If you are couple do you give separate or joint presents to your children on birthdays/Christmas?

[cupidslovechild]

I was talking to my dd about her friend's birthday that had just gone and she was telling me what presents her friend had got. She said that her friend got x presents from her mum and x presents from her dad (described the different presents). I was surprised as I assumed only separated/divorced parents gave their children separate presents and I think this girl's parents are still together. When it's my childrens birthdays or Christmas we always give as a couple, i.e. (from mum and dad). Perhaps I am old fashioned though and this is normal/common to do separate gifts now?

Always as a couple. I've never known anyone who gives separately.

Always as a couple! That sounds odd!!

Separate gifts generally mean a divorced family. Never heard of separate gifts from each parent otherwise.

Only as a couple

Always joint from me and DH. However as a child (early teens) I distinctly remember getting a present from just my dad (DP were/are together) but it was just from dad, why? I'm guessing it was because it was the first present he had actually gone out and brought himself and I'm not sure my mum thought it was much of a gift. It was a front door key, me and my siblings all got one .

Me and ex still generally give joint presents to ds. Means he gets what he wants that we may not be able to afford separately and stops any competitiveness or one up man ship.

Always as a couple, but he looks as surprised as they do when on opening.

My parents didn't when I was a child and it was my mum who brought all the presents and still does.
However, my dad (they are still together) has for at least 15 years separately given me a cheque (well bank transfer now) and also gives my children an envelope with cash in. It is definately from him - although it is all joint money for them.

And yes, I think it's weird.

Joint

As a couple, we both shop though so have individual input for them.

We give them as a couple but occasionally there'll be something particularly from one or other of us. For example DS shares a hobby with DH and got a piece of equipment for them to use together. We didn't say it was just from DH but DS assumed by himself.

Always joint unless it’s a special from one or other of us, eg DH has a birthday tradition with DD.

I did have a friend growing up whose parents were very much together but always bought separately. But they also had a number of his and hers rooms in the house that the other rarely went in.

Weird to not give joint.

One might be of more interest to one parent but still from both

As a couple.

My dad always gave us one gift that he'd specifically been out and chosen himself but it still said from mum & dad.

Always joint

All joint.

As a couple to everyone except each other!

I suppose it could be that my dd's friend's parents are not together in that case as it does seem odd! The presents were very normal like Body Shop gift sets etc, not anything super unique.

Always joint although it's me who goes out choosing gifts we both pay he just hates shopping and I just love spending money

My ex always waited until we I had bought the joint presents then he would go out and spend ££££ on a gift just from him.

Bastard.

Joint usually. More so at xmas if one of us (usually dh as I do most present shopping) buys something specific then we will tell the dc 'Daddy chose that especially for you' They know though that we have jointly paid for everything, but then all money is shared in our marriage.

We do a mixture and are very much married. Big ticket items = joint. Smaller, individual gifts we buy separately. Our money is joint.

Books, music, tickets are often gifts we buy solo.

Always as a couple, but he looks as surprised as they do when on opening.

This!

Always joint. We don’t always shop together but will always write both our names on everything.

Always joint for our DCs although FIL and step-MIL buy us separate gifts.