To ask if you could list positive things about being single?

[Youcanstay]

I would really appreciate helping me see some good sides of singlehood.

My flat is decorated exactly as I want it, complete with slightly weird artwork and random odd things.
When I put clean sheets on my bed they stay lovely fresh smelling for most of the week before I change them, because it's only me sleeping in them, and I shower before bed.
Can starfish on my bed, every single night, and I do.
Nobody to complain that my cat sleeps at the bottom of the bed by my feet. He even has his own blanket on the one corner that he likes.
My bedroom is always as tidy as I leave it, the laundry always finds its way straight into the basket, without sitting next to it or on top of it first.
If I wake up at stupid o'clock and can't get back to sleep, I can bring a cup of tea back to bed and sit and read or whatever without having to be quiet and not turn lights on in case I wake anyone.
I don't tidy up after anyone but me and the cat really, my young adult DC do their bit.
I can cook and eat whatever I fancy.
I don't have to put up with his annoying friends, especially the one really twatty sexist arsehole who thinks he's funny.
No more argumentative harassment disguised as wanting a discussion about something.
I can buy all the yarn, fabric, embroidery silks, skincare stuff, lovely art prints, special edition books or whatever random thing I fancy buying for myself without having someone complain that the money could have been spent on something they wanted too, or dismissing the things I enjoy as stupid, or old lady hobbies or whatever.
I can have all the peace and quiet if I want it, or I can play my music loud when I fancy and the only people who complain about my "old person" punk and metal music are my kids (which is normal), plus my son likes most of it anyway.
Life is just calmer, less stressful and I much prefer it.

Buy home decor without discussions.
Only have your own stuff to tidy.
No grumpy manchild making everyone feel awkward (that night be a personal one!)
Whole bed to yourself
No snoring.

I'm not single, but I fantasise about....
Having a good nights sleep with no snoring
Eating what I fancy for dinner with no consideration for someone else
Having the dishwasher loaded correctly
The loo seat being down at all times
Watching what I want on tv at any time
Having an afternoon nap without being disturbed
Having friends/family round for dinner or having house parties (DH isn't very sociable so I tend not to do it as often as I'd like)

So my exh did nothing around the house and diy was left to me.

Since he left I asked a friend round to sort my heating out and he did ALL the odd jobs that needed doing that I could do but would probably fuck up. So that is a v. Good discovery

Plus all my friends want to feed me as they know I dont cook if it is just me 😂

You can just relax - completely. The joy of not having to consider someone else’s (in the case of my ex, unreasonable) needs or wants.
I can’t think of any downside apart from an on tap shag if you want it but I rarely did towards the end.

Big bed all to yourself.
Bedroom and wardrobes all to yourself.
Can choose all decor.
No one eats your treats/chocolate!
Only your own things in bathroom
No one complaining about amount of make up and bubble bath
Own choice on tv and films always

Not having to put up with someone else's bad moods and not having to tip toe around them. Not feeling constantly let down by someone.

Being able to live how I like and raise my kids how I like.

Newly single and it's wonderful.
Watching TV in bed cuddling the dog.
Not having to listen to someone drone on about their job.
Not being responsible for another adult.
Having complete control over my own money.
Being able to be me in my own home, rather than the 'me' someone else approved of.
Having time to spend on hobbies.
Having friends round whenever I want.
No arguments.
No atmosphere.
An absolute sense of peace and contentment.
Not having to put up with anyone else's taste in art or music.
It's bloomin' marvelous!

-Bed all to myself
-I can cook/eat what I want without having to think about someone else
-Nobody to make a mess in my house but me
-I can spend/save as I wish without consulting anyone
-I choose where/when I holiday
-I don’t have to run plans by anyone. If I want to spend the whole day with a friend or change plans last minute it’s fine
-I can spend all the time/money I want on my hobby
-I can be alone when I’m home. No talking to anyone if I don’t want to.
-No one to complain about how much time my job takes up

All excellent things that make me very happy!

Being single is amazing. I know it doesn't suit everyone, but it honestly is wonderful.
Your time is your time to do whatever you like (obviously taking children into account).
No worry of them having an affair, any sort of abuse, gaslighting or manipulation.
Be who YOU want to be. You don't need to be 'on' or try to impress anyone else. You don't need to answer to anybody.

As people have said, the freedom is amazing. You are in total control of everything.

You don't have to come home to someone in a bad mood, you don't have to base what you cook/watch etc. Around someone else.

Obviously it's different if you don't live with your partner, but some of these things still do apply.

No disturbed sleep which is very important.

So many reasons, could go on all day.

I have 2 newlywed friends (married less than 6 months) who complain to me about their grumpy husbands and having to put up with their moods. Another friend who got married and now is divorced because of her husband's affair.

I just wish that more people I knew took the decision to be single. However I understand that it's human nature to want somebody.

When men ask "How are you still single ?!" or people say "And that's why I'm still single at X age." They don't believe that people can be choose to be single and happy.
Single should be celebrated, whatever age you are. I know it's probably easier for me though as I don't want to have children, whereas I have single friends in their mid-30s who feel time is running out. I would like to be a foster carer later down the line.

I am going to continue being single and happy, and show people that it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or that you are not loveable.

I have a friend going thru a painful divorce.
She spends so little time doing stuff for other people.
I have huge about this.
It's not healthy, actually, she ends up stewing over her bad situation because she doesn't have to do stuff for other people.
I still have huge .