To be shocked at this level of aggression?

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Hi guys. I dropped my son to nursery this morning as usual and pulled out of a junction onto the road. It was raining and hard visibility but I did check each way.

I pull out to hear a few seconds later a beep sound from the driver behind. I immediately realise my mistake and think fair enough I deserve that maybe I didn’t check enough? He was not anywhere near crashing into me given the few seconds and then the beep and then I looked in my rear view mirror.

We proceed to drive along the road where I pull in on the left as was going to the post office. He gives me the finger and revs his van behind me. I come to a stop and he drives up the side car to car and opens his passenger window. I also open my window half way.

He screams at me I nearly caused an accident. I said look I made a mistake but why are you being so aggressive ? He immediately starts screaming names at me your a fucking prick , your a stupid bitch, and so on. I lost my cool and said well your a fucking dickhead then. At this point he goes to put his van in park and grapples at his seatbelt as if he was going to come out of his veichle.

I mentally noted that my doors were locked, and I don’t know if he saw I had a camera in my car but he didn’t exit the veichle. He then continues to scream abuse and ends it with telling me ‘ your a FUCKING WHORE ‘ that’s what you are a fucking whore then drives off... I checked the van for a company name but none. Didn’t get his plate number but was really shaken over this.

On reflection I shouldn’t have even put my window down. But I said straight away I made a mistake .. where do we draw the line of thinking it’s okay to be this aggressive and verbally insulting someone ? Plenty of times I’ve not been happy with another driver but don’t even beep unless it’s serious ..

I have a dash cam could probs get his reg off that. But is this even a crime ? I hate to think how he speaks to females in his own life. It was when I shot back a verbal insult ( after many from him) that I could see his shock and that’s and he was gesturing that he was going to get out the car... still a bit shaken now !

@PlanDeRaccordement linking to the sun is not the strongest way of trying to make a point, just saying 🤷🏻‍♀️

OP it’s terrifying and really upsetting when this happens. I still remember being in my early 20s, pulling out onto an unfamiliar A road in my old banger and a car come speeding round the corner and going absolutely nuts because I was going too slow (took a while to get any speed up in that car). He tailgated me for ages flashing his lights and eventually overtook me gesturing and shouting obscenities. It was a middle aged man in a Jag with a woman, presumably his wife, next to him. I remember thinking I’d rather be single and skint for life than have to live with him!

To roll down your window and talk to him was normal. His response to you was not. Are we all supposed to just shut down and stop communicating with each other because there are crazy people like this man out there? No. You did the right thing, OP. I'm sorry you experienced that.

I disagree with the person who said I have placed all blame on him. If you READ the post I said when he beeped I thought okay I deserved that and when he pulled up to my car the first thing I said was I made a mistake so not not blaming him. But I do hold a 40
Something man 100% responsible for choosing to beep me give me the finger rev up behind me and then come side to side with my car and Make a choice to call me numerous swear words at the top of his voice full on screaming. This was all at 9.15 this morning ! I did call him a fucking dick head when he had already screamed numerous insults at me because no I wasn’t going to just sit there and say nothing. Nor would I had this been in a shop, or a park or wherever. I refused to be intimidated by this vile man but yes it did leave me shocked and a little shaken. I cannot even remember the last time I was called a whore .. perhaps it was because he wasn’t expecting to me met with a female who had her make up on and wasn’t afraid to verbally attack him back in self defence .... I do believe in karma and I drive the same routes day in and day out and I don’t forget a face so I will keep a look out for him. Had I seen a company name or seen him parked up at a workplace further up the road I would have confronted him with people around me. In future I won’t engage and I’ll simply turn my phone and film them ( if safe ) another good pointer someone gave me was to sound my horn to draw attention from people around if I ever felt this threatened again.

I think some people are just living in a high state of aggression most of the time, I have had a man coming in the opposite direction shouting and gesticulating at me from his van when I have pulled in behind a parked car, so he could pass on a narrow road with vehicles parked both sides, you don't need to do anything wrong to get abuse from someone like that.

So cool cool
Are you denying that Jeremy Vine was the victim of a road rage incident committed by a woman, Ms Pearson, and that she was convicted of said offence in a U.K. court of law?
The facts make the point, not the rag that reports it.
The point btw, was that it is not always men who commit road rage offences and to say such a ridiculous statement is sexism.