to have told DD (11) to do her own washing?

[BramwellBrown]

DD has got a horrible attitude at the moment and is being really rude and ungrateful and I've had enough of it. She huffs and rolls her eyes and varies between a snappy tone and sarcasm, she has completely forgotten the words please and thank you and regularly tells me she hates me.

I asked DD to get her washing out her room and she said "no, do it yourself" so I told her to do her washing herself. She's had a massive tantrum, I am the worst mother ever and she hates me and none of her friends parents make them do things round the house! (which is probably bollocks as I get "but all my friends parents..." a lot) She also says refusing to do her washing is "like uber neglectful."

She has very huffily done her washing, with a bit of guidance, but she is still sulking and muttering about injustice and I am now doubting myself (but not in front of her because I'm pretty sure she can smell weakness). I'm not planning to never ever do her washing again but is 11 old enough to do your own washing in these circumstances?

Hit em where it hurts I say! Well done for sticking to your guns! Too many parents let their kids away with talking to them like shit and make rods for the backs for the next decade. Nip it in the bud now. Your house, your rules!!

My son is 11 next week, hes been using the washing machine for about a year. I don’t make him do his own and I have to nag him to make sure he puts dirty washing in the bloody basket but if I’ve sorted it into colour piles and ask him to bung one of them in he will (usually).