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Millie Radfird pregnant?

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pushymeas · 25/02/2020 18:36

Congratulations to her but can imagine her getting some stick now poor girl. Gosh it's going to be a huge family once this generation have all their kids!!

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calpolatdawn · 27/02/2020 14:46

Ahem, previously 19 year old mother here 🙌,.... 19 year olds have been having babies for milleniaaaa, and turned out ok, ff 12 years, were still together, married, one more child, top of his class..... f*"& you judgemental bastards! (some of you)

Rosesandteapot · 27/02/2020 17:15

Some of these replies are absolutely disgusting!
Some young mums are wonderful.

Sue is a good mum all her kids appear to be lovely bright and really polite.
I know some mums who hate taking one or two kids out.

I saw them once out whilst they were eating at least 12/13 of the kids and they were better behaved than most they were a credit to Sue and Noel.
So if they nasty people who hide behind a keyboard judging and trolling an 18 year old.
I hope one day you are treated exactly the same

PickwickThePlockingDodo · 27/02/2020 17:19

I saw them once out whilst they were eating at least 12/13 of the kids and they were better behaved than most they were a credit to Sue and Noel.

It's not a credit to Sue and Noel though is it? It's a credit to the older siblings who are bringing them up. In which case Millie will probably make a very good mum as she's had plenty of practise.

GothamProtector · 27/02/2020 17:22

You can't get mad at statistics.
Yes there are good young mums.
If you go by MN every teen parent went on to achieve multiple degrees and is filthy rich.

However in the real world the majority of outcomes are not so favourable. Poverty, poor education and a cycle of the same negatives throughout generations.

I do not believe Sue is a good mother. The children may be physically provided for but they are not emotionally supported and at this point I would say they are being exploited.

I wouldn't parade the fact I had repeated unprotected sec with a rapist and had the unhealthy uncontrollable urge to repopulate with no care to consequences so I can't see the worry.

Rosesandteapot · 27/02/2020 17:38

Emotional support how do you know?
You know what the media print which let's face it, is a load of shit because negative "gossip" sells!
You know from 15/20 mins on a YouTube vlog that the kids "emotional" needs are not being met?
Prey tell how you know such things by only seeing this small amount?

I bet most of you lot being judgy don't own your own business? Can take them on nice holidays?
Most of your judgmental comments are based on the fact that you could not do what they do.
They are good parents and who cares if the older kids help?
Sue and Noel raised them too, they are well mannered and absolutely fantastic.
Like I say one day I hope it bites you all

AlexaAmbidextra · 27/02/2020 17:40

These children are aloud a normal life!

Try telling their dysfunctional parents that. Because they certainly aren’t allowed it by them.

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lynsey91 · 27/02/2020 18:21

@Rosesandteapot just use some common sense to think if they are likely to be good parents.

That many children and only so many hours in the day. Of course they are bloody well not good parents.

As soon as they are no longer a cute baby Sue palms them off on the older ones. She doesn't believe in reading. None of them seem to have any ambition other than work in the magic pie shop and have children. Yeah great parents

1forsorrow · 27/02/2020 18:23

They aren't all little kids though are they. Some are teenagers, some are adults. People talk like she has 21 toddlers.

GothamProtector · 27/02/2020 18:24

I can not speak from experiences. But from what I've read here. Teenagers require more attention and detail than toddlers.

Hoik · 27/02/2020 18:50

You know from 15/20 mins on a YouTube vlog that the kids "emotional" needs are not being met?
Prey tell how you know such things by only seeing this small amount?

From their own published routines everyone wakes at 7am, younger kids go to bed at 6pm-7pm, older kids at 9pm and the parents at 10pm.

So "daytime" is 7am to 10pm.

Latest reports are 19 children/young adults still living at home.

7am to 8.30am is breakfast which is eaten in two 'sittings' as not everyone can fit at the table, and getting dressed ready for school/work.

8.45am to 3pm they're all at school. The youngest two are still at home so I'd hope they get some attention then.

3.30pm (ish) everyone arriving home from school.

5pm is dinner time, again in two 'sittings' so the kids don't even get a proper family mealtime as they're shunted through like a canteen.

6pm bedtime starts

9pm bedtime ends

10pm parents go to bed

There are two and a half hours between everyone coming in from school and bedtime starting at 6pm. Divide that by 19 children/young people and you're looking at roughly seven minutes of one to one attention each. And that's without discounting the time needed to cook/serve a meal so we're talking seven minutes maximum.

