Ex has been to a concert board this week and now a weekend away

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My kids ex posted on FB to say he was attending a rock concert earlier this week in Berlin.

Then he is tagged in another post to show he has gone skiing in the Alps this weekend.

I had no idea about either but that's not the AIBU.

He has voluntarily taken two trips this week, so he will have been on four planes in a few days, and he also mixed with thousands of people at the concert. He will be in close proximity with lots of people over the next few days in the chalet or hotel and on ski lifts, in bars etc.

He will want to see the children as arranged next weekend, if he picks up the Coronavirus, they will become infected and give it to me. I have incurable cancer, am on chemotherapy and have reduced immunity. My estimated death rate if I catch it is between 6 and 15% depending on what you read.

Would IBU to tell him he can't see the kids until he's been back for 14 days symptom free?

@RedHelenB Problem is it can take 2 weeks for the symptoms to appear. This is why it is so dangerous. The problem is not healthy people getting it. The problem is healthy people not knowing they have it yet and passing it onto people that getting this is a death sentence for

This virus will be everywhere soon what will you do then ? Incidentally I do have a compromised immune system .
Just take reasonable precautions but you can't stop their kids seeing their dad because he's been to a concert. I fly most weeks , attend numerous concerts. (was at one last night ) I go to to the supermarket, I go to work , I go to the park I go to the library.

You have as much chance of catching it off a stranger than off him. I was very paranoid yesterday in the supermarket touching the handle of the shopping trolley.
Life can't stop. Just ensure that when your kids return they wash their hands immediately and take reasonable or extra precautions. Such as wash their clothes that have been to their dads immediately.
It'll just make you feel better

There was a man on five 5 radio this week saying the same story. His ex wouldn't let him see the kids for 14 days. He had to admit that he understood as it was for kids sake.

Good luck. YADNBU. I would do the same. They can chat on the phone instead. Presumably he's managed to have no contact whilst being away so what's the difference?

Some people's selfish knows no bounds. He's so petulant and spoilt that he'd rather risk you dying, leaving his children with no parent and potentially having to have them all the time than give up his weekend. Actually, it's not even selfish, he's just a moron.

Tell him that it's on doctors' advice- and yes, don't word it as he can't have them, but that if he does have them he will have to make arrangements to keep them for the following 2 weeks.