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Original poster

Slightly petty one, but who's BU?!

51 replies

notyourmummy · 05/03/2020 07:30

My husband went to a gig a few weeks ago (local singer he's seen quite a few times now) and his ticket has been on the table in the front room since he got back. Yesterday, DD (2) decided to put some stickers on it to make it pretty for daddy. When he got home from his late shift, he took all the stickers off and put them in the bin because he "wanted to keep the ticket to put in the CD case". I think he's being ridiculous because the ticket had been sitting around for a couple of weeks and it's just a piece of card with the name of the singer and the date of the gig on, he's angry with me because I let DD deface his ticket. AIBU to think he's a cock for being pissed off??

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user1471517900 · 05/03/2020 07:34

He doesn't need to be angry about it, but it's fine if he wants to keep the ticket (and not have stickers all over it). He didn't rip them off in front of daughter, so not sure this is really even worth an argument.

SegregateMumBev · 05/03/2020 07:34

Aw I used to do that with tickets too!

If the stickers could be removed then theres no harm done, surely. A reminder to him to be tidier with his rubbish valuable souvenirs.

Vulpine · 05/03/2020 07:35

He's a puerile idiot

tobedtoMNandfart · 05/03/2020 07:36

If he said 'deface' he needs to grow up.

RhymingRabbit3 · 05/03/2020 07:39

You're not unreasonable for assuming the ticket was finished with.

He is not unreasonable for wanting to keep it.

He is unreasonable to be angry. No harm done.

Windyatthebeach · 05/03/2020 07:40

Imo anything you want to keep needs to be kept away from a 2 year old...

ltk · 05/03/2020 07:42

He is being unreasonable to blame you for the ticket being messed with. If he wants something kept nice, then he should take care of it by putting it away. You are not his maid or his mother.

If you kinda knew that he wanted to keep it, and saw that DD was messing with it but chose to let her - then YABU. You should have taken it off of her and popped it somewhere safe, because that is kind. And you want to be in a relationship where people are kind to each other.

LuckyLickitung · 05/03/2020 07:43

Nothing wrong with him wanting to keep his ticket (although foolish for leaving it around with a 2yo in the house)

First rule of stickers is they go in your own sticker/ colouring books. They are not for walls/ furniture/ other people's things (unless with specigic consent). The rule will inevitably be broken at some point, bu there does need to be a boundary established before something more important is defaced (which can easily happen when trying to peel it off.)

AlCalavicci · 05/03/2020 07:47

I kept all my gig tickets often along side photos ( remember them , real photos ! ) in a album for many years it brought back many fond memories whenever I looked through it.

I would be annoyed if one of mine got defaced but I would be annoyed at myself for leaving where a 2 year old could get to it , not at the 2 year old for doing it

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notyourmummy · 05/03/2020 07:52

@LuckyLickitung you see generally she's allowed to stick stickers on any paper that's on the table, as well as anything of hers, I'm not too fussed about stickers getting put on my stuff to be honest.

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notyourmummy · 05/03/2020 07:55

@AlCalavicci I hadn't thought of this. But tbh, he's seen her so many times I'm sure he can remember her gigs without the tickets? He's her Facebook friend, there are photos of every gig she's done on there!

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MadamePewter · 05/03/2020 07:56

I think you are being unreasonable and also it’s a really bad idea to let dc put stickers on other people’s stuff. I also think you probably knew really your DH wouldn’t be pleased. I keep concert tickets too.

veryphishy · 05/03/2020 07:58

I keep all my tickets too along with festival wristbands. I'd be annoyed that there were stickers all over my ticket but really it would be kind of my fault for leaving it around.

NotEverythingIsBlackandwhite · 05/03/2020 07:58

You're right about being petty.

lowlandLucky · 05/03/2020 08:03

I think your Husband is slighty obsessed with this woman

PurpleDaisies · 05/03/2020 08:05

He should have put it away but I don’t think it’s unreasonable not to want your stuff covered in stickers. You could have just said no to your dd doing it.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 05/03/2020 08:05

Tell him next time he leaves something lying on the table for two weeks you're giving her crayons.

If it was important to him he should've put it safely away.

sar302 · 05/03/2020 08:14

I understand him wanting a ticket as a keep sake, but anyone with a two year knows that precious things need to be put away!

If he's cross for more than about 2 mins, he's being a dick.

diddl · 05/03/2020 08:25

A couple of weeks ago?

I'd probably have binned it by now.

TheSerenDipitY · 05/03/2020 08:29

oh dear... if he wants to keep his toys for himself he needs to learn to put them away so the other kids dont see them... pick up after your self DH

burritofan · 05/03/2020 08:37

Anyone over 16 who keeps litter tickets is being VU.

Glenthebattleostrich · 05/03/2020 08:38

If it was that important he should have put it away then shouldn't he.

Hadalifeonce · 05/03/2020 08:40

If that was my house, left lying around, it would have been binned. If he wants to keep it, he should put it somewhere safe.

Waitingforadulthood · 05/03/2020 08:42

If it has been there weeks then frankly he should expect it thrown out. I'd not leave loose papers and crap on the kitchen table for weeks assuming that it's precious to whomever dumped it there.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 05/03/2020 08:43

He should have put it away!

I don't get the point in keeping a bog standard ticket. Commemorative ones I get.

It was sweet of her to try to do something nice for him. Hopefully she doesn't know about his reaction.