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Original poster

Long haul flight plus Uber driver “telling” me off

27 replies

Rosiejim · 06/03/2020 18:52

Am i overthinking this? Just spent about 20 hours travelling long haul. Returning to London so I got a train arriving to a bigish station nearish to my home and then picked up an Uber. I crossed the road and went down a side street to make it easier before ordering the Uber so they wouldn’t have to pick up on a main road.
Uber driver accepts my booking and then as soon as I get in starts to give me a long lecture, (repeated twice) about how I should have ordered the cab from the other side of the station. I hmmd and agreed a bit. A few minutes later he starts to tell me actually I shouldn’t have ordered an Uber at all. I should have taken a tube.
I don’t live near a fucking tube and I have a massive case and am exhausted. I snapped this at him pretty much and now have guilt that I was rude but also I’m exhausted and I’m wondering would this guy be lecturing a male repeatedly on how he should or shouldn’t be travelling! Is this mansplaining or do I have long haul rage? Also why accept the booking if you don’t want the fare?

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YouTheCat · 06/03/2020 18:54

He's a twat. You didn't ask for his advice and him repeating it over is just him being a wanker. And no, I doubt he'd have said anything to a man.

mrsbyers · 06/03/2020 18:54

Give him a bad review , you’re tired and he’s being an arse just get yourself home and chill

HollowTalk · 06/03/2020 18:55

Is he trying to make himself unemployed?

What will you rate him?

TheTrollFairy · 06/03/2020 18:55

Makes no sense. You order a taxi (or Uber) for where is convenient for you surely?
Why was he talking himself out of any future customers?

5zeds · 06/03/2020 18:56

Boring person. Ignore and sink into your own bed.

listsandbudgets · 06/03/2020 19:03

You asked and paid him to pick you up from A and to drop you off at B. You did not ask him to give his opinion how else you might have achieved the transfer between A & B. If he didn't want the job, he shouldn't have taken it - nobody forced him to.

I hope you get some sleep. I bet you're exhausted

AvonBarksdale99 · 06/03/2020 19:28

He told you that you should have got a different mode of transport?! That’s insane. I’d have literally laughed at him. To be fair, every Uber driver I’ve ever had has either been polite or silent.

Babybel90 · 06/03/2020 19:46

Ugh I hate peoples who assume you know what their job entails, how are you supposed to know it’s better to get an Uber from the other side of the station, and even if you did why would you care?

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Rosiejim · 06/03/2020 19:50

Ok! I’m glad I’m not being a nob. It really riled me. I haven’t given him a rating - I’m trying to work out what’s fair. I think it was the anger of a man telling me what to do when I’m pretty god damn certain a man wouldn’t have gotten the same lecture? But then...how can I actually know that?

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hokolo · 06/03/2020 19:53

What a massive bellend. Sorry this happened to you! I wouldn't personally down rate him because although he was annoying and rude to you, he doesn't deserve to lose his job, which could really happen. He might have kids. I really feel like all of us workers should five star each other at all times in solidarity, barring actual abusive/criminal behaviour, tbh. That's what I try to do, anyway. Of course you must vote your conscience.

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Rosiejim · 06/03/2020 23:10

@hokolo yes, I definitely don’t want to cost anyone their job. I still haven’t rated him. I just think his needling of me overstepped professional boundaries. I won’t rate as I think he’s just a bit of a cock rather than anything sinister!

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ALongHardWinter · 07/03/2020 17:52

Was he trying to do himself out of business? Sounds like a total wanker.

Thisismytimetoshine · 07/03/2020 17:58

Maybe he thought you were trying to hide the fact that you’d just returned from a long flight (hiding down a side street?! Why?) and he didn’t want you in his cab.

Lllot5 · 07/03/2020 18:01

Very odd. Like going to Waitrose and them telling you to go to Sainsburys.
Oh well you’re home now. Cup of tea and bed.

Willow2017 · 07/03/2020 18:07

I really feel like all of us workers should five star each other at all times in solidarity, barring actual abusive/criminal behaviour, tbh.
Really?
If someone thought it their business to lecture you about your personal business while they were hired by you then you would give them 5 stars?
Really? Just because he is a working person doesnt make him a special case! Bet the farm he wouldnt have lectured some business man twice!
If he wants to keep customers he should treat them better just the same as every other person who is employed by the public to do.a specific job. Its not rocket science to think if you piss off customers they wont thank.you for it.

hokolo · 07/03/2020 18:09

I would yeah.

You do as you please.

AParallelUniverse · 07/03/2020 18:17

I really feel like all of us workers should five star each other at all times in solidarity, barring actual abusive/criminal behaviour, tbh.

Why?

HappentoHappen · 07/03/2020 18:23

If he didn’t want the job, why the fuck did he take it? I’d not be giving him a decent rating for that. Telling you that you shouldn’t have used the service to begin with?!?

Would you leave a good review for a restaurant that told you you should have stayed at home and cooked? Grin

hidinginthenightgarden · 07/03/2020 18:24

To be honest, I think you should have pulled him up on it. Men have been able to treat women this way for years because women sit quietly and say nothing. Its time women started putting them straight. Politely but sternly.
"Actually I am knackered and live no where near a tube station. I called a cab for a nice relaxing drive home. In future I won't".
I hope you have a more relaxed evening than you have had so far!

nosleepp · 07/03/2020 18:25

I’d rate him low tbh

NellWilsonsWhiteHair · 07/03/2020 18:25

I had a bellend Uber (well, Bolt) driver a couple of weeks ago. I’d fucked up and thought the kids had INSET day and they didn’t - realised this as got to the childminder at 8.30, so dropped the toddler off, ran home with 8yo school-hater so he could get changed into his uniform, grab his stuff, then drop to school in a cab and go on to tube in a cab (predictably, a day I really couldn’t afford to be late). Kid was so brilliant and just about skidded into school on time. Once he was gone, the driver repeatedly explained to me that the reason we were running late was because children never put down their devices and get ready Hmm As we got nearer to the tube station the driver explained that the reason London is so rubbish is because there’s too much divorce. Hmm Pretty sure he hadn't actually realised I was a feckless single mother who had ducked up the days and was now racing off late to work because why mess up on one front when you can simultaneously mess up on two... but then maybe he had...

I didn’t low score him though. Bar a couple of stand-out brilliant drivers, I don’t ever score anyone.

Blah blah me me - I agree your driver was a dick, and probably wouldn’t have lectured a man.

Reginabambina · 07/03/2020 18:26

I hope you gave him a low rating. He sounds unhinged.

erniepigy · 07/03/2020 18:27

You should have told him you have work to do and played a game on your phone, not responding to his conversation.
Report him when you got home

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Rosiejim · 08/03/2020 17:40

@Thisismytimetoshine

“ Maybe he thought you were trying to hide the fact that you’d just returned from a long flight (hiding down a side street?! Why?) and he didn’t want you in his cab.”

I’m not sure I understand this? I wasn’t hiding down a side street, the front of the station is a very busy main road so I went down a side street to make the pick up easier

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