Do you think seven minutes is long enough to listen to a child read? Play a game? Chat about their day? Listen to their worries? Enjoy a cuddle? Teach them a skill?

Hoik · 27/02/2020 18:59

They are good parents and who cares if the older kids help? Sue and Noel raised them too, they are well mannered and absolutely fantastic

By Sue and Noel's own admission they rely on the older kids to help out. That right there is the key word - "rely". And one of the "older ones" they are relying on said on television when she was 11 years old that she has to help out loads and she finds it really stressful. It is one thing asking an older teen to keep an eye on their younger siblings for a little bit while you have a shower or nip to the shop or whatever, it's quite another to rely on an 11 year old to the extent that she is stressed out by it.

I bet most of you lot being judgy don't own your own business? Can take them on nice holidays?

There is a lot more to good parenting than owning a business and having nice holidays. You should read the Stately Homes threads over on the relationships board, chock full of people raised by "nice" parents who took them on holidays, kept them well fed, and put them in good quality clothes. However holidays, money, and clothes are not the same thing as care, attention, and nurturing.

Most of your judgmental comments are based on the fact that you could not do what they do.

I could do what they do, I could pop out baby after baby after baby. Know why I stopped at four though? Because it's not fair on my existing DC to make our family any bigger.

PickwickThePlockingDodo · 27/02/2020 19:04

They are good parents and who cares if the older kids help?

Erm maybe the older kids?

Willow2017 · 27/02/2020 19:19

They aren't all little kids though are they. Some are teenagers, some are adults. People talk like she has 21 toddlers.

Even when they werent adults they were expected to look after the younger ones when they got past the babes in arms age.

Some of the kids on the tv programme were filmed at ages around 6,7,8,9 saying they wished she would stop having babies as they never got any real attention when there was a baby around, and as soon as one was bigger there was another one on the way. Pretty sad to hear that.

housinghelp101 · 27/02/2020 20:24

I thought they were nice enough albeit a bit bonkers until I watched their vlogs. Their household is complete and utter chaos, kids screaming and shouting, all vying for attention which is given not by the parents but an older sibling. There is no way the parents can meet the ongoing emotional needs of any of the children, it is survival of the fittest. They can't even do their homework because they can't find a place with peace and quiet.

Rosesandteapot · 27/02/2020 21:01

Some of you are disgusting
The op should be ashamed of herself this is an 18 year old first time mum!
How would you all feel if we all slated you and your family grow up the lot of you and act like adults instead of hiding behind keyboards and your phones to troll
Absolutely disgusting

Hoik · 27/02/2020 21:05

Are you a Radford? You're very invested in defending them.

Nicknacky · 27/02/2020 21:10

I’m not hiding behind a keyboard but it’s difficult to do anything on a online chat forum apart from type on it!

I aspire for my children to do whatever they want in life but I would be disappointed if they got pregnant at 18.

GothamProtector · 27/02/2020 21:12

Also not hiding...just using the site the way it's intended.

If my parents behaved the way hers did I would accept the public slaying and join in.

AlexaAmbidextra · 27/02/2020 21:38

Rosesandteapot. The definition of a troll is not a poster who’s opinion differs from yours. People are allowed to hold their own point of view even if you don’t like it.

lynsey91 · 27/02/2020 22:04

I think Rosesandteapot is definitely a Radford

PickwickThePlockingDodo · 27/02/2020 22:12

Agreed

DrSheldonCooperPHD · 27/02/2020 22:32

I had the displeasure of sharing a flight with a lot of them once years ago, they were not all being watched, minded and properly looked after in an airport setting, nor was there any real discipline or care for the other passengers.

I wish Millie all the best, I hope they are all able to find their way out from that toxic house/parents and I hope this will be her way out.

CJsGoldfish · 29/02/2020 00:56

Sue is a good mum
No, she really isn't. Those kids had no chance at a normal life.

Most of your judgmental comments are based on the fact that you could not do what they do
Nope.
Why would anyone in their right mind choose to 'do' what they have done to those kids for their own purposes?

It's hard to see it from the inside, I get that @Rosesandteapot
but it certainly isn't 'trolling' to have a different opinion to you

It is a sad, sad situation for sure.

Dita73 · 29/02/2020 03:59

I feel sorry for their neighbours. Imagine having that bloody lot living next door