We’re due dc2 very soon, I’ll have two under 1. Before I hit the completely beached whale side of pregnancy I managed to keep the house mostly clean with dp doing dinner dishes n weekend cleaning type stuff.. anything I ask for a hand with and general stuff off his own back.
Obviously now I get knackered quicker so I don’t do as much, not dirty just clutter can live longer and the hoover won’t die if it’s not switched on type of changes. He moans a bit but he’s always been one for nothing on surfaces etc.. and mil likes to nip his ear.
My parents can’t manage to take both kids to baby sit regularly, health wise and simply they don’t get much time off work for them. I wouldn’t ask them to either. But they’ve offered as we don’t need a baby gift to pay for a cleaner to come once a week n help run round the place so I don’t need to stress while the new babies a typical won’t go down newborn and ds is being well ds. I thought it was a great offer, I’d coordinate it for a day I was in if that worked best or I’d go to a baby group for the few hours to give her peace.
Now we’re talking kitchen, bathroom, living room, hoovering kind of clean not gutting every room just to keep the house running till I’m on my feet.
DP is horrified obviously.. why would we need one! They’d go through our stuff! They steal! My
mother never had one and she had us two (bigger age gap).. blah blah blah.
Dm and me have two ideas.. cleaner comes when he’s at work and he’ll never know.
Or
I wait till he’s moaning his face off, ideally infront of MIL, and state dp’s offered to get us a cleaner.. so he can physically see how ridiculous he’s being.
It’s the same cleaner they use so she doesn’t steal or raid through everything.
Should I let him moan?
Or should I get a secret cleaner?
Or should I get the cleaner and a patio?
Why are men such awkward beasts.