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AIBU?

respond to email

27 replies

busyme1 · 06/09/2007 22:42

To expect my first love who i am in contact with from time to time- lives in another country to at least acknowlege Email or reply email i sent, to say it was my birthday last week.

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SleeplessInTheStaceym11House · 06/09/2007 22:48

might be a bit harsh but YABU, sometimes life gets in the way of email

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sweetcherrypie · 06/09/2007 22:49

YABU to expect him to remember. If it were a currant boyfriend then you have every right to be mad but as it's your ex then he shouldn't be expected to remember. I am still friends with my ex who was my first love and i wouldn't expect him to send me a txt or an email to say happy birthday (he had trouble when we were together

Without meaning to sound mean, even though your still friends he has probably moved on to another part of his life and your not his priority anymore (still not being mean). My first love has a new girlfriend now and i accept that he has moved on and don't expect anything from him anymore.

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busyme1 · 06/09/2007 22:52

He could at least replied to email i sent....

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controlfreakybackfromherhols · 06/09/2007 22:53

you'll get over it..... move on!

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sweetcherrypie · 06/09/2007 22:54

Do you still want him because it sounds a bit like do? (still not being mean)

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Olihan · 06/09/2007 22:54

YABU, he lives in another country, contact is sporadic, he's your ex - he most likely has other things to do and it isn't as important to him as it is to you.

My dh finds it hard enough to acknowledge my birthday and he lives with me, sees me constantly and we're happily married.

It's a man thing .

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MamaG · 06/09/2007 22:55

LOL at controlfreaky - don't mince your words, will you!!

I do agree tho with CF

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Doodledootoo · 06/09/2007 22:56

Message withdrawn

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3andnomore · 06/09/2007 22:58

well, unless you are really involved in eachothers lifes now...there is no reason for acknoledgement, especially if contact is sporadic...so..get over it, tbh...

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busyme1 · 06/09/2007 22:58

SAD isn't, from time to time I feel something, i'm happily married with kids.

We met up some years back and promised each other we will be in each other's hearts forever!

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3andnomore · 06/09/2007 23:00

what...you send him an e-mail to remind him of your special day...I hope not...I mean, that would be sad...and if he hasn't replied to a generic E-mail...gosh, it si sort of Holiday season, so, oh maybe he just wans't around to reply...honest...get over yourself here....

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3andnomore · 06/09/2007 23:02

busy...if you are meant to be in eachothers hearts...well, then there is no need for acknoledgement,surely...you meant to read eachother mind...you say you are hapily maried...so, why is this so important....?????????????????

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HonoriaGlossop · 06/09/2007 23:05

If I were him I'd deliberately ignore any e-mail, from anyone who would e-mail to 'say it was their birthday'. Cringe.

YAB totally U

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busyme1 · 06/09/2007 23:06

is not, i just feel its very rude of him to ignore email, i 'm not going to contact him again as CF said, will move on ,

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ghosty · 06/09/2007 23:08

Isn't it a bit weird to be 'happily married' but talk of a 'first love' and 'being in eachother's hearts for ever'?

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Olihan · 06/09/2007 23:09

God, I 'ignore' emails from good friends all the time. I open them, read them the RL takes over and I forget that I ought to reply for weeks on end. I'm not ignoring them on purpose, it's just what happens. I don't get offended if it happens the other way round.

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busyme1 · 06/09/2007 23:10

no really, talked of fond memories etc, nothing to do with present situations

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3andnomore · 06/09/2007 23:28

YABU...then...honest you are being a precious oprincess here...

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MilkMonitor · 07/09/2007 08:36

Maybe he wants to slowly phase you out of his life? I'm sure he's got a lot of people who are more in his life whose birthdays he has to remember. YABU.

Why are you hankering after attention from your first love?

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breeze · 07/09/2007 08:40

agreed YABU

IF your happily married this wouldn't even have come on your radar.

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breeze · 07/09/2007 08:41

or perhaps he has a new girlfriend/love of his life, that finds it quite bizarre the emails the talk of hearts forever, reminds me of my early teenage years.

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geekymummy · 07/09/2007 10:39

would your DH be pleased to hear this? I wouldn't be happy about it, for sure!

IMO, YABU

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choccybuttons · 07/09/2007 10:53

I don't understand why you think your ex still has to make effort with you? It sounds like he has moved on and you really shouldn't be getting upset or annoyed that he didn't reply especially as your married with two kids. YABU.

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busyme1 · 07/09/2007 11:06

yea isuppose im BU, but i thought we could stay friends

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chloesmumtoo · 07/09/2007 11:12

Its funny how people are so different. But if I even so called emailed a platonic email to an ex my partner would not be at all pleased lol.

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