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AIBU to ask your top 3 requirements in a relationship

79 replies

policeandthieves · 20/02/2020 23:09

Leading on from the new man small penis thread ( not a deal breaker for me BTW) and discussion with a friend.
What are you absolute requirements in a relationship ?
Mine are
Don't be stingy
Don't hem me in in
Don't irritate me

Everything else is a bonus

OP posts:
Hepsibar · 21/02/2020 11:36

Someone on the same wave length

notacooldad · 21/02/2020 11:37

Trust loyalty and kindness.

jimmyjammy001 · 21/02/2020 11:46

Good stable career
Fun/bubbly personality
No kids!

JosefKeller · 21/02/2020 11:47

No kids!
harder and harder to find past a certain age unfortunately

Disfordarkchocolate · 21/02/2020 11:47

Kindness
Funny
Nice to kiss

fastliving · 21/02/2020 12:15

Kind
Honest
Loving

Most negative attributes are wiped out by these things.

PooWillyBumBum · 21/02/2020 12:45

Kind
Honest
Clever

Couldn’t be with someone who didn’t stimulate me intellectually.

TheReef · 21/02/2020 12:49

Trustworthy
Kind
Humour

littlepeas · 21/02/2020 12:53

Kind
Funny
Intelligent

MondeoFan · 21/02/2020 12:53
  1. No addictions
  2. No bad temper (inability to control oneself)
  3. No being tight and expecting me to pay when it should be you that is paying
EmmiJay · 21/02/2020 15:06

Great sex. Good banter. Great humour. Thats it.

Sparklesocks · 21/02/2020 15:08

Kind
Communicative/open
trust

Blackandgreenteas · 21/02/2020 15:10

Reliability/ trustworthiness
Kindness
Not controlling / trying to impose their agenda

Jeleste · 21/02/2020 15:12

Trust
Generosity
Sex

OkMaybeNot · 21/02/2020 15:14

Be funny
Be independent
Know when to leave me alone

TreesSandSea · 21/02/2020 15:16

Kindness
Love
Reliability

CallofDoodee · 21/02/2020 15:17

Makes me laugh and vice versa - this is a huge one for me actually, can't imagine being with someone who didn't share the same sense of humour as me, or didn't have one at all!

Respects me

Is secure in themselves and therefore I won't have to put up with jealousy or possessiveness etc.

yummytummy · 21/02/2020 15:19

kindness
respect
good sex

WhiteBadger · 21/02/2020 15:36

Honest
Funny
Generous

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 21/02/2020 15:38

Sense of Humour
Hygienic
Self-Sufficient

upaladderagain · 21/02/2020 15:44

Respect
Integrity
Kindness

midsummabreak · 21/02/2020 23:16

High emotional intelligence, great sense of humour, generous lover

TheMotherofAllDilemmas · 21/02/2020 23:19

I need:
-someone I can trust
-someone I can admire

  • someone I find attractive

If any of those are missing I just let it go.

NameChangeNugget · 21/02/2020 23:21

Passionate
Trust Worthy
Humour

TheCanyon · 21/02/2020 23:28

After almost 11 years together, the ability to NOT change the radio station when I said so. 17 years and freebird is such a beautiful but triggering song, I just didn't need it tonight.

No absolutely means no in our relationship but that instantaneous recognition of pain for me and his reluctance to change it turns my stomach