I don’t want to ‘fix a crown’

[Singlebutmarried]

Just that really

I don’t see the point in attacking someone on line.

I really don’t.

Surely we should just think before we post stuff.

Would we find it hurtful? If so. Don’t post.

Oh ffs,I'm with you OP and as if the 'be kind' crap that's being trotted out left, right and centre isn't enough. People are convinced if people were kind to CF she wouldn't have committed suicide, it really doesn't work like that 🙄

And don’t be offended if I haven’t tagged you. It’s because you’re no fun.

But #bekind hey?

@IWantThatName bid off spread is half price in Waitrose at the mo.

I bought a smooth and a crunchy.

I have to go to Waitrose tomorrow, as it happens...

I hate that ridiculous chain letter!
Most of them I just at how twee and crap and pointless they are.
But that particular one?
Such mean undertones - that you’re in the wrong if you don’t share it.

Thank fuck I'm not using FB at the moment. I'd hate to be having to fend off this drivel.

I've been tagged a few times and ignored them all, I hate this Facebook shit. I don't have to #bekind either. I am kind and so is everyone I have on my FB or they wouldn't be my friends.

Serious question: is there anything good that comes from social media?

I truly do not believe that there is. And in fact it's absolutely abhorrent, in my opinion. It fuels bullying, narcissism, shallowness and more.

Look at all those vacuous arseholes now jumping on the bandwagon over that poor child in Australia whose despairing mum filmed his sadness at being bullied. I do actually have a Facebollocks account - but haven't posted anything to it since 2014 myself - and I had a look earlier because I knew there would be people clamouring to show how caring they are again.

One of the posts I saw was via a 'friend' of a 'friend' reposting some crap about how everyone should be more caring, blah, blah, blah, and 'repost if you think schools need to do more', blah, with a picture of the little boy crying. This particular person was an absolutely vile, vindictive, bullying cunt at school and I know her teen daughter is following in her footsteps as a friend's child has been on the receiving end.

So all that's happening is that they're using social media to draw attention to themselves in the guise of being caring human beings, which is in fact the exact opposite of what they are.

Social twatting media and reality bollocks TV can just fuck right off.

Is it time for wine yet?

I've been tagged 4 times and I've ignored all of them as I always do.
I dont need to post a selfie to remind me not to be a bitch, my mama taught me that shit when I was little. I'm pretty sure all those that jump on this bandwagon will also be the ones jumping on the bandwagon to tear a woman down who threatens their "tribe".

I do believe in the importance of kindness, above all else though, I just believe true kindness is not a public display and more private acts done without glory or recognition

What?? More crap. YANBU.

@DowntownAbby my local opened 27 mins ago. Therefore yes wine is allowed.

Oh yes downtownabby schools can only do so much, it's down to all of us parents to teach our kids to be kind and tolerant and accepting. Preventing bullying always begins at home. What's that poem we're taught?

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Yanbu. Seems to be all the bitchy people who are posting the "be kind" and "fix a crown" stuff. Many of them have conveniently forgotten the vitriol they posted when she was arrested

Here's an idea. If SM upsets you. Delete it. Last time I looked at FB (about once every six months ) it was full of people saying what fab Christmas they had planned. It's inane drivel.. you can 'fix all your crowns' by just going and doing something less pointless in real life.

@Patchworkpatty I could. But I use it to keep in touch with friends that have moved to far flung corners of the earth.

I think I need to adjust my settings.

They’ve not bought out a pandering shite filter yet tho.

My family are all in SE Asia and N America.. I find WhatsApp just fine for speaking to the normal people I need to speak to.. ,...

I keep seeing “........ then I remember who’s daughter I am and I straighten my crown.....” or variations thereof.

It makes me cringe so much

But I use it to keep in touch with friends that have moved to far flung corners of the earth.
What's wrong with good old fashioned email? Works fine for my friends and rellies and me.

I’m with you.
What is this bullshit on my FB makes my toes curl

“don’t be offended if I haven’t tagged you -I just tagged those who would make it fun”.

I’ve seen about 15 of these on my FB wall and have not been tagged once.

I agree that I wouldn’t have been offended by not being tagged. I was offended by being called ‘not fun’.

But also don’t do that all that ‘copy and paste if you care crap’ if that’s people’s definition of ‘not fun’ I’ll carry on being grumpy.

I'm so glad it's not just me.

The fucking irony. It's not about kindness, It's thinly veiled bitchiness and I think less of those sharing it, particularly the hideous version referring to the most fun people.

Someone I know has tagged 100 women in her status as being most fun. I didn't even make that list. luckily I'm of fairly robust mental health but I can understand how this shit affects people.

It annoys me because it implies that the most important thing about is our physical appearance. Just seems like an excuse to post selfies and get people to tell you how gorgeous you look.

I never get tagged in this stuff. Whilst I despise it, it nevertheless makes me feel quite overlooked and unthought of.

Many of my “friends” also post the “call me any time” / “I’d rather listen to your problems than your eulogy” shite. They’re not bad people, but certainly depressingly lacking in self-awareness.

I ignored my tags on it but some of the ones who tagged me could never ever be described as shallow, rather they’ve seen a post which rightly or wrongly makes it self out to be empowering and a good thing and joined in.