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To go to an interview after accepting another job?

33 replies

Namechangeformee · 27/02/2020 19:24

I accepted Job A a few weeks ago. After interviewing for Job A and waiting for the outcome I saw Job B, a job of the same grade but closer to home. I applied.

I accepted Job A when it was offered. I regret this now, but didn't want to decline it and fail to get Job B. Job B have now offered an interview.

WIBU to go for it? I have a 11mo so the distance is significant to me. It's a senior nursing job.

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GreenTulips · 27/02/2020 19:26

Yes go for the interview

You can suck out of the other job

When’s the start dates?

DivGirl · 27/02/2020 19:26

Go for it. You have to do what's best for you.

GreenTulips · 27/02/2020 19:26

Duck out!

Namechangeformee · 27/02/2020 19:28

It's after DBS and 8wks notice at my current job so starting May/June?

I do feel like a scoundrel.

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Namechangeformee · 27/02/2020 22:12

Cheeky bump for a few more opinions?

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Antihop · 27/02/2020 22:14

Do it. Keep your options open. I had an offer for job a. Whilst waiting for my pre employment checks I applied for job b and got offered it. I thought about it carefully and stick with job a.

firsttimemama · 27/02/2020 22:14

Of course go to the other interview. And if that job suits you better and you get offered it, you should take it.

AhoyMrBeaver · 27/02/2020 22:15

I've done this, accepted one job as a backup in case I didn't get the job I really wanted. I did get the better job, and just told the first lot that I was unavailable to take the position.

Cordial11 · 27/02/2020 22:15

Yes - i recently accepted a job and then withdrew when I got offered another in the interim that was better suited.

I also work in recruitment and it is very common, I almost expect it until I see the whites of their eyes on the first day lol!

Do whats right for you.

JollyGiraffe12 · 27/02/2020 22:15

Definitely go to the other interview!

happytoday73 · 27/02/2020 22:16

Go for the interview... Otherwise you will always wonder. People get other jobs having accepted another.
Nothing to turn down till you are offered both

OpportunityKnocks · 27/02/2020 22:17

Go for the job, of course. Otherwise you will resent that commute more than ever!

CarolinaPink · 27/02/2020 22:17

Don't feel bad at all. You need to do what's best for you. If you get the second job and have to dip out of the first then some other lucky person will get a happy-making phone call. Look after yourself Thanks

Flixsfoilball · 27/02/2020 22:18

From an employer perspective it's absolutely infuriating when people do it (as they will have based everything on you starting, so will have lost time recruiting someone else and will be set back a lot) but it's not uncommon.

raviolidreaming · 27/02/2020 22:19

Absolutely go for it, and I say that as a nurse. Work is often a smaller part of who you are once you have a child - it's okay to put time first.

YeahWhatevver · 27/02/2020 22:20

Go to the interview.

It's really not uncommon for people to pull out. Mainly because their current employer makes them a better offer to stay

stonebrambleboy · 27/02/2020 22:21

Go for Job B interview, if you get it take it as it's best for you.
I've seen this happen lots of times where people have accepted posts and then strung the starting date out and eventually back healed the job. A bit annoying for the recruiter but they'll get over it. Better than starting and leaving soon after.
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Growingboys · 27/02/2020 22:21

Definitely go

blueshoes · 27/02/2020 22:23

Is it a senior role or a small industry where word gets round? If so, I'd be careful to mess the first company around.

Try to gauge how quickly the second company can take you through the recruitment process. If after the first interview, they may not be prepared to you through then you know they don't like you enough for you to leap frog over other candidates, which is not to say they would not offer you in the ordinary course of the recruitment process or give the job to an internal candidate anyway ...

SidneyPrescott · 27/02/2020 22:30

@Cordial11

I'm glad you've said this as I'm in this position and I've not told job A yet!

SnoozyLou · 27/02/2020 23:57

Very, very naughty.

I'd still go though!

Bella2020 · 28/02/2020 00:08

Go for the job B interview! You are perfectly entitled to try and organise your life in a way that works for you. Best wishes for the interview.

Namechangeformee · 28/02/2020 00:16

Oh gosh. Pretty unanimous, thank you Grin

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PapayaCoconut · 28/02/2020 00:20

It's a business transaction, not a friendship.They'll just pick the next person on the list.

Littleshortcake · 28/02/2020 00:36

I would go for it esp with commute. Also if you need to go home (child needs you for whatever reason) it's best to be nearer home.