Baby shower

[addictedtotheflats]

I dont know if I'm being a tight arse here but here goes.

Ive been asked to attend a baby shower for a friend, I have said that of course I will be going if I am not working (havent got my rota yet due to job change). Keep in mind the location is approx 100 miles from my home.

So group chat message today confirms the location and a £55 payment to be transferred by bank transfer to stay overnight at some lodges!!!!!!!! Since when do baby showers last a whole day/night and since when are people expected to pay to attend a baby shower!!!

WIBU to make my excuses and send a gift in the post??

YWNBU to do that

Yanbu. In our circle it’s a bring a gift and plate of food to someone’s house for a baby shower.

I routinely say no to baby showers cos they’re the social equivalent of a Fun Vacuum

I refused to have one as I really feel like you may as well say to people “come to a really boring event where you can’t drink, it’s always expensive oh and bring me presents”. Obviously I would never actually voice this out loud but baby showers suck.

Make your excuses and don’t go. Don’t even post a gift, just buy the baby one when you go to meet it for the first time

Yanbu this is clearly getting out of hand before the PFB has even arrived. Use your rota to plot your lucky escape!

Wtf?!
I’d be working that weekend, I’m absolutely certain.....

Being middle aged ... why are people having baby showers? It’s not a tradition. It’s an import and is a grabby excuse to get presents.
( I’ll put my helmet on and skulk away.)

I never go to baby showers

And I certainly wouldn't go to this one

I never go to baby showers. I was invited to one with a gift list! A sodding gift list with presents no less than £30 on, most were much, much higher than this!!

Nope, yanbu, don't go and tell them why. A baby shower is bad enough but £55, 100 mile trip and a full day and night? Not a chance!

My feelings in baby showers are well known, I refuse to attend them or have one, they are dull for all attendees and grabby af.

Hell no, £55? Plus gift for mum too, travel costs. That’s a lot of money when really it should at most be a couple of hours. I didn’t have one, I find them a bit OTT

Hell no!
However I like to make a point and would be inclined to say “I’d love to attend but won’t need accommodating, let me know the details when you have them”

I've been to one Baby Shower....never again!!

Won’t need accommodation * that should read

That is absurd. Fuck that.

Fuck that

Omg no.
That's ridiculous!

Baby showers are tacky. I’d rather work and spend £55 on myself.

Thanks for the replies, I'm working that weekend anyway 😉

Yeah, I'd definitely be opting out of that one.

Baby showers are daft. Baby showers that turn into something more like a hen do are completely bonkers. Celebrating a baby like that before it's safely born seems odd.

Nice one OP. The golden rule of not being thought of as a dick is to never, ever tell the truth about why you can’t attend these events. Always work or another social event.

Doesn't sound like a baby shower to me, more like a pre baby girls weekend away.... Which would be fine if that's what you had been invited to. But as they have called it a baby shower and not been upfront about time and cost YANBU!!

WTF? No, just no.

I don't quite see the point of them. The one I have coming up was arranged by the mum to be, is two whole months before the baby is due. The sex of the baby has already been announced on fb at week 20, the dad to be is going to be there ( not sure if that is usual ? ). I'm not particularly looking forward to it as lunch out and a present is going to be the best part of £40 and I wont actually know anybody there.

When I lived in the U.S. with my 2 young sons 25 plus years ago, I thought baby showers were the freakiest, grabbiest things, I would never have believed what a successful transaction to the U.K. they would be, another crass tradition we've welcomed with open arms!