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To even consider this...

35 replies

Undecideda · 22/02/2020 15:01

My OH has a big birthday coming up and he is a real plane enthusiast. I have found u can fly in a spitfire for just under 3k.

I think he would love it but we haven’t got loads of spare cash at the moment...although I have some shares I could sell that I don’t really notice having.

It is probably a once in a lifetime experience that he’d love but is it worth the money for 20 mins flight time?! Or am I crazy to even be considering this?

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Oysterbabe · 22/02/2020 15:04

It would be great I'm sure but you can't afford it.

Drum2018 · 22/02/2020 15:05

You'd be crazy to waste that much money. You could go on a holiday for that. I would kill Dh if he bought me something like that, no matter how much he thought I'd love it.

mollypuss1 · 22/02/2020 15:07

Life is for living, if you can afford it, do it.

user1493413286 · 22/02/2020 15:10

For me that’s too much money unless I was seriously loaded

WaterSheep · 22/02/2020 15:10

Does it have to be a spitfire, or is it the gift of flying a plane that he would love?

If the latter, would one of these experience days be an option?

www.virginexperiencedays.co.uk/flying-lesson

BlueJava · 22/02/2020 15:12

No way unless I was loaded. Crazy.

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Undecideda · 22/02/2020 15:12

I think he would love any flight experience but I was hoping to get something a bit more special as he has done some of the others before...I wouldn’t notice the shares not being there, but it is money we could spend on other more important things in the future...

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AnyFucker · 22/02/2020 15:14

That would be ridiculous

I would be very angry if my H spunked money we could ill afford on something like that

WaterSheep · 22/02/2020 15:16

If he would prefer any flying experience then yes YABU. The gift will be special as it's come from you, and it's something he will enjoy. Spending thousands of pounds won't make it any more special. If anything it could make it a worse experience, as he would be under immense pressure to enjoy it considering the hefty cost.

heartsonacake · 22/02/2020 15:17

YABU. You just don’t have the money to spend on such an extravagant present.

It would be a huge waste.

anotherlittlechicken · 22/02/2020 15:18

Fuckin' ell! That's a lot of money. No way would I spend that. Nope. No way.

You can get a 'flying experience' for less than £100. Why spend £3000?! Confused

datasgingercatspot · 22/02/2020 15:18

Yeah, you're being daft.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 22/02/2020 15:19

I have a friend who won this be-flown-in-a-Spitfire experience at an air-show (well, I won it really, but I pretended it was for him because I hated the whole idea and only bought a raffle ticket hoping for one of the lesser prizes) and he was completely stunned by it, and went around grinning for about a week.

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Undecideda · 22/02/2020 15:19

Thanks that is a good point watersheep I don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable or guilty and I suppose we could have a holiday and a cheaper flight experience for less...sometimes I can be a bit impulsive. I do agree that life is for living and it would be amazing...but yeah maybe a bit I’ll advised then!

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Undecideda · 22/02/2020 15:20

The thing is I think he would absolutely love it

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Spied · 22/02/2020 15:20

I'd spend half of that and do a luxury European city break.
3K for 20 mins - no way. I know it's a memory- but still.

OhCaptain · 22/02/2020 15:21

No. If you have to sell shares to afford it then you can’t afford it.

Can you find any of those flight simulator things?!

Skysblue · 22/02/2020 15:24

£3k is a big family purchase, it’s not ok to spend that much secretly, even for a gift, unless you are seriously seriously rich, which doesn’t seem to be the case. He might love it but he might NOT.

Maybe tell him you would love to give him that, and see what he says? If hekeen then the surprise is lost but he gets to spend longer looking forward to it and value of surprise is overrated.

For £3k a family of four can spend 10 days in sunny Lanzarote over xmas all inclusive including flights from UK - personally I’d much rather spend family money on a great memory for all of us than 20 mins for one.

(Also kinda puts pressure for him to spend loads on you for your birthday!)

heartsonacake · 22/02/2020 15:35

It doesn’t matter that he’ll love it at the time. It matters that he’ll resent you spending so much money on a 20 minute experience that you will be able to use for more important life purchases.

You can’t afford it and you shouldn’t buy it.

Iusedtobeapartygirl · 22/02/2020 15:38

It's a lovely idea but it doesn't really sound like you can afford it!

MitziK · 22/02/2020 15:41

Start saving up for his next big birthday or 5 years, at least.

Personally, I'd see shares as too much of a risk and would transfer them into something like an ISA, then you don't find yourself needing the money desperately just as they've become worthless. But that's me.

Itwasntme1 · 22/02/2020 15:42

While it’s a lovely thought, I would be horrified if someone I loved spent this much money on such a short experience.

Devlesko · 22/02/2020 15:43

YABU as you can't afford it without breaking into savings.
It's up to you of course, but I wouldn't unless the cash was there.

Mlou32 · 22/02/2020 15:43

Personally, I would do it. As my old granny used to say, you can't take your money to the grave with you. Although I have very different values to a lot of people and put memories and experiences above all. Maybe not the most sensible thing to do but I've had some amazing experiences and memories that will last a lifetime.

lljkk · 22/02/2020 15:44

crazy

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