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To not get what this has to do with Caroline Flack?!

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Rainbowb · 20/02/2020 18:24

Have been getting tagged in lots of FB posts with photos of the poster pouting at the camera saying:

The news of Caroline Flack has been so devastating.... 😢

Let's do this for Caroline Flack 💔
#ChallengeAccepted 😍 #24hours
(If I didn't tag you, please don't be offended, I tried to pick people who I thought would take part).
All too often, some women find it easier to criticize each other or themselves instead of building each other up, with all the negativity going around, lets do something positive!!
Because you are beautiful!! 😘
Upload 1 picture of yourself... ONLY you.
Then tag 25 or more gorgeous women to do the same. Build yourself up instead of tearing yourself down ❤️COPY AND PASTE
If I tagged you, don't disappoint me.

How on earth does posting a pic of yourself and desperately fishing for compliments help Caroline Flack or anyone else?! The way people respond to a tragedy by creating another hashtag bandwagon is so appalling!

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resipsa · 20/02/2020 21:38

So glad I found this thread as I thought it was only me that was baffled by any connection between being told you are beautiful (after you ask) and the death of a woman with very deep demons who none of the taggers or tagged knew at all!

resipsa · 20/02/2020 21:39

And yes - the irony of the 'Be Kind' messages too. Often posted by the biggest bitches and also unrelated to suicide 🤷‍♀️.

BlueHarry · 20/02/2020 21:39

I don't really go on Facebook and haven't seen this, but I did go in the works earlier this week to discover they're selling a few items with the "just be kind" message over them. Even I (who mostly stays off social media) knew that was a Caroline Flack thing... I thought that was awful, capitalising on her death in that way, not to mention irresponsible in the message it's promoting regarding suicide.

justshutthedoor · 20/02/2020 21:41

Seen those. I'm ignoring. I did see one today that was a beauty salon offering a free nail appointment if you inboxed them
With the name of someone you thought was having a tough time. I thought that was quite nice

theSnuffster · 20/02/2020 21:42

I've been tagged in a few but I've ignored it. I think it's just doing the opposite of what people think it's achieving?! Excluding people, making them feel unloved and left out if they're not tagged, upset that their friends think they're not 'fun'. Then the pressure of 'don't disappoint me' for those who really don't have the confidence to post selfies.

Then there's all the 'be kind' bullshit. Yes we should be kind, but should that not have applied before this happened?

isabellerossignol · 20/02/2020 21:54

Even I (who mostly stays off social media) knew that was a Caroline Flack thing...

I don't think it was actually. I'm pretty sure The Works have been selling that stuff for years, and I'd definitely seen it on social media quite frequently over the past few years, long before the Caroline Flack connection.

Ladiva1971 · 20/02/2020 21:57

Was she being kind when she threw a lamp at him?.....No
She abused him, if the boot was on the other foot and he had killed himself, 90% of the population would be saying 'Good riddance to the scum bag, wife beater etc. People are trying to turn her into a martyr and she is far from it.

RightestPersonOnMN · 20/02/2020 21:59

Any excuse for a vain circle-jerk on social media.

BlueHarry · 20/02/2020 22:03

No there is a be kind social media Caroline flack related thing going around and the works had all this stuff prominently displayed. I don't think that's going to be a coincidence.

Magnificentbeast · 20/02/2020 22:05
  • "The ones I'm getting say don't be offended if you're not tagged - I tagged people I thought were fun!!" ^^* This! I don't respond to these chain messages but this bit really gets my goat!! It's loaded with judgement. "I tagged 49 people but didn't deem you 'fun enough' to take part". How is that not being critical or negative towards those who aren't included in this ridiculously shallow club?! Fuck off - some people simply choose their right to not get involved in these 'challenges'.

If you want to post a picture of yourself just post a picture.

isabellerossignol · 20/02/2020 22:10

But Caroline Flack didn't start the 'be kind' thing on social media. It's been going round for years. The media have latched onto it as if she came up with these great words of wisdom, and it was 'her' quote, but it was just one of those trite things that people have been sharing for years. Like 'my door is always open' and 'share if you hate cancer'.

Soen · 20/02/2020 22:12

I'm sure I saw a top in Primark that said "be kind" on it a week or two before CFs death. Sorry, that was in response to the person who said they had be kind stuff in the works.

I've been tagged on one of those FB things and ignored it, I fail to make the connection to CF.

