To think early morning WhatsApp message writers are inconsiderate?

[Magenta82]

I was woken up at 0645 on a SATURDAY morning by someone messaging a WhatsApp group. Nothing important or time sensitive, they said themselves they were lying awake thinking, now I'm lying awake pissed off that my sleep has been interrupted for no reason.

I think YANBU. I don’t think the onus should be on you to sort out your do not disturb notifications. I find the majority of messages to be unnecessary/people being thoughtless. A mate has persistently messaged me about nothing this week. I’ve told her I need my phone on in case someone phones re mil. I’m off this week so lie ins are essential. We didn’t have a row when I told her not to message, but she told me to put my phone on silent. I asked her why I should do that just because she’s decided to suddenly need to message me at 6 this week. She’s stopped.

Have it on do not disturb - you can select people who can break through the barrier (my kids, my parents, my exh, my dp etc)

You can mute group chats but keep notifications on individual messages. I do this. Job done!

There are people who need to get hold of me urgently, I cant have my phone on silent as they wouldn't be able to get through. How had is it to not message people with your random musings until a more reasonable time?

So use the settings which pretty much every phone has to prioritise calls from certain people for all these masses and masses of unexpected urgent calls you get. Or just silence WhatsApp.

How do you know rthere aren't people complaining that you message them at hours they dislike. Your schedule isn't the only allowed one in the world!

Take some responsibility for your own phone ffs.

Turn off your WhatsApp notifications 🙄

There are people who need to get hold of me urgently, I cant have my phone on silent as they wouldn't be able to get through
You can set it so you only get notifications from certain people when you have DND on

Yabu. Learn how to use your phone.

I refuse to join WhatsApp groups for this reason. I use WhatsApp for only my kids & husband to communicate with me instead of text. Ds was stopping at a friends house last night for example so I left my phone on last night.

I have notifications set as dnd from 11pm till 7am I got fed up of my dm messaging me at 4am and it waking me . She's a early riser and doesn't understand that I have my phone next to my bed as a alarm .
I wouldn't message anyone before 8am unless urgent but do what others say dnd .

I can't believe people don't permanently mute their WhatsApp groups! Nothing important is said in them and people can message musings whenever they feel like it.

How do you know rthere aren't people complaining that you message them at hours they dislike. Your schedule isn't the only allowed one in the world!

Take some responsibility for your own phone ffs.

This I find confusing though. Like you wouldn’t dream of ringing the doorbell of an acquaintance at 2 in the morning to ask about world book day costumes the next day. Then if they got cross you’d shout at them that they should have turned their doorbell off if they didn’t want to speak to you. That would be nuts wouldn’t it?
So why is it ok to do it via a phone?

I know I’m a bit odd in my thinking sometimes but this etiquette honestly really confuses me.

*This I find confusing though. Like you wouldn’t dream of ringing the doorbell of an acquaintance at 2 in the morning to ask about world book day costumes the next day. Then if they got cross you’d shout at them that they should have turned their doorbell off if they didn’t want to speak to you. That would be nuts wouldn’t it?
So why is it ok to do it via a phone? *

But it’s not the same thing. That would be more like someone calling you at 2am, not sending a text.

The nature of seeing in person or phone calls is they need an immediate answer. Texts and emails were always designed to be read and responded to when it’s convenient for the recipient.

Yabu purely because anyone that has WhatsApp set to
Make a noisy alert is mental. Is your phone not beeping all bloody day??!

I always have my phone on do not disturb over night .

Hmm I think YABU but mainly because I am jealous that you usually get a lie in also I am in group chats with people all over the world so I spose it’s difficult to find an ideal time for us to all message. Doesn’t really bother me but I can understand why you would be annoyed if it’s not even directly for you.

You are being ridiculous

Like you wouldn’t dream of ringing the doorbell of an acquaintance at 2 in the morning to ask about world book day costumes the next day. Then if they got cross you’d shout at them that they should have turned their doorbell off if they didn’t want to speak to you. That would be nuts wouldn’t it? So why is it ok to do it via a phone?

for all the reasons stated above, mainly because you can

*put your phone on silent
*select who can ring you
*mute the group/ whatsapp

The whole point of email/ whatsapp/ txt/messenger is that you write when convenient for you, and the receiver read and reply when convenient for them.

If you can only whatsapp between 10 and 12 and 2:30 to 4:30pm, you might as well make a phone call. And you wouldn't even be sure that these limited hours are convenient for everyone anyway.

I use my phone as an alarm clock and to set myself reminders in particular mornings.
But whateapp messages late at night or early morning per me off too.
Go into settings and mute notifications.

I use my phone as an alarm clock

So do I, but the alarm function still works even if you put the phone on 'silent' overnight. On any phone I've ever had, anyway.

I live in another country with 8 hours of time difference between with my friends and family back home. Which means they message me when I am asleep and vice versa. Never felt annoyed by their messages arriving at any time of the day whatsoever, just switch off notifications for whats app messages for the night/ switch phone to flight mode.

The only ‘ late night message’ that mightily pissed me of was from an old collegue who had sent me: ‘ look outside your window’ at 11 in the night, weird guy who had tried to make a move on me a few times before. I was living alone and quite anxious at that time, it felt seriously creepy.

Haha! I text at all times as I know normal people put on silent.

I feel your pain OP. Forgot to put my phone on DND and a bloody app't reminder for my DD physio appointment on Monday after school came through at 6:45 this morning! Bang went my lie in.

Switch phone off at night.

Mute WA so you get messages when you go in to look only, or put your phone on silent at night,.

You canute messages on WhatsApp. Just go to that groups settings and choose how long you want it muted for.

I take my phone to bed as my DD is a long way away at uni and I’m still adjusting. 4 calls from her last night- butt dialled from a club! Not the emergency I thought.