If you are couple do you give separate or joint presents to your children on birthdays/Christmas?

[cupidslovechild]

I was talking to my dd about her friend's birthday that had just gone and she was telling me what presents her friend had got. She said that her friend got x presents from her mum and x presents from her dad (described the different presents). I was surprised as I assumed only separated/divorced parents gave their children separate presents and I think this girl's parents are still together. When it's my childrens birthdays or Christmas we always give as a couple, i.e. (from mum and dad). Perhaps I am old fashioned though and this is normal/common to do separate gifts now?

My bil's late parents always gave him separate cards, no one could remember why, but it probably stemmed from some argument at one point.

When fil was alive, he and mil would put money in a card and then say 'half is from me, half from her'

Joint but a colleague in work is the only one I have ever known to do this. Her and her husband buy separate gifts for their daughter and always have done (she is 19 now). I presume it must have been something one of their parents did as I had never heard of it before.

Always together. From when we became an official couple we sent cards and presents together

Generally joint. However if DHs work means he's away on their birthdays (and as luck has it, he's missed more than he's made), he will give a small gift before he leaves or gets back. Loks like this time it will be a Frozen 2 DVD as it is released just after DDs birthday.

My dad always used to give me one Christmas present that was just from him, I think because my mum used to buy everything else, so he wanted to do something for me that was just from him. They were my favourites, and it could literally be anything, he just picked something he thought I’d like.

My parents are together and give me separate presents at Christmas and birthdays and even separate cards!
I kind of like that my Dad gets me something he's chosen as usually its mum that finds out what I want.
My husband thinks it's weird

The main gift dh will buy and he usually pays for the food (for me to make) and cake unless I make one. I tend to buy smaller gifts. They are all put together though and given to the kids as joint presents so they wouldn't know who paid for what. For instance this year dh is going to buy dd a bike, I have bought her a helmet, elbow and knee pads, a camera, books, mermaid doll, new trainers and paw patrol toy along with some dress up clothes. We tend to do some kind of activity eg. this year we are going to the zoo and dh will pay.