spending an hour playing games and scrolling FB then slept for an hour in the afternoon - things I could have done at home or anywhere else - and it left me really flat. However after dinner I went back to my room and disciplined myself to do what I had planned - poured myself a drink, changed into bed clothes and binged Netflix.

Hope you still have an hour or so to enjoy yourself.

Nasty fuckers for literally no reason.

How do you know?

There is no reason for anybody to be horrible to the OP. Whatever is going on with others to make them miserable, it's not her fault.
She's not walking around in front of homeless people complaining that her diamond shoes are too tight FFS. She's merely said that an evening on her own isn't quite as good as she thought it would be.

Have people really taken offence to this?

Ah those wonderful evenings on one's own! I really enjoy them

I live in a noisy household. DH and DS2 are big tall men who generate a lot of noise. Plus DH has to have 'background noise' so the TV is always on. And if I try to watch something one or the other of them has to either make comments or start a conversation.

When I'm on my own I like to turn everything off and listen to the silence. If I get bored with that, then it's movies and streaming video uninterrupted of the sort that DH and DS wouldn't want to watch.

I spend every evening alone sometimes I enjoy it sometimes I hate it lol

AcrossthePond55 I sit in silence in the morning just before work, and after I've finished (I'm a dinner lady ) the Tv doesn't get switched on until the kids are home from school.

What have I missed??

MN can kick off at the strangest of times

Enjoy what time you have left, OP, before the noise is back

Surely you have some interests/hobbies you can do. Read a book?

It really isn’t healthy to be completely dependent on other people for your happiness/contentment.

PJMasks I feel you, sister. Even if there are still the sounds of cars, dogs, or the general noises of 'outside' it's still the absence of the 'inside' noise, isn't it?

I'm reminded of the line from the Desiderata: "Go placidly amidst the noice and haste, and remember what peace there is in silence".

*noise.

I don’t think OP is saying she’s completely dependent on other people for her happiness? More that she was looking forward to an evening alone and at the start found it to be a bit of an anti climax. Hopefully now it’s improved for her!

First Dates on C4 / All4 and a tub of ice cream! Maybe a bath and a face pack. Dance around the room to MTV?! I don’t like a quiet house either so I understand how you are feeling. Hope you enjoy your night off though in the end!