To wonder about spooning with best friend

[KnittingSocks]

Has anyone ever spooned their best friend (same gender) in bed? It's happened about 5 or 6 times now when staying at each other's houses when drunk and we never speak about it afterwards.

We have an intense friendship where we're in contact all day and starting to wonder if I might have some romantic feelings for her (although always identified as heterosexual before).

Just wondering if she would spoon me if she wasn't questioning feelings too? I know women can have intense friendships so not what is normal!

I'm a gay woman and my best friend is straight and we spoon - there has never been more to it but usually if we've been out or whatever and share a bed we will spoon. I have quite a few close female friends that I'd spoon who are straight and it's not weird but maybe that's just my circle of friends. I also have friends who i'd absolutely never spoon because it would be super weird!

I'm not so sure it's the spooning as much as your thoughts. The fact that you are questioning the closeness probably means that you feel different about it. What are you like together when you're not in bed?

@loftyswops988 "What are you like together when you're not in bed?" This is a really good question and I think why I'm questioning things too. We've had a few massive tiffs which are of the kind I've only ever had in serous relationships. Friends have remarked that we act different with each other to everyone else and we've been called an old married couple a few times. The fact that we spend all day chatting via text and then on the phone in the evenings too doesn't leave room to really think of much else.

Is it possible that the only difference between an intense friendship and a romantic relationship here would be whether you’re both also physically attracted to one another?

Are you attracted to her? How do you feel about women generally?

I wouldn't even share a bed with my best friend let alone spoon with her, it would feel wrong.