Weed smoking neighbour

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So my neighbour, from what I know she lives alone, with her 2 dogs, homeowner. In her late 40s, we only moved in to our house over a month ago, prior to this we were have renovation done as it's a very old house and has had nothing done to it at all, all works Carried out within the hours of 10am-5pm, she still felt need to send a noise complaint to the council. Anyways, since we moved in, every night I can smell weed in my children's bedroom, if they were older I would've suspected them! We share a chimney with that neighbour, which has air vents and the smell is coming through from there, we have blocked this off but still can smell it, it's is so so strong!! I don't want my children inhaling that shit in. I've never seen anyone else go in or come out of her house except herself, and her dog walker that comes every weekday 9am and brings them back at around 4pm. The neighbour does go out to work 8.30am and comes home after 5pm.

My question is who do I make a compliant about this to? Surely smoking 🚬 weed even in your own home is illegal? Am not confrontational and wouldn't be able to go ask her, also she seems like she hates us from when she made the noise complaint and doesn't acknowledge us the once when I was getting out the same time as her. So I don't think that will go down well, although when we had Reno done, she had the audacity to knock on and say to the workers that they are making too much noise, so not U for me to knock on and say your weed is making me high ? Lol
Help pls

I highly doubt it's making anyone 'high' in your house.

Clearly if it's disturbing you then you need to tell her and give her the chance to do it elsewhere. Outside, perhaps. No way around that. Anything else would be very shit behaviour on your part and the Police have better things to worry about than they keep than someone quietly smoking some weed in their home.

*to worry about than someone....

We thought our neighbour was just quietly smoking weed...turns out that he was also growing it. Tons of the stuff.

OP I feel your pain, it may not be a big deal to some but it is to you and you shouldn’t have to put up with that stench in your house, it STINKS! Our neighbour was growing it and we reported it to the police as it damaged our walls.
You probs won’t get high but you still shouldn’t have to deal with that smell in your own home. If you’re sure she’s only smoking it I would approach her or report her to the council if she’s unapproachable. It’s anti social behaviour!!! Is it rented or her own house?

My Gran had this issue a few years ago. It stressed her out so much she started to lose bits of hair, she was so frazzled by the upstairs of her home smelling like illegal drugs. She’s quite old fashioned and she was terrified visitors would think she smoked ‘wacky backy’ as she calls it . She informed the police but they didn’t do very much, she tried putting a complaint in with the council too but that didn’t go anywhere either. The only thing that resolved it in the end was the NDN’s moving house.

I’d suggest talking to the neighbour but the fact she put a noise complaint in against you doesn’t really point towards a healthy neighbour relationship.

I doubt anyone will care tbh, Yanbu to be upset by it though.

Hmm renovation every day might have stressed her more than usual?
See if it stops when you stop banging maybe?

Ok I didn't literally mean making me high
Point being I don't want that horrid smell coming in to my children's bedroom, and it's super strong not a mild smell

Yabu

I’d talk to her if you think she’s a reasonable person .
I had this in my old place and the smell made me feel sick . Couldn’t tell him though as he was a nasty piece of work

The stuff really stinks!!! If it’s rented next door that’s the only thing that could work in your favour.

You could have a word, maybe ask if she could possibly eat cakes or use a vape/pipe as the smoke is getting into you DD room.

Ugh I have this ATM too. It really stinks. Neighbour is in flat upstairs and seems to time his frequent but irregular joints to just when I try to dry my washing, which I hang in an airer 2 feet from the front door (won't fit anywhere else). I keep my inner doors closed and don't notice the smell until I walk into the little hallway. It's so strong and disgusting and I've been around weed smokers. Makes my clean clothes stink I feel for you. Are you definitely sure she's a homeowner? I'm tempted to contact the landlord of mine.

yanbu people can do what they like as long as it doesn't impode negatively on others. in this situation it does. she could go outside. I would go mad if that smell was in my children's room

People who vote YABU to this have either never had the stench of weed ruining their home. Or love to live in that stench and are inconsiderate.
Nothing worse that making your home nice and keep it clean to smell that! It’s way worse than a waft of it in the street!

You could contact her landlord but they don’t have to keep it secret from her. I doubt she’s growing it if she had a dog walker that comes in and it would be a secret unless they’re in on it too haha
Honestly If you can’t talk to her I would contact the council, explain you also have children so it’s highly inappropriate that they smell this in their bedroom.

Are you sure it's weed? Where I used to live all my neighbours were very elderly but at certain times of year there was a very very strong smell around the front of my house & i'm sure they were growing something that smelt similar but no idea what it would have been.

Would the police and council get involved do you think?

Complain but they sadly won't do anything I had this a few years ago the house was owned that the smell was coming from it was disgusting, I ended up just shouting obscenities it did get better but it's not nice!!

I’ve been in a similar situation & for those that haven’t you cannot believe how much it permeates through walls. OP YANBU, it stinks, it’s stressful for you & DC. I bought candles, air fresheners, plug-ins & nothing helped. I was getting so stressed I wanted to leave. DH knocked on & politely said ‘it’s none of our business what you do in your own home- however it’s impacting on ours, we’ve got young DCs & the smell is unbearable’. NDN was a bit embarrassed & said he would stop the smell. Turns out he was ‘drying it out for a mate’ whatever that means. The smell went soon after that conversation

Speak to her about it, if it's affecting you this much. You can be civil and diplomatic with someone who has been unfriendly towards you.

I agree it isn't very nice. But there is literally nothing you can do. Police or council won't care. You just have to live with it.

@TheQueef sorry did you read my post? Everyday banging? Reno was done and only took place 3 days a week, and no more work is being done currently since I moved. Next time read before speaking that which you don't know 🙄

Take your own advice sweetcheeks I wrote renovation everyday

We had this in our old place. We complained to their landlord, non emergency police, council... none of it worked. Like your neighbour, we couldn’t speak to them, they were horrible. Only solution was moving house. I really worried about it when my eldest was a baby though. It does smell incredibly strong.

I have this problem too. It stinks and means I can’t open the windows or sit on my balcony.

You could try asking her to smoke in a different room but I suspect she won’t cooperate.

YABU, cooking a curry also produces a strong smell, it's something you need to deal with if you have neighbours