Firstly, I don’t think I’d describe myself as introvert or extrovert as I have tendencies towards both. Whilst I hate anything like performing or being the focus of attention, I also do get lonely without company after a bit and I enjoy social chit-chat. I’m happy in my own company, but like to get out too. That one at school who was never ‘popular’, bit always had a little group of friends.
I have a few friends/ parents of kids’ friends who identify as introverts, and they can make you feel a bit small at times. Like if you post on social media light-heartedly they might make a small dig or comment about people who do. They’ll share, in your company, about how they love alone time so you wonder if it’s a hint. They’re pretty quick to cancel things for no reason, leaving your kids let down. In general they can be quite superior towards ‘loud’ people, I do find it easier with the friends from similar backgrounds as I can do a loud laugh or get excited without judgement. They do things like post on Facebook after a day out how good it is to be finally alone with a cuppa. They tend to have very close friends, lots of family and actually have no problems wit company. They tend to ignore text messages too (I really rarely message, and certainly not for a chat, more like ‘X left their bag at yours, could we collect later if you’re in’. I’ve learnt not to be chatty)
I’m not lumping them in with friends with MH histories that affect their interaction, just to be clear. They don’t tend to get superior or talk about things like being on social media too much, being loud etc. I’m talking about confident introverts, who state they are and pick and choose interaction.
Aibu to move on from some of the kids friendships because I can’t deal with the introvert rules? I feel like it’s always on their terms...