BootShakin · 20/02/2020 22:28

I think it's great. It shows me who are the desperate thick fucks who so desperately needs validation. Unfriend!

Pringlesonthetable · 20/02/2020 22:42

It is sad for her family but change the details and how much sympathy would there be

'Carl Flack aged 40 takes his own life after being arrested for hitting his partner'

Would there be..'but it was only alleged', 'he was suffering from depression', 'he had MH problems' 'the media hounding were at fault'
No, there wouldn't be...there would be plenty on here and on FB spouting that it was a bloke from the dangerous class called men who couldn't face consequences of his actions.

The FB chainmails are crass at best and hypocritical. Each time I see them posted I mentally if not physically judge the poster as dense. I find it incredible that people I considered intelligent re post this crap.
I have seen plenty of these but not been tagged myself thank god. I'm tempted to create a chainmail meme myself but cant really be arsed..

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 20/02/2020 22:46

What’s really scary, is the fact that so many of the women sharing this on my Facebook are actually intelligent business women in their 50s! FFS! Some wanker uses a woman’s death just to get ‘likes’ and all the sheep follow. Kind my hairy arse! Wankers.

Ladiva1971 · 20/02/2020 22:47

Exactly that Pringlesonthetable

isabellerossignol · 20/02/2020 22:48

Would there be..'but it was only alleged', 'he was suffering from depression', 'he had MH problems'

I think there definitely would be lots of that. Men can kill their whole family and then themselves and the papers will be full of reports of what a great guy he was, and how he must have loved them so much that he just flipped, and then there's barely a mention of the rest of his family.

ItsAllTheDramaMickIJustLoveIt · 20/02/2020 22:50

YANBU it’s in really poor taste and I’m embarrassed for anyone who joins in with this pointless, mediocre attention seeking.

I’ve been tagged twice now (fuck knows why I’ve never took part in this shit before) and I’ve ignored both and will keep doing so.

needadvicethankyouplease · 20/02/2020 22:53

It's nothing to do with her at all. Whilst is very sad she felt she had to do what she did I cannot forget that at the age of 31 she dated a 17 year old child.

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Rainbowb · 20/02/2020 23:15

Right can we start a new Mumsnetty style one?

#ChallengeAccepted 😍 #24hours
(If I didn't tag you, please don't be offended, I just don’t like you #mentalhealth).
All too often, some women find it easier to get on with their lives instead of posing for selfies and seeking compliments. With all the common sense going around, lets do something vain and pretend it’s for awareness!
Upload 1 picture of yourself... ONLY you.
Then tag 250 or more gullible people to do the same. Build yourself up instead of actually doing something worthwhile like giving someone a call who might need to talk ❤️COPY AND PASTE

If I tagged you, don't disappoint me or I’ll send you a patronising meme telling you to be kind. #mentalhealth #nopressure

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Snugglepumpkin · 20/02/2020 23:15

I don't know why the media are doing a circle jerk about CF.

Shame they didn't bother to all pull out their Daily Mail sad faces over the 200+ women who were actually MURDERED last year in this country.

What about the 2019 display of 226 pairs of shoes to commemorate the number of school aged suicides in 2017 in this country?

Those non celeb murders & suicides are apparently as nothing compared to some random second rate celeb I'd never even heard of taking her own life after assaulting someone.
So, she wasn't exactly kind was she?

I find it deeply offensive for them to be acting like she is some kind of saint & in any way a loss to the world other than perhaps to her closest friends & family.

YouokHun · 20/02/2020 23:46

There was another similar thread yesterday and it seems a large number of people can see this for the lazy virtue signalling it is. The whole #bekind thing seems to be an instruction on social media from the sort of people who lap up all the tabloid stories about celebs like CF. Oh, and another thing, a ❤️ Will make bugger all difference to cancer, while we’re on the subject of pointless attention seeking.

Choosername · 20/02/2020 23:49

Get off Facebook. I’ve been off it for 2 years. It’s brilliant.

LaurieFairyCake · 20/02/2020 23:56

I had never heard of her until she died

Unfortunately can't really post that on the posts I'm tagged in, would look like a proper fucker

So I've ignored them Blush

TheoneandObi · 21/02/2020 03:07

Virtue signalling. Urgh can't bear it. Loads on my feed too. I won't play, and that doesn't make me mean

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