Is he being a little boy?

[chilimartini]

I have a date tonight with a man I met online. We were meant to meet for 6pm. He has just text me to say that he is going for a "quick" drink with his colleagues and could I meet him at 7 or a bit later?!
I think that is very rude!! We decided last week that we would meet for 6.
Please tell me how to reply!!!! I'm trying not to take this personally as we have never met before but I think this rather crappy of him and I actually do not want to meet him anymore. Aibu?

I wouldn’t go

I wouldn’t even bother replying. I’d move on to the next person. Not a good first impression.

I wouldn't go either. He can go for a drink with his colleagues any night!

Yeah, I’d cancel! Not a great first impression.

Well to be fair 6 is quite early so I’d be happier to meet at 7pm. Have you had to arrange childcare or something that makes a change in time such a big deal? At the end of the day you don’t need an excuse to just say no thanks anyway- so just don’t go?

Not sure how that makes him a little boy?

You can either reply with no that's rude and never meet him or be chill and say it's fine. Maybe he's nervous and wants to have some Dutch courage before meeting you. Or he's not that in to you.

No I think I’d be annoyed. Just say sorry you can’t do later, another time.

I wouldn't meet him. If he was keen he wouldn't mess you around. Or if he is a flaky person it would annoy me anyway.

I wouldn't go either. He just showed you who he is.

Well to be fair 6 is quite early so I’d be happier to meet at 7

That's irrelevant considering they arranged 6pm last week (presumably to fit in with going straight from the office or something)

Doesn't make him a 'little boy'.

It is very useful to see where on the pecking order you'd come. Nice of him to do it so early on.

It's an early red flag. He's testing your boundaries.

The changing of plans and you being an afterthought will only get worse.

He would not be hearing from me again. If you agree to this, I fear your standards are very low.

Nah postpone. I've never gone for a 'quick drink' with anyone and the fact he says 7 'or later' wouldn't fill me with hope in that he will actually turn up and actually turn up sober.

Tell him maybe another time.

This is the stage when youre both meant to be on your best behaviour, so to speak, if he does this now just imagine how things could be in the future. He just doesnt seem that keen.

Thank you for all your replies. I'm not meeting him. I feel so much better! I'm going out for a walk and a nice coffee 😊

I'd decline. Only cos he could be half drunk getting to you.

I wouldn't bother op. I had this many moons ago , a man wanted to meet then something came up which would make him late , so I cancelled. The next day when I was busy he texted me about 20 times asking me to meet him for a drink.

When we did eventually meet the next weekend he was very late and spent a large portion of the evening telling me my opinions were wrong.

I feel like your guy also has potential to be a controlling creep.

It makes him rude and a little arrogant to think you'll just hang on for him because he's such a catch.

It doesn't make him a little boy.

Don't blame you OP, I hate flakiness.

Good riddance

He clearly doesn’t care about what sort of first impression he is making on you.
You deserve better and walked away, well done 👏🏻

He sounds sketchy as fooook. Well rid

You did the right thing. My father told me once that if a man can't make an effort for his girlfriend/wife in the early days of a relationship when things are all happy and rosy, then frankly, how will he behave when the chips are down. Advice to live by I'd say. You're well rid of him. He owed you nothing, but you owe hi nothing either and clearly meeting you wasn't a priority.

Nope, he clearly gives no shits so why should you.

You made the right call OP. If you're not his top priority on your first meet up then it doesn't bode well. Enjoy your walk!