To want sunday for myself?

[recklessruby]

I dont think i m being unreasonable but i work full time monday to Friday and Sunday is my super cleaning day. The whole house gets cleaned.
Ds and dd live here too (adults) but are often working/away at weekends so i like to get through the cleaning alone.
Recently my friend wants me to meet her on a Sunday for drinks and its ALWAYS when i ve just sat down with the cat after deep cleaning!
I dont like to let her down as she doesn't have family here and a lot of her friends are in relationships (she s newly single).
Aibu to want to stay in alone with my cat?
I would go sometimes but not EVERY sunday.
I m starting to dread looking at my messages now.
Any kind way to explain I just love time on my own or would you just go (I do have fun once I m there).

Why can’t people just say No?

Why don't you just tell her that Saturdays are better for you?

To hell with all that cleaning: go and meet our friend for drinks. Life's too short.

Saturdays lately I ve been really tired as work is full on at the moment and I dont like saying no as she s a good friend who keeps getting dumped by men on tinder so she s pretty down right now.

no house needs deep cleaning every week cleaning yes but deep cleaning no, maybe deep clean once a month and the other sundays aim to finish cleaning by lunch time you can still stay in if you want
I think if DS and DD have days off in the week they should do a few bits you are not running an hotel

why not agree to met friend once every three weeks

• @Disquieted1*I m weird, I actually enjoy cleaning

Just say you are busy, why make a drama?

You should say no if you don't want to go, but I wouldn't choose to spend my whole Sunday cleaning! Why aren't your adult children chipping in to help with the chores?

Sorry, that was unkind.

If the OP really does enjoy cleaning, I will enhance your pleasure - you can come round to my house and do mine!

I just meant you can say no, you don’t have to do things. You could always invite her round for a coffee instead. She probably just wants a bit of company. I would be far happier at my mates house in my comfies than out!

Just don't say yes every Sunday, but I know what I would much rather be doing .....!

I would message and say you need some downtime so can we meet biweekly.

Adult dc do help especially ds but I like to get all the big things done on a sunday like laundry and changing beds, clean kitchen and bathroom thoroughly and hoover.
I used to work as a cleaner when i was at uni and think the habit stuck!

You could just not answer the phone sometimes.

Depends what you value more

Do you not want to see her Sundays, or want to see her less overall?

"Thanks but need a quiet night, it's been a long week. Fancy a drink Thursday?"

Why not ask her to come over every other week ? Tell her you like to get ahead at the weekends, and would like to meet up but also want a fresh house at the start of the week! Tell her you like to relax and chill a bit .

Do you think you need the approval of the mumsnet hive to give you permission to say no?
You have adult children, you are plenty old enough to say no or suggest a more convient time to meet. You do not need my approval.

Omg just say no. Is this really worth a thread?

Why not invite her rounds for a movie and a glass of wine in your lovely clean house?

Invite her round if you don't want to go out?

But honestly, seeing once a month is plenty. Don't feel obliged to see her every single Sunday. Tell her you're tired and just want to chill out in front of the tv?!

Just say no to Sundays

I like Monday night's for going out everywhere is quiet

Pay for a cleaner and go out and enjoy life would be my approach!

If you really wanted to go you'd go so I'm guessing you don't really want to go. I get you enjoy cleaning but if a friend invited me out I'd try and finish it earlier or not do it so thoroughly.