To wonder does 3 children get better?

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I feel like I just want to run away to be honest, I’m not cut out for this. 7, 3 and 4 months. No special needs, all adorable in their own ways but oldest 2 can be difficult. I just need to plough on but I want to run away! Only an option open to men!

It gets easier I promise. My Dds are 11, 8 and 6. Once they ALL go to school/nursery it’s a piece of piss. What’s stressing you?

It's the age of your youngest and the older two being an age of squabbling.

10, 6 and 4 will be a lot different. Even in a years time. Summer is always easier.

Absolutely does get easier. Mine are 8,5 and 3 now and the last 6 months have been so much easier and much better

Mine has gotten worse they are 12 and two at 8 but one has special needs and is very aggressive. It's awful

Absolutely! I promise it gets easier. I had a 4, 2 and newborn. It was crazy!!

They are 13,11,9 now and it's a doddle! It's also lovely to see how they get on too (mostly).

Adding to the chorus! 12, 9 and 6 and things are sooo much easier now. Logistics are still a bugger re activities though!

Oh thank you. The oldest two squabble ALL THE TIME. They’re so loud, always hitting each other, I feel such an ineffectual parent. With the baby, sleep deprivation is starting to kick in, again I feel so crap as I have once again I have a baby who loves being held and has no routine, we cosleep. With the exception of a week she has spent her whole life with a cold/blocked nose as 3 year old brings everything back from preschool and he will not leave her alone, he’s always grabbing her, grabbing her hands trying to put his head in her face. He’s always trying to push buttons, I’m finding it so hard to find any joy in him at the moment. I’m always really bad at housework and keeping the house tidy and that’s getting me down.

Last night poor wee baby was so backed up she was struggling to sleep/feed and then socked her clothes with a massive poonami in the early hours, which is not like her. The 3 year olds sleep is atrocious and he won’t stay in his own bed.

Wow that was a rant! And finally I worry I’m far too lax with the 7yo when he’s cheeky or rude.

It does get much easier than the point you're at, but 3 is always a lot harder than 2. Sorry. Mine are 10, 12 and 14 now.

15, 10 and 8 here and I agree it does get easier. I used to be very close to tears when DP left for work in the mornings and evenings were exhausting. Youngest still quite challenging but I think that’s just her nature! Also eldest now pretty independent so I only have to sort logistics for the other two.

That’s blocked up, not backed up I mean, poor wee thing!

I think when things are tough it helps to lower your standards a bit and do what you need to get through it.

It does get better. I posted same when my 3rd was born. Now I have 4..

Just had my fourth, and agree that three gets easier. You sound done in. I think you should give yourself ‘permission’ to just survive until the baby is six months. Then it’ll be nearly the summer, and lighter longer days will make life feel easier. Then start addressing the things getting you down one by one (children’s behaviour and house wise). But for now, keep everyone alive and just get through each day at a time.

16, 14, 10 here and yes it gets better. Much better. Sleep deprivation makes everything worse.

Mine are 1.5, 2.5 and almost 4 and it is already getting easier now the youngest is no longer a baby and can walk, communicate more and play with his siblings.
There were definitely more difficult stages such as youngest starting to crawl and everyone going in different directions but on the whole it gets easier as time goes on.

Mine are 6, 4 and 2.
The first year was easy. Now it is hard. Maybe when they are all in school it'll be easier. But I will miss them being little.

I have three teenagers, it's a game changer. But we're muddling through, probably making mistakes as we go but - we're still ok, they 're keeping up at school (just about) and we will get through it. Just as you will. My only advice is look after your health and you can just let some things go. The hours I spent at football, ballet, gymnastics and its all a distant memory in my childrens ' minds now. Sometimes I wish I hadn't tried so hard to make it all perfect.

3 is great!

Can you co sleep with the baby and your DH co sleep with the 3 year old?

We ve done lots of musical beds over the years to make everyone have the maximum amount of sleep possible (2 horrific sleepers here)

4, 3 and 4 months here. The best advice I read was as long as they're 'All fed, none dead' at the end of every day you're doing okay. Also, regarding housework to lower your standards. Have you done that? Good, now lower them again. This is a uniquely tough time and wont always be this way. Stay strong.

14,11& 8 here. It does get easier... much much easier!

I remember having #3 and thinking “what the fuck have I done”. Of course I loved them all but the first year with 3 was bloody hard.

Just do what you have to do to get through the days. My mantra for a few months was as long as at the end of the day we were all fed and not dead then I’d done a good job.

Now it is so easy! They are very independent and great fun and I love spending time with them. I also love the chaos of 3 and am so glad we decided to have a third child.

Sounds difficult OP, and I would be a bit worried about the 3 and 7 year old getting physical with each other. What about if they start with on the baby when s/he starts getting mobile? Did the boys fight before the baby came along? i'm just wondering if it's their way of trying to get your attention.

Following this, I have 8, 2 1/2 and 8 months. To be honest most of the trouble is with my eldest, he’s so difficult these days and my toddler is just insane amounts of work it just never ends. The only one that sleeps is the baby little good egg.