To not wear a suit jacket to a funeral.

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Relative of mine has sadly passed away. Neither me or Oh have any funeral attire so need to go shopping or order something 😭

For my my partner. I was thinking black trousers, white shirt, black tie and black pull over jumper with black shoes obviously. But would a pull over jumper be frowned upon compared to a suit jacket?

He’ll still look smart just my oh is really quite small built and even small suit jackets swamp him and we don’t have time to get one tailored!

Personally I think it’s too informal and will raise eyebrows. What does he wear for interviews? I can’t imagine any male adult not owning a suit.

Sorry for your loss. Your dp will look fine..many people dont wear suits or black anymore.

That’s fine. Many people don’t wear suits or even very formal clothes to funerals. Be clean, clothes pressed, reasonably groomed and respectful. Only go to buy new stuff if you really have nothing else that will do.

If he wears a tie just ensure he has his top button done up.

It’ll be fine, a black pullover is acceptable to many, I wouldn’t go out of my way to buy a suit jacket for a funeral.

I've never worn a suit jacket to a funeral.

I always dress smartly with some black but as a care assistant I just don't own a suit jacket.

To my nans funeral I wore a black lace dress she would've loved, black knee boots, a black cardi & a smart tweed coat.

A smart black jumper over shirt & black tie is fine I think.
The key thing is to look smart & tidy.

That outfit sounds perfect. I was at a funeral recently and very few people were wearing suits. Mostly smart, dark clothes, but not suits.

Are you able to ask what to wear? I know when it’s my turn to be buried , I would want people to turn up up in what they are comfortable in, if that’s jeans and a shirt, something you wear that you would go out in if we were going out somewhere. A kind of a reminder of the times we spent together!
My family know this. I’ve a feeling at mine there will be lots of people with glitter and flip flops!!!

Wear what you have. Clean neat and tidy. It is your attendance that matters not what you wear . I have just remembered when Mum died I smelt mothballs from a number of those attending service so they obviously did have specific "funeral outfits"!!!!

The pullover sounds smarter than drowning in a badly fitting jacket.

It really depends on your social surroundings.

Some people do not consider anything other than black acceptable for a funeral.

No one cares around me. As long as you dress in a conservative and ideally darker colour, it's absolutely fine. And if you are caught short on holiday and only have clean jeans, it's fine too.

I also find that something is not funeral appropriate just because it's black... which some people don't seem to get.

Black jumper would be absolutely ok for me.

Not a problem at all. I was having a conversation with someone the other day about what I would want for my funeral, and one of the main things was that people came in what they were comfortable in, so smart or not, black or bright colours, etc. I don’t think anyone would want you to spend money you don’t have, on clothes you don’t need, just to say goodbye to them.

Last funeral I went to someone was wearing head to toe leopard print . Everyone else was just in smart, darker clothes. I just wore a navy dress, boots and a navy coat, DH a dark suit, but then he lives in suits. Anything smart and plain will be fine, draw the line at the leopard print though!

Sounds fine to me - the general rule here seems to be smart & dark so a dark jumper over a shirt & tie is fine, especially given the freezing weather.

I can’t imagine any male adult not owning a suit My OH has two fabulous suits but they are not suitable for funerals.

My father died recently and I was delighted to see everyone and didn’t notice whether they had a suit on or not. A restrained colour is all you need.

That sounds fine to me! I have been to a fair few funerals recently (unfortunately) and nobody except closest family wore full black suits.

He used to own a suit it seems to have been
misplaced since he moved out of his mums. This is going back 10 years plus. He’s been in the same job for a long time so hasn’t need a suit for an interview.

I plan to buy a new black pull over so he’ll look smart. I just don’t know what do. I know I can order a black pull Over from
Say next and it’ll fit him but there’s every chance he’ll need to try on a few suit jackets and we are limited on time.. and he’s working all week so we haven’t got time to try any on... 😩

He’ll be fine with the pullover.

We are close family to him so I’ll ask my family if they think it’s okay first..

That sounds absolutely fine OP, smart & sombre

Just double check there are no specific dress requests though - the last funeral I went to it was requested people wear 'something yellow or green' if possible and I have also been to a 'please wear something pink' one

Maybe check if the family have asked people to wear specific colours. We asked people to wear something in mum's favourite colour, and my dad's suit was pale grey.

somber colours (black, dark navy, etc) and smart, does not need to be formal. Even dark black jeans (not stone washed/ripped) are acceptable as long as they are smart.

Do people at funerals really look at what people are wearing and judge them for it.

What earthy difference does it make.

What your OH plans to wear sounds absolutely fine OP.

Personally, I couldn't care less what people are likely to wear to my funeral, I'd just like to think they'll be there. And anyone who is likely to pass judgement on what other people are wearing can stay away.

Thanks all. I’ve never been to a funeral before so I’m clueless..

Last funeral I went to someone was wearing head to toe leopard print

One of DH's aunts wore leopard print to SIL's wedding and it was commented on. On the way to DH's grandfather's funeral we were joking that she might turn up in leopard print again just to be really inappropriate. She did. But this time not just an ordinary one but fuschia leopard print. Definitely the talking point.

Blokes don't need a formal suit jacket. If he has a decent overcoat if it's cold or wet, he will be fine. Dark grey/navy would be fine for the sweater too. V necked with a neutral/white shirt plus plain dark tie would be totally acceptable.