To ask if you could list positive things about being single?

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I would really appreciate helping me see some good sides of singlehood.

You can devote more time and energy to other important people in yr life: maybe older relations, friends in trouble, or a charity or cause you care deeply about.

Eat what I want and when.
Watch what I want
Go out when I want
Buy what I want
Get up when I want and go to bed when I want

I agree, so many things !!
You don't have to compromise on anything.
Your time is your own.
Nobody saying they prefer your hair a certain way, they prefer when you wear X clothing.
Not having to clean up their mess.
No worries about being lied to/cheated on/DV.
More time to focus on yourself, family, friends, work.

Don’t have to be nice to someone who’s always there being irritating and trying to nuzzle you

I can think of a few positive things about not being single, but it's a far shorter list and substitutes are available.

Company of an evening - DS for that, if he's awake. When/if he moves out I will consider getting another cat.
Escort to the cinema - if DS doesn't want to see a movie, DSis will get it on Sky Movies eventually.
Opening stiff jam jars - DS again, or I have a handy gripping tool that usually works.
Replacing light bulbs - can just about do it myself on tiptoe but DS is taller (XH wasn't).
Waiting in for deliveries - DS if he's awake, otherwise a short trip to the sorting office.
Fixing stuff - get the menz in. Cheaper in the long term than feeding an in-house handyman for years.
Warming feet on cold nights - bed socks!
Letting you in when you've forgotten your key - if DS is out or asleep, DSis has a spare. I've bought a key safe but haven't got round to installing it
Sex - get the menz in again . Or, as DSis romantically points out, a 7" piece of plastic and two HP7 batteries. Currently, though, I'm saving myself for the millionaire of my dreams.
Two incomes - ha! Never had that when I was married so I don't miss it now. Whenever I had a windfall XH was full of cute ideas on how to spend it as quickly as possible. I think money frightened him.

What was the question again?

Don't need to clear up or think about anyone else's mess
Not having to share anything
No one finishing the last of anything whithout your knowledge
Not having to compromise on anything
Not having to justify anything
Can do what you like when you like (obviouy money depending 😂)
Can have your house the way you want it (although dp never says anything about what I do in the house, he couldn't give a shit)
You can eat anything you want for dinner without having to think about what the other person likes.
Honestly I could list things all night.

Your life path is your own, you can move to anywhere you want to, throw yourself into a career or hobby without considering the impact on someone else.

Far more time to do what you want. More emotional energy to invest in friendships, particularly with single friends who are on the same page.

In some ways I miss it. Having said that, I prefer a good relationship to being single, singledom can feel really tough and lonely at times, and people underestimate that. But I would always choose singledom over an unhappy relationship.

No arguments
No disappointment when you come home and the place looks like a pig stye
Spend on what YOU want
Save money if you want to
No lies (at home)
No feeling second best
No having guests you don't like but who are his friends
No compromising
Eat/sleep/drink/wear/do what/when you like
Don't have to have sex to shut him up

Don’t have to be patient about things that drive you mad or suppress parts of your personality that don’t ‘fit’ with your relationship. Don’t have to change yourself.

You will rediscover your resilience and self-sufficiency and realise you can manage just fine by yourself. You don’t have to compromise - I don’t mean small things like what to watch on tele - I mean big things like the doubts about aspects of compatibility that most relationships involve to some extent.

You can have adventures, go on holiday, meet new people, and if you want, find someone else. The world becomes a place of possibility and opportunity again.

Relationships can be great of course, but they do tend to eclipse everything else and take up so much time and energy that you forget that there’s a whole shitload of other things going on.

Being single means you can be true to yourself and invest time in you. Freedom!!!

Even though I'm sick to the back teeth of singledom there are some definate advantages:

Star fishing
Watch what I went on telly
Have as many cats as I want
No need to shave bits for weeks
House is decorated & organised how I want it
Dont have to check a partners plans before agreeing to things
If I want to slob about in my scruffy then I can
Nobody to answer to
Dont have to share my bottle of red!

I'm not single but I have spent the majority of today daydreaming about my single future! My lovely little house, my relaxing evenings, the dog I will get! Can't wait.

Not having Alexa in my house and not having to listen to someone talk to Alexa is going to be wonderful

...not having to listen to a symphony of bodily functions from someone who can't ever be arsed to close the bathroom door

@queenMab99 it's always been a glorious bush but now I don't even have to trim for politeness sake!

My space is my own, and I can breathe.

This is all very good to hear. I thought I was being shallow and that other people somehow had got it right whereas I can't. Or rather "we can't ". Thanks for asking this, OP

Fewer nasty financial surprises
Fewer nasty surprises in general
Eating fish & salad frequently
Less moaning, cleaning, sport on tv
No Jeremy Clarkson
No vile MiL
Bathroom staying clean for longer
Freedom to not be criticised
Creative freedom - decorating, gardening etc
Dancing in the kitchen
Singing in the car.
Space in bed
😊

I love my own space
Can watch what I want to watch, when I want to watch it
My choice of film/program
Bed to myself
No criticism on what I wear or cook
Can see my friends or who I want to see when I'm free

Independence. I have a husband and a child and I can’t tell you how much I miss eating a meal or going to the toilet without consulting someone else.

I read so many threads on here from people who find the concept of putting oneself first, indulging your own whims and being spontaneous completely alien. I find it really sad tbh, that for some people, being in a relationship means having their free time policed, their identity curtailed and an end to the idea that it’s OK to please themselves. Obviously this isn’t true of all relationships but there’s none of this with being single. Plus, depending on your circumstances the feeling of pride that you’re not relying on anyone else financially, and the opportunity to truly develop your sense of self worth and contentment to come from within you - this is something everyone should do tbh, because your worth is nothing to do with having a partner but unfortunately a lot of people still seem to measure it by that.

Those who live the longest are said to be single women and married men - I think that says it all.

No seeing someone else's skids in the loo. No putting up with someone else's farts.

@pinkyredrose one of the top reasons a friend gave for dumping her ex was "permanent skidders in the loo and doesn't clean them". 😷

I'm always thinner and fitter when single!

All of the above
Plus a big one as I am getting older

I am not facing the prospect of having to care for an ill partner

and

I am not worried about losing a partner through death. I am in my 60s and have friends and families in their 70s who have been together since forever and are increasingly dreading the time when there will only be one (most probably the woman - due to age and genetics) left.